The under/over/around 1 Twins thread for support, tips on how to survive and enjoy twin parenthood!

[DreamingOfPeace]

BB3: dcda non id girls Sept 2011 (plus ds)
TwelveLeggedWalk: DCDA DD and DS 14.09.11 (PFBs)
Tiggersreturn twin boys (?!) (plus ds age 5)
Wherearemyearplugs twins (plus ds)
Ceeveebee b/g twins 21.11.11, PFBs
minesapintofwine: non-id boys 02/02/2012. dcs 1&2/pfb on good days.
ClaireMarathonFeeder: Boy/girl twins born 08/02/2012, no3&4, dd1 (2001) and dd2 (2004)
rednellie nonID boys 13.03.2012 + DD 03.02.10
Lemele: id boys (plus ds)
Skitoo : DCDA Non ID Boys, 01.04.12 DC 1&2
DreamingofPeace: dcda non id boys, 4.4.12 DC 2&3 (DD Sept 2010)
beyoglu: dcda non id girls 21.4.12
Bigboobsatlast ID twin boys 30.04.12 DC #2&3 (DD Feb 2010)
Scollister mcda girls 3.5.12 plus DD age 4
Twin2makes4 mcda girls plus 2 ds,age 8 & 4

Again, sorry for mistakes, doing this from my phone!

Settle in ladies :)

Go ahead dream!

I can't create it until I have someone to add!! Just been trying.

At least one of you needs to pm me your RL name so I can find you on fb and add you, then can do the others once its up and running

Just sent you a pm Dream. Thanks for setting this up!

Thanks claire, it's started!

I might change the group to 'closed' because then I think you guys can search for it and get added, and then when we're all on it can go back to 'secret' . I've called it the Multiple Mummies Sanity Saver

Just tried to find it and am drawing a blank...can you do a link?

Actually, realised that won't work as i won't know who's 'one of us' and who to accept. So I'll keep it secret. So, pm me if you want to join, and you can always unfriend me everyone

Oh, I'll do it now then as i know you're looking red

www.facebook.com/groups/201192933357628/

for you red

doh

www.facebook.com/groups/201192933357628/

argh, still didn't manage tp get the link to say 'group' . I'm inept!

Pm you now! I am excited! thanks dream

Right, pmd you and sent a request to the group. Exciting times!

Ooh this is so exciting! I don't understand fb compliacted things other than the 'wall' and the 'liking' stuff. If I got this right I'm going to pm you my rl name dream (you are so organised!) and then search for the group and then you accept me yes? well thats what I'm going to do anyway!

red had to laugh at your 'buy it' comment! I wish! It's definately maybe not going to happen but I do love that house and track it every day. For gawds sake wish someone would buy that house so I can grieve properly!

Seems like everyone here is shattered. I have to say our nights are good but the mornings have been so ealr and dark and cold and couple that with digging the car out (well dh digging the car out) and work being a pit of hell and snow days (ok dramatic!) am tired myself. Tbh between work and babycare on days off there are no days off if you know what I mean. Not sure if babycare applies anymore either my boys turn 1 next week. Eek! Hate to say it but where has that time gone then? Hope am still welcome here though . Dt2 had his first hair cut today his fringe is so straight! Had to be done it was in his eyes and ears but he looks so different like a nerd.

Welcome baileys you sound amazing well done! I would advise you to take whatever help is offered I still do now (though feel a bit guiltier these days as I'm just doing it to catch up on sky plus).

I've sent a request - on fb more than mn and no local twin mum friends!

Hello mines, I know what you mean, my dts birthday is in teo weeks and I can't get my head round it!! especially the fact that they're still not sleeping

Is it very sad that I'm all excited about our little fb group?? It is I know , I don't care!

I am excited too clare! Can't believe your two are going to be 1 so soon!!!!

I can't believe it either claire. That means we've been chatting on here well over a year. Were you about 21 weeks pregnant when you joined?

Don't you dare leave minesa!

Oh, and how do you like my new name?! Think someone suggested it a loong time ago so I've gone for it as i get increasingly desperate for sleep as the months go by!

To do it you go to 'registration details' on 'mymumsnet' bigboobs

Wow, what a memory dream! Yes I think I was around that.
It does feel like I know you all, tis a bit weird

Bresking news tonight: dtg went to sleep with dh who also bedded dtb! It is the FIRST TIME EVER, I fon't do at least one of them!
I was, ahem, "cooking" our ikea dinner (I did make mashed potatoes!) which we just sbout managed to eat and clear away and they both woke up again! They did go back to sleep fairly easily though.
Having an extra pair of hands just makes all the difference doesn't it?
Off to sleep now, the night is still long!

it's me again

I wanted to thank you all properly for the kind words and suggestions last week when I was feeling really down , it really helps!

It's a bit but it may have had a 'bit' to do with the fact I got my period yesterday . It was a few days early so hadn't really thought of that!

Anyway, I DO have help, I have a cleaner coming in once a week, and a babysitter I call when I need to do stuff that would just not be practical with ttwo babies in tow (but doable with one grrr ), like drs appts etc... so I am not totally on my own, but those 3-4 weeks when dh was always working late and worked a weekend too really took the strain. It is not jsut the physical demands of two babies, two carseats, double buggy (you know what I mean!), but the total lack of any adult interaction. I have not made any friends here, I ahve met a nice mum, but we managed to meet up once only, she spends at lot of time at her mum's which is hours away.

There are no baby groups, no baby activities apart from swimming and baby massage, which are a no-no with twins.

I have only met ONE mum from dd1s class, and a handful from dd2's, most of them work ft. None have babies. They are all from here, and while they are friendly, they do not make any effort to take it further than the school gate.

I have even contacted an expat association, but again all seem to ahve toddlers that attend nursery and want to meet in the afternoon, and I can't because dd1&2 have homework and I can't drag them to places full of toddlers and babies...

have always been fairly independent with my other two, flying to Italy regularly and once to Dubai on my own to see a friend as dh couldn't make it. I would travel all over London by car/train/tube to see a friend no problem. Now, the idea of not having dh there for the night send me into cold sweat. I do not like feeling this helpless AT ALL. And it depresses me.

But you lot are a lifeline, and its to be able to get on line and have a rant and everyone understands where I am coming from , and this is a new week, hopefully it will be better!

Thanks

Oh Claire, I so know where you are coming from! As you know from that living overseas thread, I'm also feeling rather isolated and depressed by the lack of activities to do with babies here in France.

If only we lived in the same place!

Hello all.
A much much brighter day in the Twelve household today because - and some of you may want to look away now - they slept. Both of them. At least 11 hours, verging on 13 for DS (with just a small shout in the middle of the night that got us both up, but he went back down again before we'd managed to heat up his milk, so it doesn't really count).
I genuinely cannot remember the last time they did that, they have been ill FOREVER. Last week nearly killed me - DH was abroad, I had loads of work on, they were too ill to get both of them in nursery for any day so I always had at least one of them home, I would try and work whilst they napped but achieve very little, then I'd get them down int he evening, do masses of clearing up (meal times are SO messy at the minute), sit down to work around 8-1am, then go to bed, then they'd be up 1.30-3.30am ish, and then up for the day 5.30! Oh, and the massive dog still needed exercising and was a bit ill too. It was horrendous!
(Then DH looked after them a bit this weekend so I could do my tax return (but I still did all the meals, shared nights etc), and he said he'd been doing 'his shift'. I may have nearly murdered him.)
But last night, they ate dinner, they slept. Long may it continue!

Claire I;m sorry you're feeling so isolated. If it's any consolation I have people I feel like I should be able to see, but I haven't seen any of them for weeks with the work/ill baby juggling nightmare. Proper cabin fever kicking in here too! Where are you again?

I am LOVING the new fb group, but completley useless at working out who everyone is! So apologies if I get it wrong lots

Yay Twelve, that's fantastic! here's to your night ! I can only dream of one!

(like your name dream, by the way, I should have the same!)

Can I be nosy and ask what do you from home?
I am in Italy.

Yes Nancy, I agree if only we were closer!!

Well done twelve. Has it been repeated?a possible light at the end of our sleesleepless tunnels!

Yes good name dream. I think there are a few of us who could have something similar.!

Ooo its all very quiet. Perhaps we are all concentrating on the new fb page!
How is everyone? All ok here after a little hiccip and hospital admission for dt1. Home and on the mend now though.

Nights are still rubbish. I think I have got desensitised to havw crap they are but on one of the many occasions I was up last night I was thinking how crap they really are and that depresses me

We haven't heard from bb3 for ages. Are you out there??!

Very quiet indeed, I miss BB3 she's always very sensible! And it's to good to hear from someone ahead of you snd still alive!!

Baileys, re help, I have a cleaner, I was lucky that I found a very good one, she does what I ask her to do and better than me too
She comes once a week to do a deep clean so I csn keep on top of it.

Then I have a babysitter for when I need to go places where it would be just too complicated/long/near impossible with two babies: hospital appointments, school stuff for the older two etc.

I also use her to go and do a big shop once a week, so I can buy bigger stuff that doesn't go under pushchair. I occasionally also use her to look after the babies to spend some time with the older too.
Hope this can give you some inspiration and that your nights aren't too bad (feel like a whimp for moaning about two babies!!)