Timing of circumcision

[sunhat88]

Hi,

My baby boy is due soon and he will be circumcised. (Please no circumcision debate on this thread). Those of you who have had you baby boys circumcised... what is your opinion on the best age to have it done? Also what was your experience of their recovery?

Thank you

Macarena it's not billions, though it likely is millions.
But it's still wrong.
Thecoldnever
It's perfectly justified to criticise a religion or culture that mutilates children. We should always challenge things that are wrong.

Why all the deletions?

Answering your question from my point of view OP, my son was circumcised at 7 weeks, as the person we wanted to do the operation was not available until then. He had just started smiling, and he stopped smiling for a day and a half. There is no good time to do it and no justification - that's why it exists. Either do it because you fear social ostracism hell if you don't obey God, in which case there will likely be a defined timetable, or because of a medical reason.

I know this is gonna sound stupid, but what actually happens when it gets done?

I know it's something to do with his bits and a religious thing, but what happens? 🙈

My post wasn't offensive in any way
Hey NMHQ how about deleting people who want to cut bits off their child for no reason rather than people who disapprove of it?

I would have preferred to have it done within a few weeks of the birth, as from friend's experiences they barely notice it and recovery is simple as they are not moving. For various reasons mine were done once they were around a year. Still only a day or so of mild discomfort, you can give them calpol etc.
As circumcision is the norm in both Jewish and Muslim communities, there ARE likely to be billions of circumcised men and boys around the world. Studies of cervical cancer rates in Jewish are interesting to read. If I left my sons to make the choice themselves, they would end up having the op as an adult which would be much more difficult.

Blondhair, they remove the foreskin. Normally these days this is done by cauterization and it then falls off a few days later.

If being done for medical reasons then ask your doctor. If for religious reasons then check with the person doing it. Mine were done for religious reasons by a religious doctor. Assuming baby is of adequate weight (6lb8 is his minimum), not jaundiced and is medically fit and well he will do it on day 8. If baby doesn't meet his safety criteria he will wait till baby is well enough and then do asap after. Mine were all done between 2-3 weeks (delayed by jaundice for 2 or them and weight for the other).

Not sure why I was deleted either I've just said similar to a lot of undeleted posts.

At risk of being deleted again

Still only a day or so of mild discomfort, you can give them calpol etc

I would do anything in my power to stop my ds going through 5 minutes of discomfort, mild or otherwise. How you voluntarily put them through "a day or so" is absolutely beyond me. Smh.

My boys were done at 2 weeks and 4 weeks and their recovery was really fine. No regrets whatsoever that we had it done and despite all the tales of woe on MN I don't know anyone who has had complications (we used a practising medical doctor) or anyone as an adult who regrets having been done, and yes we've had lengthy discussions and debates about it but all, even those who have no religious allegiance and partners of another faith feel very strongly that they're happy with the decisions their parents made and that it's an intrinsic part of who they are and want their son to be. I'm a woman, I can never understand that from a male point of view but it's an interesting perspective.

I do know boys who have had complications, two cases which required hospitalisation as babies and one which required further surgery as a teen. It's a vile practice.

If it's so "barbaric" and " child abuse" why are these clinics that do circumcision still open? If it was as bad as FGM It would be illegal.

I think it's best done on babies when they are less than a month old. Where my husband comes from it's usually done when boys are around 5 or 6 with a pair of scissors which I don't like although they don't generally take it as badly as people would think.
Almost every man and boy I know is circumcised, I don't know of anyone who had complications.

If anyone came at my baby with a pair of scissors intending to cut them they'd get punched in the face.

Having seen both my babies in SCBU having lumbar punctures, cannulas, injections etc etc there's no way that they'd ever have any unnecessary procedures, especially not one that is often done by non-medical people.

But because it is religious and cultural then it's somehow seen as acceptable. Just because it isn't as severe and harmful as FGM doesn't mean that it's an acceptable thing to do.

It is acceptable though, millions of people around the world of various cultures and religions do it, the only people I've ever come across who are against it are British.

DS was 6 he kept having horrendous infections, it was absolutely awful. My poor poor boy the doctor said it feels like pissing broken glass. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy

'it is relatively rare in most of Europe, parts of southern Africa, most of Asia, Oceania and Latin America, constituting South America, Central America, the Caribbean and Mexico.' Declining in the USA too.

I do wonder whether the rates of male circumcision fall as the economic power of women improves? If I hadn't agreed to the circumcision of ds, it wouldn't have happened. Not at all saying that all women disagree with circumcision, clearly they don't, but there's a reason why mothers are not in the room while it happens.

It's not acceptable amongst any kind and civilised members of society - which is certainly not limited to Britain.

Cutting healthy body parts of 5 and 6 year olds with scissors? Awful.

I cannot understand and why and loving parent would put their child through unnecessary and painful amputations.

God made man in his own image.
If God is perfect, so is man.
So why would god want people to alter his work by chopping pieces off?

This.
It's medieval.

It's not acceptable amongst any kind and civilised members of society
You are are calling millions of people uncivilised just for having different views to you regarding a little piece of skin

Macarena my brothers were both circumcised as babies. They are in their 40s now and have not forgiven our parents for it.

Your son may feel the same once he is old enough to express a view.