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Before I start I am not hinting for foodparcels, loans or any charity as I am a proud woman but I think my family is about to go under. I can't take much more and have been crying with stress for an hour now.

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twinsetandpearls · 10/11/2008 17:16

As you know we have just moved and coud not sel our house.

We made plans to move before the credit crunch and we were desperate to move.

We agreed to rent the house to my sister and her friend for just under the mortgage, as they agreed to move out if we got a sale and we knew the house would stay nice for any viewings.

a fortnight after siging agreements the other tenant buggered off owing us lots of money ( and my family) My sister could not afford the full rent ( which was subsidised by us so we agreed that she could pay her third ( her house mate had a son so they used two rooms and she used one) This meant we were subisidising her by almost £500 a month. She knew we coud not sustain this and oromised to look for a flatmate, she has not and four months later we are £500 a month down. Our savings have gone on a deposit for our rental house down here and moving costs. We are now sinking.

We should take this girl to court for the money she owes us but we don;t have the momney to pay for a solicitor.

Then to top it all I have had some money taken from my bank and the bank are investigating but seem to be dragging their feet. I have given them a crime number which will speed it up, hopefully.

To top it all our car died and we needed to replace it as once a month my dp has to go back up to Lancashire. So spent his money just before my bank was drained.

Dp gets paid on Friday and until then we have no money. We just about have food. A friend drives me into work and I owe her petrol money, she is now skint so we may not even be able to get into work from Wednesday. We are now one month behind with the council tax as well. My anti depressants ran out last week and I can't afford my new prescription which is probably making things feel much worse than they are.

We are going to have to completely cancel Christmas this year, we were going to visit family and now dd is heartbroken as she can't see her dad, extended family or the friends she left behind over Christmas.

I have phoned the estate agents who are selling the house and they will rent it out but they have said because the rental market is saturated the rent will not cover the mortgage. But we will be subsidising at £100 rather than £500 a month. I know this is going to cause a huge family row when I have to ask my sister to leave the house and I am dreading it.

I know everyone is going to pile in and say you shouldn;t have moved but when we made plans the credit crunch was not big news so we thought, and so did the estate agent ( although they would say that that we would sell). When it became clear that we could not sell I even tried staying in my old job but as my school wa bankrupt they would not give me my job back once my notice had gone in.

I don't even know why I am posting this, I guess I just need to offload.

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Lauriefairycake · 10/11/2008 17:18

bloody hell twinset, what a pile of shite on your head

goingslowlyroundthebend · 10/11/2008 17:18

You poor poor thing. Wish there was something we could do to help.xxxx

Lauriefairycake · 10/11/2008 17:19

is there no one in your family who can lend you money if you swallow your pride?

glitterfairy · 10/11/2008 17:19

Oh twinset that is awful I really feel for you and am sending you big ^^huuuuuuuug^^^^

CharleeInChains · 10/11/2008 17:19

Oh sweetheart, i am afraid i have no constructive advice but i just wanted to let you know i was reading your post and thinking of you.

Money can be a real sh*t it can either make you or break you.

I hope tings start to improve somehow soon for you.

Mercy · 10/11/2008 17:22

I wish I had some useful advice for you.

twinsetandpearls · 10/11/2008 17:23

My mum may be able to, but she has just taken a huge paycut as she is not well. It is just papering over the cracks though and we will struggle to pay it back

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FiveGoMadInDorset · 10/11/2008 17:23

Twinset, I will be over tomorrow at break time with at least the money for your AD's and some petrol money, I won't take no and will leave it at reception. Have been where you are and we were helped hugely by one particular friend of DH's and now we are able to help others.

piratecat · 10/11/2008 17:24

how soon can you 'get' (soory but hey) your sister out and start getting full rent.
I don't know your moving situation, did you move away from the area of your home?

Simplysally · 10/11/2008 17:24

I would suggest that you make an appt with CAB to discuss this and see what help you're eligible for or indeed any practicable steps you can take to maximise your income.

Re asking your sister to leave, if she kicks off, show her this thread as she may not realise the enormity of your problems. is she eligible for HB which would save you some money?

needmorecoffee · 10/11/2008 17:24

i know you didnt want antyhing but what AD's you on? i got citalopram sitting about.

piratecat · 10/11/2008 17:26

yes you need your ad's. i have some here i could send, i know it's not right to do that, but if they were the same ones i could send them. They are important as hell.

edam · 10/11/2008 17:26

Oh life is really dealing you a shitty hand atm, so sorry. Sally's right, might be helpful to contact CAB.

geordieminx · 10/11/2008 17:26

Is there any way in which we could help?

twinsetandpearls · 10/11/2008 17:26

Fivegomad that is very kind but I am saying no because if I take help I will worry about saying things on here again as I do not want to feel like I am asking.

Do not think I do not appreciate what a kind offer that was though.

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piratecat · 10/11/2008 17:27

i have prozac, just a blister pack, but enough for 2 weeks.

lulumama · 10/11/2008 17:27

i will send you a postal order for £10 if you CAT me.

please see CAB.

can you use small claims court for this woman? and do it yourself?

what a load of absolute shit.

if your sis has done nothing about fiunding a flatmate in four months you owe her nothing, and you must not feel bad

so sorry.

twinsetandpearls · 10/11/2008 17:27

You are helping just be listening as it is calming me down and saves me ranting.

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lulumama · 10/11/2008 17:28

TSAP. i think you are well enough known and liked and cared for here, that anything that is offered, is done so with willingness and with love. you have come through so much, and you deserve a break

twinsetandpearls · 10/11/2008 17:29

lulu that is kind but please understand I can't take it.

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Simplysally · 10/11/2008 17:29

I was going to add, if you have a spare bedroom, it might be worth seeing if you can put someone in the flat yourself? If you have a university or FE College nearby it might be worth registering with the SU as a landlord. You may have to issue a new tenancy agreement but it might be worth it.

chopchopbusybusy · 10/11/2008 17:30

twinset, I really think you should accept fivegomad's offer. The ADs are important and I think things may well look better if you can resume these.

If the money has been taken from your account should the bank not be offering an (interest free)overdraft facility for said amount while they investigate.

misdee · 10/11/2008 17:30

TSAP, how often do you get your script (am i right in thinking you get AD's regularly as an ongoing situation?) would it be worth it, in the long run to get an annual health costs perscription forms (HC11??) i know its not possible atm, as you say you have no cash, but it could save you money in the long run and means you can always get your scripts?

lulumama · 10/11/2008 17:31

i understand honey, but you are worth it. hate to think of you and yours hungry or needing something and going without . chin up ,chuck

twinsetandpearls · 10/11/2008 17:31

My sister does know what shit we are in, when she told us back in August she knew that we could not afford to keep the situation going.

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