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I'm dying to grass up the benefit cheats living next to me but..

301 replies

ssd · 20/09/2008 20:47

..dh won't let me as they have 3 kids and he feels its unfair on the kids

they are the laziest young couple I've ever met, she told me she can't afford to work as she is getting so much paid for her by claiming to be a single mum, but her partner (kids dad) work on the side so they have that money coming in too

they seem to spend all their money on takeaway deliveries, about 3 a week, but sod all on their kids who come chapping my door every day trying to get in to play with our toys, and probably for a feed as they get their takeaways about half nine at night

we both work here, I'm part time on minimum wage and she actually told me what she "clears" a month and with income support, job seekers and rent paid she's better off than us bith working

I'm heartily sick of seeing them swanning about, she always seems to have new clothes and their car is much better than ours, her mu mtakes the kids at weekends so they can go out and party, she told me they can afford to go out every Sat and they lie in bed all Sunday till the kids are delivered back to them

I'm so bitter, I'm sick of the injustice

should I go ahead and tell social services and let dh go mad or just let them live their dishonest life and shut up? I really don't know what to do

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Original poster
ssd · 20/09/2008 20:53

no one?

OP posts:
Beauregard · 20/09/2008 21:00

Shop em

fedupandisolated · 20/09/2008 21:02

This is difficult. She's actually not living on benefits but from the extra her OH brings in from undeclared work.

The DSS are getting wise to alot of these families claiming one thing but doing another - like your neighbour saying she's a single parent when actually she isn't.

OTOH it IS difficult for a family to get off benefits when rent,council tax and everything else is being paid for them - you need to get a decent salary to earn enough for all that.

She's being dishonest though - at the end of the day you can make an anonymous call if it bothers you that much. Your DH doesn't need to know it's you. There are so many checks now that someone is going to catch up with them sooner or later anyway.

FAQ · 20/09/2008 21:05

shop 'em - there's enough of us struggling to get by on the benefits we are actually entitled to - without people like her giving us all a bad name.

MadameCastafiore · 20/09/2008 21:06

Tell me her details and i'll shop her for you.

expatinscotland · 20/09/2008 21:07

shop them.

LittlePushka · 20/09/2008 21:07

Dishonesty is dshonesty. It makes no difference whether someone takes something to which they are not entitled from you or from the state,...it is one and the same.

I would complain if someone theived from my pocket and I would complain if they thieved from the state.

Not paying tax or claiming benefit that is not due is thieving.

Agree with Pelvic Floor No More...shop em.

Blondie79 · 20/09/2008 21:08

I would definitely shop them. I agree with FAQ.

HeinzSight · 20/09/2008 21:08

another shop them here

Remotew · 20/09/2008 21:13

You won't have to give your name. There is so much benefit fraud and this is a classic. Single mum with secret partner living with them. Him often working Cash in Hand so as not to be on the system with the adddress etc. Often the woman is being used by the partner for an easy life. Not the best of relationships when this is the case.

singyswife · 20/09/2008 21:14

Shop them. Actually I say that but I am in a similar situation with someone near me. They have 2 kids neither of them work (sorry they work long enough to collect the bonuses being offered to them to work then quit). He has done this 3 times in the last year. Children are NEVER over the door. their dd only has a life now because she goes to nursery. Both smoke and they have a car which is used to go to the shops for fags or to asda for the shopping. I would love to shop them as they have even been assessed for disability (there is nothing wrong with either of them) as they found out you could claim more on this. Fortunetly they were turned down. They are the laziest people I have came accross in my whole life and they make me so angry. Sorry rant over.

ScottishMummy · 20/09/2008 21:15

they give other claimants a bad name.you work to earn less than her that's so wrong.tell dss

FAQ · 20/09/2008 21:15
Stinkyfeet · 20/09/2008 21:17

Report them to DWP - give as much information as possible about the work he does, such as where he works, what time he leaves/returns, how many hours he does, how he gets to work, does he wear a uniform/suit etc.

You can remain totally anonymous and they'll take it from there

pippylongstockings · 20/09/2008 21:19

another shop them here....

A friend of mine is all hippy dippy very right on. But a friend of her's was living in rented home with 2 kids and claiming everything under the sun when her parther was actually a v.well paid IT consultant. She shopped them - suprised me but a fraud is fraud.

beanieb · 20/09/2008 21:21

Jealouosy is such an unatractive trait.

unfair on the kids....

you decide.

singyswife · 20/09/2008 21:21

The thing about the couple near me is they wouldnt care if the were shopped because they know that legally they cannot be thrown out of their house, they cannot be cut off gas and electrci wise and they have to have a minimum to live on because they have young children. They really are sooo Fecking lazy and they make me soooo fecking mad.

beanieb · 20/09/2008 21:24

Are people's lives SOOOOO boring that they have to obsess about other people's financial situation?

FAQ · 20/09/2008 21:25

beanie - I don't think wondering whether to shop someone for FRAUD is obsessing about their financial situation

FAQ · 20/09/2008 21:27

I'm pretty sure that if the people in question were living honestly on their benefits the OP wouldn't be starting this post......

singyswife · 20/09/2008 21:28

It is not that we are obsessing about other peoples financial situation but when you and your dh go out every day and slog and give your kids the best life you can with what you have and you have people like that who take the piss, dont work and have a better bloody life than you it angers you and I think we have every right to be angry.

ScottishMummy · 20/09/2008 21:32

beanie,the op works hard to be financially worse off than some chancer?

that is everyone business

as it gives legitimate claimants a harder time, as some smart arse will always pipe up "oh i know someone on benefit with a big telly.lots dosh...cant be that poor"

Remotew · 20/09/2008 21:33

And its theft. Simple as. We don't do it, we work or claim what we are entitled to.

It's not against the kids at all. After all the state provides when needed but to take the piss this way is probably detremental to the kids anyway. e.g the takeaways at 9.00 pm. Its all an easy life for the adults.

roquefort · 20/09/2008 21:36

Fraud is fraud - shop them. On a different note - are you getting all the working tax credits that you should be?

Nat1H · 20/09/2008 21:46

Shop them. Don't tell your husband it was you!!