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Not going to Uni - Claim UC?

102 replies

wherehaveallthegoodfolkgone · 21/06/2026 21:48

Hello,
DD is turning 19 this year and has just finished A levels. Decided not to go to uni - she was unwell during her college years and wants to spend time nurturing herself and multiple ways and I support her decision.
She has a tiny PT job that pays her £30 a week and she gets £80 a month from me and same from her dad (I'm single) .

It'll be about 6 months before she applies for jobs - meanwhile can she claim some income support or UC?
Would it hinder her chances of finding work later?
How does she go about it?
Thanks for any advice

OP posts:
Specialneedsnightmare · 22/06/2026 11:34

Settlersa · 22/06/2026 11:28

Most people do this and don’t expect the taxpayers to fund it. She should use savings or family money for this gap 6 months like others do for this

I don't disagree with you but it's possible op and her daughter aren't really aware what benefits are for. And to be fair, she may well have got income support if it still existed. Either way, it could have been pointed out in a more compassionate way. A few people did but most on here were nasty and made fun of the word 'nurture' while disregarding what op said about her daughters ill health. No need for that, especially without having all the facts.

Bromptotoo · 22/06/2026 11:46

BillieWiper · 22/06/2026 11:31

I actually don't know now. When I was young you could sign on at 17, which I did for a few months til I got ft work.

But now it's not as easy. He should definitely speak to someone at UC/DWP and try and claim if he's a job seeker, but even if he can it's not much money.

Minimum age for UC is normally 18 but there are a few exceptions:

https://www.legislation.gov.uk/uksi/2013/376/regulation/8

The Universal Credit Regulations 2013

These Regulations contain provisions in relation to universal credit under Part 1 of the Welfare Reform Act 2012 (c.5) (“the Act”). They also include provision for a benefit cap under section 96 of the Act.

https://www.legislation.gov.uk/uksi/2013/376/regulation/8

Soontobe60 · 22/06/2026 11:53

wherehaveallthegoodfolkgone · 22/06/2026 00:00

God I have really wound everyone up with completely the wrong word "nurture"
I don't want to go into her diagnosis as there are friends I know in real life who know the circumstances but suffice to say that she ended up in hospital with her illness that's caused some long term damage.

I'm very grateful for the responses highlighting the stress factor involved in claiming.
Not read all the messages because I see the nasty lot are out in full force , totally vile women -full of rage and judgement -so I'm signing off

Edited

If she is unwell, she can put in a claim for ESA.

yellowpinksky · 22/06/2026 11:56

Jeez I would love nurture days!! Instead with a severe mental health condition, 3 prolapsed discs, fibro and hyper mobility syndrome, I have to work full time.

BillieWiper · 22/06/2026 12:33

Bromptotoo · 22/06/2026 11:46

Minimum age for UC is normally 18 but there are a few exceptions:

https://www.legislation.gov.uk/uksi/2013/376/regulation/8

Thank you. That's useful to know.

Isobel201 · 22/06/2026 12:45

wherehaveallthegoodfolkgone · 22/06/2026 00:00

God I have really wound everyone up with completely the wrong word "nurture"
I don't want to go into her diagnosis as there are friends I know in real life who know the circumstances but suffice to say that she ended up in hospital with her illness that's caused some long term damage.

I'm very grateful for the responses highlighting the stress factor involved in claiming.
Not read all the messages because I see the nasty lot are out in full force , totally vile women -full of rage and judgement -so I'm signing off

Edited

if she has long term problems, she could look into claiming PIP if you think she could be eligible for that? People can work alongside claiming PIP so she could top up her income with that?

RubyPowderPuff · 22/06/2026 12:49

She should nature her self respect, future financial stability and good mental health by finding a job ASAP.

Nanda66 · 22/06/2026 12:52

We all want to spend time nurturing ourselves. Unfortunately most of us have to go to work. This can’t possibly be real?

KilkennyCats · 22/06/2026 12:55

RubyPowderPuff · 22/06/2026 12:49

She should nature her self respect, future financial stability and good mental health by finding a job ASAP.

This.
The notion of suggesting benefits as a valid lifestyle in order to nurture herself is frankly appalling.

Stella1366 · 22/06/2026 12:59

SqueakyFromme · 21/06/2026 22:14

OP says her daughter had been unwell.

So she's either well and capable of looking for a job or unwell and incapable as to which point she should look at sickness benefits.

Claiming because she wants to " nurture" herself just takes the biscuit.

TomClarkson · 22/06/2026 13:18

Soontobe60 · 22/06/2026 11:53

If she is unwell, she can put in a claim for ESA.

No she can’t.

TallulahBetty · 22/06/2026 13:22

Soontobe60 · 22/06/2026 11:53

If she is unwell, she can put in a claim for ESA.

No she cannot. She does not have NI credits.

TallulahBetty · 22/06/2026 13:23

Can she not get a FT job and nurture herself in the evenings and weekends, like we all have to do, illness or not?

TallulahBetty · 22/06/2026 13:24

ReluctantSwimMum · 21/06/2026 22:37

I don't really understand the ire. The 19yo will only get £338 per month on UC, nothing else. There will be regular meetings with someone who will check she's improving her CV and applying for jobs/more hours of work. Could be positive for her.

Add it to the million other YP out of work, that's £338 MILLION of our money being given to 'nurture' them. Every. Single. Month.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 22/06/2026 13:24

Its extremely nurturing to work, get paid and be self sufficient. Builds resilience too.

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 22/06/2026 13:30

From other threads it appears the medical condition is binge eating (probably not helped by having a mother obsessing over her daughter's double chin from age 17).

runnermum3 · 22/06/2026 13:48

I would like some time to nurture myself too but unfortunately that’s not realistic. Tell her to get a job. Why should we work to pay someone else’s UC?

KilkennyCats · 22/06/2026 14:19

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 22/06/2026 13:30

From other threads it appears the medical condition is binge eating (probably not helped by having a mother obsessing over her daughter's double chin from age 17).

That’s not a medical condition, surely?!
The mind boggles as to what nurturing herself looks like in this context.
Stop advising what bloody benefits this kid needs to apply for, people. FFS!

MusterStrength · 22/06/2026 14:25

She should apply for UC / job seekers allowance, because this means that her National Insurance contributions will be psid towards her state pension & other benefits.

If you keep paying her.
Her full National Insurance contributions will not be paid
This is important

If she is unable to work FT, she will need fit notes from GP & after a ehile she may move to LWCRA

Wasthatwrong · 22/06/2026 15:45

KilkennyCats · 22/06/2026 14:19

That’s not a medical condition, surely?!
The mind boggles as to what nurturing herself looks like in this context.
Stop advising what bloody benefits this kid needs to apply for, people. FFS!

Binge Eating Disorder is a serious medical condition but I’m not sure that it will help her to have no focus to her life especially as a previous thread said that she was very ambitious and determined to be a lawyer.
Is she still having MH treatment OP as it would be worth checking with the professionals involved with her care for their opinion about her plans for the next six months?

canuckup · 22/06/2026 16:44

No. She can temp in a factory till she comes to her senses.

TomClarkson · 22/06/2026 17:06

MusterStrength · 22/06/2026 14:25

She should apply for UC / job seekers allowance, because this means that her National Insurance contributions will be psid towards her state pension & other benefits.

If you keep paying her.
Her full National Insurance contributions will not be paid
This is important

If she is unable to work FT, she will need fit notes from GP & after a ehile she may move to LWCRA

She should get a job if she wants her NI covered. The intent is to look for a job in 6 months so it doesn’t sound like the binge eating disorder is going to prevent work therefore no need to apply for LWCRA

XenoBitch · 23/06/2026 01:23

Kerbie678 · 22/06/2026 07:01

So if your daughter does end up applying for UC, will she tell them that she receives other income from yourself and her dad?

Will she tell them the income she receives from her part time job? (The job sounds like a cash in hand arrangement to me)

Somehow, I imagine she'll accidently on purpose fail to mention she's getting income from other sources, and you should be encouraging her to get out there and work, and not to rely on everyone else paying for your daughter to sit back and relax.

Money from family is not counted as income when you claim UC.
They only care if you whatever you receive puts you over £6k.

She would have to declare the income from her job, yes.

ViridianSkies · 23/06/2026 08:50

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I don’t think OP’s DD can claim this… much as she’d probably like to