money help from bf (and dating while on uc)

[theworldisdoomed]

is help from a boyfriend allowed ? My rent isn’t fully covered and, including bills, I’m left with about an £800 shortfall. He doesn’t live with me — we’re not at that stage, and maybe won’t be until I’m back in work. It’s obviously difficult to start a relationship while on benefits, so I just want to understand what support is allowed.
and maybe hear some dating advice
thank you

Couples have to make a joint claim if they share a household. I'm not sure where absurd comes into it. As you aren't yet living together. However, regular subsidy will be noticed.

How you are going to take the money off him in secret....??? Meeting out of town, in woods and only in cash?? - Be careful.....why not see how the relationship goes and start living together and take it from there financially

No, sorry. I'm a benefits specialist. The DWP does not demand you make a joint claim if you do not share a household and both have one of your own. That's nonsense. What is not nonsense is at some point these regular transfers will be queried.

But if he wants to live with her and help her, then surely they can move in somewhere together and blend finances or whatever, he pays, she looks for work

If I was you OP, I would have a chat with him again what he means, when he said he wants to help me financially

OP, I moved in with my boyfriend after just only 1 month. I needed help and he was happy to offer it. He brought me to his mother on the second month and next year we married. This has been 15 years ago

Yes they can do that and it'll be a joint claim. My post that you quoted was specifically that if they do not live together and have separate households they do not have to make a joint claim. It was very clear. Or make no claim if they don't qualify jointly

Is he offering you £800 pm to wash his socks?

Why wouldn’t couples have to make a joint claim? 🤷‍♀️

May you answer my questions OP? If you are still on here

we may consider moving together.
Firstly I still have 6 months on the tenancy.
800f a month is not being fully responsible for me financially and/or making a joint claim.
Which would be a reality, and (as someone asked) if we break up I dont end up in homeless shelter.

I did not pursue PIP claim, but I was encouraged by my work coach. I am doing it now.

I did not want to claim more benefits, but now it seems I made a big mistake.
If DWP wants to question money gifts (while I did not use system to the full extent), I will just do it now.

Moving to a cheaper flat - the search will take a while.

So… onto the PIP bandwagon….

well, if dwp wants to question money gifts above 400f a month, when I am short 800f....
im new to the system, i did not know I could/should apply for council tax reduction.

cash?!

They say they not interested how you are going to cover the shortfall. My mum made transfers direct to my account, but if they get flagged by dwp....

When is good then? What is the timeframe? Some get pregnant after 6 weeks of dating.

If this were reversed, and you came on to say your boyfriend of four months, who you don’t live with, was asking for several hundred pounds a month to help support them, the advice would be to run. Definite red flag. There’s one thing to pay for dates, cinema tickets , takeaways etc, ie normal dating expenditure, and another to subsidise their living costs to the tune of several hundred a month.

That where 'non ugly' comes in...

So where does love come into this transactional relationship? If I were him I would probably run.

What currency are you talking about? Why are you saying 800f ??

Some “work coach” that is !

@theworldisdoomed

Confused. What do you mean?

So only good looking people get money from their new partners?
Non-ugly by whose definition?

Are you a sugar baby? 😂

I wondered this. What currency is f?

Fucks?

😂