money help from bf (and dating while on uc)

[theworldisdoomed]

is help from a boyfriend allowed ? My rent isn’t fully covered and, including bills, I’m left with about an £800 shortfall. He doesn’t live with me — we’re not at that stage, and maybe won’t be until I’m back in work. It’s obviously difficult to start a relationship while on benefits, so I just want to understand what support is allowed.
and maybe hear some dating advice
thank you

Geez. not asking for housing tips, and you talk bs. in zone 4 uc is lower so its will be short.
Qustion is about UC and transfers. Very good as DWP wants to consider a couple for joint claim when he pays for shopping and i wash his socks. NOONE SEEMS TO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THAT AND EVEN SAY THAT NOT MAKING THE CLAIM TOGETHER IS FRAUD.

there is a tenancy agreement. also i dont know anyone able to rent on UC.

Op universal credit help you with housing costs. If you have that much of a shortfall every month you need to work out where your money is going. Or move to a cheaper area/etc

That means I need adjustments for interviews/or just simply employers dont like my ticks etc., not attending social events, and doing smal talk etc.

Geez. not asking for housing tips, and you talk bs. in zone 4 uc is lower so its will be short.
Qustion is about UC and transfers. Very good as DWP wants to consider a couple for joint claim when he pays for shopping and i wash his socks. NOONE SEEMS TO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THAT AND EVEN SAY THAT NOT MAKING THE CLAIM TOGETHER IS FRAUD.

No, you can't ask a boyfriend who doesn't live with you for £800 every month. Well, you could. But he should say no. It's completely unsustainable.

there is a tenancy agreement. also i dont know anyone able to rent on UC.

there is a tenancy agreement. fixed term. also i dont know anyone able to rent on UC.

there is a tenancy agreement. fixed term.
moving to cheaper area means lower UC allowance (=shortfall again), also i dont know anyone able to rent on UC.
its not the question here. its about transfers of over 1k from family, friends or bf. its DWP that wants to make couples dependant. Apparently if he pays for restaurants its ok but shopping its not ok.

I consider fetish feet pics as a way of getting extra money.

Sounds like an arrangement not a relationship.

Has he offered to pay the money? How long have you been together?

Sorry, so you’re expecting to sponge of your boyfriend?

In short no he’s not able to give you regular money to help cover your bills, it’d be income for UC purposes.

This is just getting weirder and weirder....😂😂do you have to declare any money received from the foot fetish pictures,?? 😵‍💫🤭

In the centre of London, ie the most expensive place to live in the UK?!? I would hope they can’t!! Living in the middle of London is a massive luxury and privilege only affordable to a tiny percentage of the population. You will have to move further out rather than scrounging.

Oh and my dating advise is don’t sponge off a man generally, but especially when you don’t even feel ready to live with him. It makes you vulnerable and the relationship unsustainable long term

well, company went bankrupt, over a year ago. just few months after renewing the lease. i did not need new credit check.
it took a while to get redundancy money.
Before UC i had a friend staying and paying for few months.
When on UC you cant really do it.
I cant mentally do both: look for job and new place.
I have ASD/ADHD/ on strong med for depression and a slipped disc. (6 months in bed). Also a cat.
Also Im not ugly, i have education but no social skills, and do badly at interviews.

Why have 2 degrees of you are not able to work? I assume you won’t ever pay your student loans?

I would be reluctant to mix money in a new relationship it's can cause resentment. I would look into applying for any jobs you can. Bar work, retail or care work.

Imagine if you hadn't of met your partner what would you do? I recently dated a guy that had terrible money management amongst other issues and tbh it's just not a good way to start!

I wouldn't imagine your new boyfriend would want to start contributing to the rent of a property he quite rightly doesn't reside in.

But you are allowed to receive gifts from friends, family etc. as long as you've below £6k if you don't want any reductions, then if you've £16k the UC claim will be cancelled. Or if you don't tell them you could face fraud proceedings.

If his contribution makes it look like he's living with you, which paying towards rent does, then that's where your award could be potentially at risk.

Look for a new place to live now whilst you still have some savings to afford a rental deposit, £800 a month shortfall isn’t sustainable. You will obviously have to move out of London but needs must.

so if you can’t do both Look for cheaper place and job why not turn to your own family. Do not blame UC shortfall for this you have a choice to move out of an expensive flat. As for foot fetish your comment shows you clearly not using your education if that and sponging off a bloke you happen to date is your solution.

Yes. 4 months.
Instead of going on holidays, or restaurants. He gets the food, I get cutlery and plates. etc.
He has his own place.

Has he actually offered to pay £800 a month?

I move money from my credit card, to cover it. I borrowed from mum as well.
And there is a tenancy agreement. fixed term. moving out means im still liable for rent.