Hi Jessicasmummy
Sounds like you had a good night! Bet it felt nice to be out.
BTW, just read through this thread. Has everything worked out with DH ex?
I can understand your frustration. Not sure if has been resolved, but my sis had the same kind of experience.
When she was young, she took out a store card, and her boyfriend spend a lot of money on it getting clothes. She also had two mobile phones, one was his, and he ran up a lot of calls about it. They split up, and my sister had to pay everything back.
She couldn't claim money from him, as in the courts eyes, everything was in her name. Even though he'd spent the money.
Six years down the line, she was finally free of the debt, though this was after going to court for claims (or rather being taken to court!) and struggling to get a mortgage due to debt.
So IMO your DH is not responsible for making a penny payment. My DH&I have a joint account, but if he took out a loan to clear an overdraft on it, the loan would still be his responsibility to pay.
Stop making any more payments. If she wants the money that much, she'll go to solicitors and be told to GROW UP. She does not have a leg to stand on.
If you DH did not sign any paperwork, he does not have to give her a penny.
As for you MIL. I totally sympathise. I have two MIL's as DH is blessed with a stepmum. Oddly, I get on with his stepmum really well!
I struggle to even be in the same room as his mum. DH brother is a bit of a tearaway (though older than DH) and nobody in the family liked his girlfriend. Then they had a baby, and everybody forgot he'd treated people like dirt.
During the worst part of arguments, BIL fell out with FIL because the pram he'd brought for GS was not brand new. BIL refused to talk to FIL for about eight months. Resulted in loads of agony, but it has all been forgiven for sake of BIL baby.
We haven't spoken them in nearly a year after all the shocking stuff they did at our wedding. I'm talking about stealing, and smoking pot, and offering to sell pot. And being late for the ceromony. Not once was there an apology, and we have incurred a lot of flack from MIL about it. She thinks we should apologise to him!
Never mind! I do get the comment about MIL's being great while you're only the girlfriend!
During the run up to the wedding, I had huge arguments with DH sis, and even now I get mad about it.
Have told DH that when we do have kids, I don't want all the people that have ignored us for the past year or so to pop up. I would never use my child in that manner, and wont tolerate people doing it either.
Hope you hangover fades!!!!!