Should I pay more than my boyfriend

[Gina2919]

Hi guys I really need your help and advice.

I havre recently moved in with my partner and our children. I have a 21 year old him a 13 year old.
My son has been paying me board for the last 2 years...£200 but half of that is for his phone bill and a savings account I put away for him for a deposit for a house when he is ready. My partner gets money for his son about £87 child benefit and whatever he gets from the child's mother, I don't get involved as he doesn't want me too. Anyways as I see it we both have a child each so the bills should be split 50/50... he is now saying that I should pay £200 more than him as I get the money off my son...which I don't think is right...that arrangement is with my son and why should he pay less than me...both our children live with us, his goes to his mum's a few nights a week but that doesn't seem fair...can I add he earns way more than me as works self-employed and only declare earning £12k a year when he earns £35k... he only works 4 hours a days most days...I'm out the house 10 hours a day working full time paying full tax and NI
Is it right that he should pay less because my son is an adult?
He goes on about food...I eat small portion and don't eat crap and we have to but loads of junk food for his child as he doesn't eat normal meals...which I pay half off...my partner also eats twice as much as me so why should I pay more regardless. The money my son gives me all goes back on him for stuff he needs that's I normally buy...and we should pay 50/50 right ?

No I don't know why you moved in with him in the first place,sounds like a right charmer.
You don't even get £200.
I would be looking to move out again and say goodbye. I can't stand tight men. It's right off putting. X

This is a good point- what's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander. In the same way that you will be liable for all the rent if he doesn't pay with no come back on him, the reverse is true that if you move out he will be liable.

I also wonder if his control and abuse and your fear of his potential violence is sufficient to involve the police and have him removed from the home.

Even if he let's you keep the £200 you're still paying more. He earns way more, is in the house more and eats more. He's not a caring and loving man and isn't happy providing for you. He cheats his child's mother, the tax man ie us and you. It's his nature. Get evidence and report him.

Tax people can investigate cash in hand.

Don’t understand why you moved in with him. You don’t seem to like each other very much.