Not earning and Children leaving home

[FreshJuice]

I dont earn and spend my time doing photography and very occasionally sell a piece of work but it wouldn't cover much. My DH earns a very good salary, enjoys his work yet also works hard: That said the pandemic hit hard.
Financially we are comfortable (Nice meals, holidays etc ) although we do have a large mortgage. Rightly or wrongly, I have left all financial responsibilities to him and he pays me an allowance, along with paying for for food, school fees, pensions and all bills. I in turn run the house and have created a lovely family. As the children are slowly growing up, 2 at Uni 1 at A levels, is there a pattern for the next part of life and wondering what other families do ? I have never needed to question it but as we approach our 50s I was wondering what might be the norm? I do think we need to talk about money so we can plan, but before I do so any pointers would help. Thanks for any advice.

more about the OP getting a job to gain some financial independence and contribute to her own spending habits

And, very importantly, OP's high flying DH being prepared to pick up his share of the household / family tasks, or agree that they should be outsourced to cleaners etc.

Otherwise, OP finds herself in a role where she can never match his earnings and expected to continue to pick up all the household / family stuff.

And, very importantly, OP's high flying DH being prepared to pick up his share of the household / family tasks, or agree that they should be outsourced to cleaners etc.
The children are grown up and I’m fairly certain the OP can afford a cleaner. Her husband doesn’t sound unreasonable at all with spending money where it’s needed or desired.

@FinallyHere

more about the OP getting a job to gain some financial independence and contribute to her own spending habits

And, very importantly, OP's high flying DH being prepared to pick up his share of the household / family tasks, or agree that they should be outsourced to cleaners etc.

Otherwise, OP finds herself in a role where she can never match his earnings and expected to continue to pick up all the household / family stuff.

OP has confirmed her DH contributes domestically 'more than most', so she's finding herself with an empty nest, a high earning, domestically engaged husband but not enough allowance to pursue her activities.

What a life!