Family fallout over money

[moneymatters123]

If you came into money would you share with your brother and sister?

It depends. How did you get this money?

Family inheritance

Depends on what their financial situation was like and if they needed it and also how much I received. I mean if I won the Lotto I might share.

If I came into money now. I probably wouldn’t. Sounds harsh but I would either save it or spend it on much needed home improvements.

Family inheritance? I assume the person you inherited it from wasn’t related to your brother or sister else they would get a share to? If that’s the case then no I probably wouldn’t share it. Maybe I’m mean 🤦‍♀️

Inherited from who? Why didn’t they get any?

I wouldn't share. But I'm not close to my siblings. DH is close to his and says he wouldn't either but if it was a large inheritance we would probably take in laws away for the wknd or out for a nice meal. We're the only ones with kids

If I inherited some money to dh and I from a member of my family then no I wouldn't expect him to share that with his siblings.

We all have loans and credit cards.

Sister cannot work due to her mental health. She is currently appealing the PIP decision. Her husband works but they have more outgoings due to loans they have needed in the past.

Brother has a few loans but he and his wife have well paid jobs.

The person who has inherited also has a good job and so does the partner.

If you got £70,00 but was thinking of leaving your partner would you keep it all to yourself?

Yes the person is related to all involved however the others relationship wasn't as close.

The sister had children. The others don't. Sorry I'm trying to be vague but I can't explain it without giving the facts.

Has*

Well is the person who died been a crappy parent/relative and been responsible for some of the issues they've had?

I don’t think anyone can give you a meaningful answer without some more details

Oh, I didn’t scroll up and missed your post with more details! Sorry.

Is it £70, £700 or £7000 you’re talking about?

Not abusive or responsible no. He's the grandfather.

Can understand why he would leave it all to this person but does that make it right not to share?

Sorry 🙈 £70,000

Without knowing why it was left to one sibling no-one can possibly say. Whether or not you think it was done for good reason, it was the decreased's wishes.

If they’ve inherited nothing, I’d definitely pass some on, especially since it sounds like everyone has struggled.

My mum put a rental property that she owns into my name as well as hers. At that point she had plenty of savings too, so that was allowed for in her will. But then she became very ill and has been in a care home ever since. That has seen all her savings disappear into care fees, and when the rental is sold after her death, her share will have to be paid back to the council who has been paying her fees since her money ran out.
Theoretically I'm legally entitled to the rest. But as there's now nothing left for my brother, I will obviously give him half. It's the only fair thing to do.

@OnTheEdgeOfTheNight this is what I'm struggling with.

Is it now up to this person to do with it what she likes (ie share some with the siblings) or would that be going against her grandfathers wishes?

All 3 have been left a couple of paintings and furniture bits totalling a out £20,000 so they are all getting something but then the person is getting an extra £70,000

Your grandfather left you the money to use as you wanted. You’re not obliged to share. I would want to share with my siblings though.

I think it depends on why the grandfather left it to this person. If it's sheer favouritism, I'd be uncomfortable if I was the benefactor. But if I'd been the one who always visited/helped him out, or showed an interest when none of the others did, then I think the others have a bit of a nerve expecting anything.

I would. Especially the sister with health issues. I assume she cannot work receiving pip.

I would share with the brother too.

Not a three way split or anything. Just enough to help them out.