Family fallout over money

[moneymatters123]

If you came into money would you share with your brother and sister?

It’s clearer now, you’ve been left £20,000 and want more as it won’t clear all your debts. It’s £20,000 you never had so be grateful of it and it’s surely going to make a good dent in your debts. You’re lucky to get that and he didn’t leave the lot to charity.

Wow, jealous much? Your sibling had an ongoing relationship with your gf and helped him out. You didn't. I suggest you accept that he wanted your sibling to have more than the rest of you, most likely to show his gratitude to them. You should be grateful that he was generous enough to give you and your other sibling £20,000 each. He could have left it all to charity - would you have preferred that?

As two of you have been left £20k then the sister who has inherited should keep what she has been given. That’s the terms of the will and the grandfather’s wishes. The other two haven’t been cut out completely and £20k is still a nice inheritance

Were you left £20,000 in cash or items totalling to an approximate value of £20k?

mrsm43. This

If I were your sister I would probably give your mum the £20k and keep the £70k.

Your mum saying to drop it is telling..

Ps, it sounds like your sister’s world is about to majorly change if she’s splitting up from her husband and she may well struggle in the near future too.

Hope the PIP tribunal goes well OP

One of my brothers doesn't veto get on with my grandma. If she left me money I wouldn't split it directly with him because that isn't what she would have wanted. I am a bit of a softy though and will always see him right. He is also not good at budgeting so I wouldn't just hand a lump of cash over, but I would want him to see some benefit from it.

People should respect the will of the deceased as it's their money. Why do people become so grabby over things they're not entitled to?

We did the opposite - Our mother died recently, she left each of the 4 of us £1000, we all (individually - makes me so proud of my sibs) elected to give it to my sister as she shouldered the burden of care and arranging everything on mum's death.

It would not have seemed right otherwise.

Unless something very underhand has happened with the will i.e putting pressure on a dying person who does not have capacity, then I think the will should in most cases be respected.

The deceased person left the most to the person they chose to. If they had wanted it to be split then they would have done it.

It is a big deal to leave your house to charity and nothing to your daughter

I think the GF has had his reasons for his choices and respect them, OP is getting £20k she just wants more because she has debts, tbf running up £20k of debt is maybe the time to reassess your finances; if PIP turned you down is there no way you could work p/t, from home? Be grateful you can pay off £20k.

From what you have said I don't think I would share but I may pay for a UK family holiday to somewhere you can all do your own thing like Center Parcs. If they had been left with nothing or just a token about I may feel differently. However, I would probably feel differently about my Mother being left nothing (unless I knew why this had happened).