Spousal Maintenance

[JuliaJasmine]

Hi I am hoping someone can advise me.

I am getting divorced from my husband of 25 years. We have two children aged 20 and 16; the eldest is in uni and the youngest in 6th form.

My ex husband earns £85,000 and we are splitting everything 50/50. This means I will get a lump sum of around £180,000, half of his pension and maintenance for the younger child of £700 per month. He also pays £300 per month towards the eldest child and £300 spousal maintenance to me. I'm a qualified teacher but work 3 days a week as a classroom support assistant. I and my younger child am moving in with my new partner into a 4 bedroom house. I was initially ok with the settlement but now think that I should have more.

I'd be interested to see what others think who have been in this situation
Thanks
Julia

Good God, how much more do you want??

His every last penny it seems.

No, just what I'm due

So go on then what do you think you are due?

Parity

What's parity in this instance?

Well, he's earning around £5k per month so we should get around half each

You do realise he's paying maintenance for your child at University on a voluntary basis and has no legal requirement to do so?

You have parity.

You are moving in with someone else.

You want more. Work more than 3 days.

Well, he's earning around £5k per month so we should get around half each

Well, he's earning around £5k per month so we should get around half each

😂😂😂😂
Good luck with that.

This has to be a wind up.

Wow. How entitled?! If I were in your position I'd be biting his hand off for that offer and wondering how the hell he'd been so poorly advised.

Troll. Got to be. Noone is this grabby surely???!!!

Why are you ignoring the question "why don't you go back to work full time"?

You are really coming across as a very greedy person to most of us right now. It seems like a very fair settlement plus you are moving in with someone!
And you are "what iffing" for his situation while you are ACTUALLY moving in with someone.

wannabestressfree love the part where you mentioned OP should get some self respect!

I haven't been a Teacher since I had my children so my skills are out of date, that's why.

And why aren't you working as a teacher if you qualified as one? (assuming they have schools under bridges)

Half of his wage?

NotSuchASmug second your comment.
Why are you ignoring that particular question?

I'm sure OP will have a sob story to come out with when finally answering that question to avoid admitting she is just lazy and greedy.

So retrain or get a different job.

Naaah. This can't be real. I refuse to believe anyone is this grabby and greedy.

So update your skills
The reason for the divorce isn't hard to guess

If I was your new gentlemen and was aware that you were literally trying to fleece your ex after he had been nothing but fair, even generous, then I'd be thinking about putting up some teeny weeny bunting, red coloured.

I can just see my DH making his plans now 😆

Don't worry, you have been in a school setting. That will work to your advantage in finding a full time teaching job.
Try and negotiate some refresher courses when you are offered a job.
There is a HUGE shortage of teachers. You will find work.