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Are you worth a £1million?

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MoneyBags · 20/02/2007 20:44

DH & I used to be quite good at keeping an eye on our financial affairs until the kids (8 & 5) came along. Since then, we've bumbled on through, just about remembering to stick lumps in ISAs and PEPS, paid off bits of mortgage etc, but not done any active management or review.

Anyway, a number of 'life decisions' prompted us to go to an IFA for a total review. By way of preparation we had to fill in load of summaries of investments/ house prices/ mortgage etc.

Well.... we sat down with him today and discovered that if we add up the net equity in our house (value minus mortgage) and all our savings and investments.... we are worth £1 million

I am truly gobsmacked - it has sort of crept up on us.
The bizarre thing is that we don't feel rich or anything - I use coupons and codes for shopping and regularly buy and sell on eBay. And yet I am a millionaire

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MoneyBags · 20/02/2007 21:18

So when did MN become only for those poor and in debt?

Can't see why it is distasteful, or vulgar?

I don't detect anything in my posts which suggests superiority or being critical of others?

Thanks to those who have been genuinely happy for me

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SenoraPostrophe · 20/02/2007 21:28

mb - no, you didn't suggest superiority. and "vulgar" is a hilariously snobbish word.

But you must see that posting about being a millionaire is likely to annoy people who have no hope of ever being one?

just like if I were to post a thread about my 3 perfectr children who never watch telly and always do as they're told. but of course I'd be lying.

Cloudhopper · 20/02/2007 21:30

You've only got to look at the roasting that rachel johnson got for suggesting that 100k a year isn't enough to lead a comfortable middle class existence any more.

MoneyBags · 20/02/2007 21:34

SP - yes, of course I can see why some people would react to it negatively, but I don't think it should stop people from posting if they want to though.

I think although it's true that most people won't be millionaires, there is a lot people can do to educate themselves about personal finance, and take responsibility to try to avoid debt... but that's another thread in it's own right!

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expatinscotland · 20/02/2007 21:35

Debt means you live an extravagant lifestlye.

It's because you can't live within your means.

Wheelie bins are cheap to sleep in. And you can get one in a good catchment area, too.

SenoraPostrophe · 20/02/2007 21:36

that's true.

and I speak as someone wh's just paid off the credit cards for the first time in 6 years. maybe I should start a thread?

FioFio · 20/02/2007 21:44

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expatinscotland · 20/02/2007 21:44

Fio, you haven't just been in Tesco's, have you? You norty girl! You should be charging at least £20.

MoneyBags · 20/02/2007 21:47

expat - I'm not talking about people who are SERIOUSLY in poverty, but I think we've all seen/ met or witnessed the people who claim to be completely skint but are then buying another pushchair or new furniture or something.

Consumer society has driven people to believe they have a need, and moreover a 'right' for completely unnecessary things sometimes. Debt management in the UK is appalling. IMO there needs to be a greater level of financial education and responsibility.

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FioFio · 20/02/2007 21:48

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aDad · 20/02/2007 21:51

well i might be worth a million tomorrow. I have a lotto ticket!

expatinscotland · 20/02/2007 21:53

You'll be splitting the jackpot with me, aDad.

That'll be approximately £4m for each of us.

aDad · 20/02/2007 21:54

well, I'd be delighted to!

aDad · 20/02/2007 21:55

oh and shhh! dont tell anybody else the winning numbers

expatinscotland · 20/02/2007 21:56

K.

I got mine of an episode of 'Lost' .

MoneyBags · 20/02/2007 22:24

Ruby - yes, you're right, it was really, but it's also provoked some interesting discussion.

(BTW - I'm not including the value of property which is mortgaged - just the % we've paid off, so it's not like saying someone with an £800k house with £700k mortgage has £800k of assets IYSWIM?)

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MrsGoranVisnjic · 20/02/2007 22:34

I like this thread - it is interesting - good for you moneybags - must have been a very nice shock

zookeeper · 20/02/2007 22:38

sorry moneybags, but fwiw I think you're bragging - I can't believe that financially astute as you and dh appear to be, what with your visits to financial websites/advisors etc, you had no idea that were worth that. Not an inkling??

sarkin · 20/02/2007 23:22

Can I ask what you do with your time now that your a millionaire

MoneyBags · 21/02/2007 12:32

Sarkin - we both still work, 'cos we still need income for daily living. What we have invested isn't paying the bills!

Zookeeper - not honestly, we didn't know. Sure, we knew we had investments, and that we weren't in bedt etc, but that's my point really - we haven't reviewed things much in the last 8 years since kids, and I really was surprised.

It's why investing for kids is so important - it really can grow over time.

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catsmother · 21/02/2007 15:28

"Tips? Er....

  • Use all the tax free vehicles (PEPs/ ISAs etc)
  • Stick to a budget less than your income if you can
  • Avoid debt (especially credit card debt)
  • Get tips from good websites like MoneySaving Expert and Motley Fool
  • Get made redundant 2 or 3 times , but then bank the payout and get another job immediately
  • buy a house in an up & coming area"

Really ??? ...... I'm kicking myself for not thinking of any of that:

  • Tax free vehicles are very sensible if you have spare money to invest
  • Stick to a budget less than your income if you can ..... if being the operative word, and unfortunately not an option for many
  • Get tips from good websites ...... agree, but again, for many, those sorts of money-saving tips ensure they can afford to live, as opposed to save
  • Get made redundant 2 or 3 times, bank the payout and get another job immediately ...... Hmmm, you can't really get made redundant can you. My only experience of redundancy within my own family meant 13 months out of work for the person concerned who then had to accept the 1st job they were actually offered at several £0000s less than before
  • Buy a house in an up and coming area ..... yes, agree again ..... if you can afford the up and coming area in the 1st place, if it's convenient for work etc.

Forgive me for being maybe a little bit touchy but I find posts like these do come across as boastful. It almost smacks of "if I can do it, so can anyone", which simply isn't realistic. In fact the tone does somewhat remind me of another well-off, high achieving Mner who often seems to convey a similar attitude regarding money, security, career success and other related topics, which takes no account of the fact that whilst not everyone can be well-off and/or successful, it does NOT therefore mean that they must be lazy, foolish, or stupid.

I would have had no objection to someone posting about some "good fortune" they were apparently unaware of if they had simply said they'd had a financial review and were pleasantly surprised by how secure they were. But mentioning figures and then, IMHO anyway, condescendingly advising the rest of us how we could achieve the same results, is bragging. Why do I think that ? ..... because although I can accept you may not know your exact worth, I find it hard to believe that someone who is worth £1million (excluding their mortgage) would not know that they were very comfortably off/secure already. You don't go from £3.57 in the copper jar to a million.

I accept that MN has members from all walks of life & that's what makes it so interesting. However, my hackles always rise when people boast, IMO, insensitively, and, arguably, vulgarly, about their income, investments, huge great house or similar. It's made worse when those same posters remind us all (lecture us ??) about financial prudence ...... as if anyone who isn't happy about their financial situation must have made poor financial choices and be guilty of frittering their money away on "another pushchair" (??!!) ......

..... obviously, I know and we all know that some people do have a devil may care attitude towards money, but equally, there will be many Mners reading a thread like this who are in debt (for all sorts of conceivable reasons which were to do with need, not greed) simply because they don't earn very much, or because they have been ill, or made redundant (without the big payout!), or maybe because their partner did a runner, who are responsible and who do make wise choices within the parameters of their particular circumstances. They have no savings (hence the debt) and whilst they'd love to invest for their children - and fully recognise the importance/prudence of doing so - simply cannot.

By all means share positive stories of good fortune & good luck on MN, but getting specific when large sums of money are involved is in poor taste IMO ....... and lecturing - smugly - as if the people reading aren't aware of how they could be helping themselves, is patronising.

Moneybags - I stand by what I say but hold my hands up to the fact that this is the 1st post I have made on a topic of this sort, even though yours is not the 1st post that has annoyed me in a similar way. I do feel rather strongly that the more fortunate Mners among us should be more aware sometimes of the very stessful and worrying financial circumstances many other Mners live in. Personally, I feel that when you write anything on these boards, you should bear in mind it could be read by absolutely anyone, including people much less fortunate than you - and choose your words accordingly. I expect that some Mners are much better off than you are, huge disparity in wealth is part of life after all, but equally, the vast majority will be much worse off, and some will be living in penury. Is it actually polite to "lecture" them in the guise of giving "tips", when many of those know full well how to manage "spare" money, if they had any ?

Tortington · 21/02/2007 15:31

am i jealous? yes

cocks

expatinscotland · 21/02/2007 15:32

's okay, custy, you can be on my 'Are you worth £1' thread.

expatinscotland · 21/02/2007 15:32

Self-congratulatory posts/threads of any sort always embarrass me.

And remind me of why I'm so glad I no longer live in America, boastful capital of the planet.