Baddz lots of hugs for you. What a stressful time 
Lying that's amazing re 30k down! Well done...!
Jonty I have been using my emergency bath supplies and have made full use of my chocolate supply :) definitely comes in handy!
Unescorted I LOVE the fact you take "hours" to do the food shop and hide somewhere for some peace!! That is so me..I love it!
Thank you tip also 
... I have to keep reminding myself ds will start school in the next couple of years and things will be easier. Sigh.
Hmm well dh and I thrashed things out again (verbally discussed I mean) and we have come round to a mutual understanding... I think. I also put it to him that dd is now in high school and as much as he doesn't think things like having the "right" clothes and shoes are important, they bloody well are especially with all this friendship trouble / bullying going on. So he's decided to cough up £30 of his own spending money he had put to one side to buy something to give to her to buy some new converse or shoes as her boots are getting really very tatty and it's important to feel she fits in. I hate saying that sort of stuff because in an ideal world of course none of that would matter but pre teenagers these days are just brutal. I liked the fact it was his idea to give her the money. It shows he was listening to me. She is over the moon of course (if he hadn't dipped into his own little pot then we would have used money from the house account which we normally do but it would have been something from shoe zone or whatever, which is fine but it was nice to be able to buy something she really wanted).
I'm struggling with dd. I thought the toddler years were hard - and they are - but this is a different ball game. Yesterday she was in tears feeling stressed about school today and whether this girl is going to be horrible to her.. I kept saying try and stick with your own little group of friends and don't pay any attention etc. I've also told her if she wants me to I am more than willing to talk to the teacher etc but she doesn't want me to at the moment. So we will have to see how it goes.
What's really upset me is I looked up some of these "nasty" girls on instagram and Facebook (dd doesn't have either) and bearing in mind they are all year 7 (12 years old) I was really shocked. All their profiles are completely open, full of very over sexualised posey selfies and lots of comments of "hot babe" and all that everywhere :( .. l despair at the fact none of these girls parents seem to give a flying fuck to be honest. If I can look them up so easily so can they! I would be livid if dd had some of the photos they do. Completely inappropriate.
I feel bloody old.
I mean at the very least surely they need to be using privacy settings?! Grrrr. I was absolutely raging.
I also keep wondering if I'm doing the right thing keeping dd off social media or not. Given the above I think I am right. But then part of me wonders if I am isolating her more and making her more of a target by not allowing it....? It's a minefield. I have no clue what I'm doing. .
And then of course if I did let her on instagram under a very private account I had access too as well I wonder if she'd be bullied even more perhaps by these girls. I have no idea. Very stressed with it all.
Money wise.... well yes I am into the overdraft but I am hopeful I should be able to near enough clear it by next week. And looking at the cc I've paid off £400 since we got it. So I should be proud of that. Just still in a constant state of panic about money. It's like I'm just constantly wading through muddy water and trying to breathe.