How much does his ex really get?

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How much money does a single parent get in benefits? I ask because my partner is paying his ex over the odds in maintenance because he thinks she is getting next to nothing. However, a friend of mine says his ex gets more money than him due to the amount of benefit she receives.

Can anyone tell me how much (roughly) per month it's possible to get as a single SAHM with one child? Bearing in mind that she is living in their old house with a mortgage on it?

"he doesn't get to know what the mother has coming in every month no matter what he pays"

It's publicly available information though, doesn't take a brain surgeon to work it out given he knows her circumstances

How much is the mortgage that they ex still has to find, I presume. This has a baring on whether she is getting too much or not. Also I suspect she will have to maintain the house which is protecting your partners capital interests. Lots to think about.

diet the ex hasn't insinuated anything! OP has been riled up by her friend telling her that LPs are in the money.

And who is going to pay the childcare while the mother works, Her? The father? Or the state?

"It's publicly available information though, doesn't take a brain surgeon to work it out given he knows her circumstances "

he doesn't know her circumstances. he has no clue of her outgoings, what benefits she claims or is entitled to. he can only guess unless she has told him.

if i told you i was a single parent do you know how much i have coming in every month?

I'm giving advice from the POV as a single parent who got £10 a week maintenance and worked from DC being 3 months. It's not all about ourselves. If OP's DP has agreed to pay this amount then them having a baby shouldn't matter. It's their personal circumstances.

or how much it costs me to raise my dcs?

WhistlingNun, really, how much does it reduce by?

Council tax? Mine went from £90 a month to £43 when on IS, so still cost me a significant amount.

Probably missing it, but where did the OP say that her OH is paying way over 15%? I can only see a her comment of 'paying over the odds' in the OP. But her idea of over the odds might not be the same as the CSA's legal guidelines.

My ex used to think he was paying over the odds with £5 a week. So that's why i got CSA involved.

ok sorry missed that bit. Still stand by my point though that mum should be doing more. They both made the baby they should both support it.

As others have said, it's pretty easy to work out what she'll bet in benefits. I don't know you from Adam, but the OP's partner will know a lot about the ex obviously

Cheese i agree this post was done to see if it could be reduced without affecting DSD, a sensible move i think.

Boo to be honest you aren't coming across that welll either

my ex knows alot about me...up until the point we separated. after that he has no clue about what i get in and what it costs me to live and raise the dcs. he can get guideline figures but he has no clue whether they are actually accurate for my personal situation or whether they are enough to cover all costs involved with our dcs.

diets i haven't sworn at anyone or called them names.

and why am i not coming across too well?

The OP wasn't asking how much it cost to raise the child, she was asking how much the ex receives in benefits. This is not difficult information to obtain.

and the mum IS supporting her child! she's raising it!

she still cant know how much she recieves just by looking online.

"and the mum IS supporting her child! she's raising it!"

Yes ^^ that!

No true, but you are very set against the OP and as a SP for a while and soon to be a stepmum now, i think she is looking at the situation clearly. Can it be changed without causing DSD harm? a good way of seeing this was to guess the income, hence this post

so the dad supports finacially and mum raises? why is not both contribute to both?

Yeah but you don't play nicely either.

I'm not vile. I don't like how all the LP's are jumping on this women when I believe she's just trying to get an understanding of everyone's situation to try to be fair.

What instigated that thought line is really neither here nor there.

You keep harping back to the 'he has to pay 15%' thing, without seeing the bigger picture which I tried to lay out for you.

It is useful to be aware of what her situation is, they can help more if necessary.

I'm so vile that I've consented twice to my DH using our JOINT savings to provide his exp a new car when she's run her last one into the ground by not ever servicing it, or fixing it because she perfers to spend her last penny dowb the pub every weekend.

How much maintenance does he pay? And how much is the mortgage on the property the ex lives in? I presume this is information you have, so can work out how much after the mortgage is paid, the ex has to work with. And I agree it's a bit rich to be eyeing up maintenance money as something you can rely on while on maternity leave. I paid my own way, supported myself, with very little input/contribution from my then DP when I was pregnant and then on maternity leave. Not quite sure why you think you need to take money intended to support a child, to support you.