How much does his ex really get?

[WaspFactory]

How much money does a single parent get in benefits? I ask because my partner is paying his ex over the odds in maintenance because he thinks she is getting next to nothing. However, a friend of mine says his ex gets more money than him due to the amount of benefit she receives.

Can anyone tell me how much (roughly) per month it's possible to get as a single SAHM with one child? Bearing in mind that she is living in their old house with a mortgage on it?

And I'm one of the bitter ones going /gasp at how people can earning £50k and be poor. (That's re the child benefit change).

WaspFactory I don't think she'll want to go on holiday with you. My parents nearly went through a divorce with OW and I was very very bitter towards her. (Have never met her and will never want to meet her).

What did you think would happen?

You should know that the older the child gets the more money the child will want and need.

The money your partner will.pay for xmas, Birthdays holidays school trips and petrol in going to get her for access will be on top of the maintance for food clothes and housing the child.

10 years ago my economic tutor told me the average spend in the first year of a childs lofe is 2.5k with.inflation today its a lot more.

PMSL at you. I did spil my coke lol

youngblowfish - aw, thanks, I am really pleased actually. After all I've got a great job, loving partner, cute SD, I'm soon to be debt-free and about to start TTC by first baby. I've never been happier tbh

InNeat - which part of that do you actually believe to be true?

fwiw. you dont have a SD. you are her dad's current bit on the side (who has been on the scene 6 months!) and you dont see her.

interesting how the mask has dropped.

gone from being oh so concerned (yeah right!) about EX and only wanting to make sure she doesn't struggle to laughing about taking this money from the child!

Artex - I have a house to sell, keep up, poppet.

Booyhoo - I've missed you, sweetie. You forget to tell me your secret, I'm dying to know.

Do you have any idea how hard it is looking after a baby 24/7?

Wasp, absolutely, always focus on the positive and ignore the wreckages left behind, your own inner emotional vacuum and this nest of vipers. Ignore, I beg you. Fingers in ears, lalalalala.

Would it not be ideal if your future child found themselves in this position decades down the line? I know I could not wish for anything more.

denial is not just a river in Egypt wasp. you may be fooling yourself into thinking you are ok with your situation but it is clear for all here to see that you are trying way too hard to convince us you are happy. like another poster, i do feel a tiny bit sorry for you, because you do, eventually, reap what you sow.

If she only has one child and does not work she will get hardly anything from benifits

@ ArtexMonkey

So if it isn't an issue why are you concerned about how much benefit she is getting and how much your DP is paying in maintenance. I thought it was an issue or why do you need to know.

(And more and more from her exh)

Also OP you should know that 2/3 marrages fail in the first 3 years of a childs life and thats only married couples not for couples that just live together.

Child change the dynamic of a relationship and sleep depravation is a love killer.

Just saying.