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Today's the FIRST and we still have each other :)

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MummyMcKT · 01/06/2010 14:07

A thread for all of us who were due in 2010 and who've bonded through the last few weeks.

It doesn't matter where your head/heart's at on this journey at the moment just as long as you want some company....

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McKTastic · 27/09/2010 17:10

Hello all :):)

Am thinking of you for tomorrow Loopy. Can't decide if the last two weeks have flown in or dragged for me so can't imagine what your concept of time is at the mo? Let us know how you get on.

I blame you YRMOTB for my recently renewed digestive caramel fetish!! lol Grin

I've used OPK's for the last few months Velvet and have had smileys on days 12; 14 and 16 so pretty varied. Good Luck!!

Are you all packed Cadmum? How you feeling about coming home now it's closer?

Hope you're doing ok Fordy. I think the time that follows losing someone close once all the formalities etc have gone ahead and you're expected to get on with life again is really hard. Thinking of you.

Poor you Pink. Def not the best time for your DP to throw that one in :( I know you'll be thinking of what should have been more and more as the days go by - we're all thinking of you. I hope good times will be there in all our futures :) :)

I start a new job next week - am REALLY looking forward to it. Something positive to look forward to :) :)

Pinkchampagne · 27/09/2010 17:43

Thank you, McKTastic. It helps to have you guys to talk to, as nobody around me really understands how painful this is. Everyone (other than DP) assumes I am over it, and DP even has a "we can't let this take over our life" attitude, which I agree with to a point & try not to, but as you are approaching milestones it is easier said than done, & the "things have changed now" line was just too much for me at this moment in time. My DP is generally a lovely person, but I think men can find it hard to understand how deeply it all affects us for quite some time after, & sometimes they just don't think!

Good news about the job, McKTastic! Definitely something positive to focus on.Smile

Still thinking of you, Fordy.

Hello to everyone else - hope you are all ok. Sorry for my moaning on atm!

Loopymumsy · 27/09/2010 20:29

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McKTastic · 27/09/2010 20:56

..And you will Loopy.....and you will Wink
Try and get as much rest as you can tonight (although probably easier said than done). Hear from you tomorrow :) Sending you LOTS of positive vibes :) :)

Pinkchampagne · 27/09/2010 21:07

I can imagine how nervous you must be feeling, loopy - I know I would be the same. Really hope the scan is a positive experience for you. You will be in my thoughts tomorrow.

You are right in what you said about the way DP approached the whole thing. He just blurted it out on the way to Sainsburys. It was the way the whole thing had been decided on & without even discussing it with me first, and that it was ok because things have changed now!
I told him that he should have told the lads that he best talk about it with me first & then get back to them, rather than go about it the way he did, not giving me a second thought when he knows how wobbly I am atm. I would then, like you say, probably been far more likely to have seen his side & wouldn't have got so upset & angry.

Pinkchampagne · 27/09/2010 21:10

Lots of positive vibes coming from me too, Loopy.Smile Good luck. x

Velvetcu · 27/09/2010 23:04

Loopy I'm sooo nervously excited for you I can't begin to imagine how you are feeling!!

Good luck

And I agree with everyone else - it is ALWAYS the mans fault :)

Loopymumsy · 28/09/2010 11:20

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McKTastic · 28/09/2010 12:41

Awh Loopy - am so glad your bean has grown and heartbeat doing well but so unfair there's a cloud hanging over everything. Am in awe of your inner strength but as you say all you can do is wait. Really feel for you - remember we're here in your moments of meltdown. Look after yourself. X

Pinkchampagne · 28/09/2010 13:06

Pleased to hear the baby is growing well, but so sorry to hear you still have this extra worry hanging over you. It does seem so unfair.
Like, McKTastic says, we are all here for you & thinking of you. x

Loopymumsy · 28/09/2010 14:02

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Velvetcu · 28/09/2010 16:55

I pleased for yuor good news Loopy but it is unfair that you have to worry.

Is there nothing they can do?

Loopymumsy · 28/09/2010 19:56

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youremindmeofthebabe · 28/09/2010 21:33

Bloody hell. Just to keep you on your toes,eh? Thats really shit, but am so glad baby's ok. will keep fingers, toes and teeth crossed for you x

fordypops · 29/09/2010 12:26

thnak you for all your kind thoughts. I am sorry I havent been around, I have been a bit of a mess and not coping to well at all. We had the funeral yesterday, which was a lovely ceremony and my grandad was amazing. I wish i was as strong as he is being right now.

Glad to hear the baby's doing ok Loopy, so sorry to hear the haematoma has grown. Like everyone else I have everything crossed for you xx

Hello to everyone, Ihope you are all ok x

Loopymumsy · 29/09/2010 16:37

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Pinkchampagne · 30/09/2010 06:03

So sorry, fordy. I remember when my own nan died 3 years ago - it hit me really hard. I still miss her loads & have her photo right here on my computer desk, so she is always smiling over me. We are all here for you. x

Loopy - how are you feeling?

I am at another all time low. Sobbed & sobbed last night & have not slept a wink all night, not even a minutes worth, and have work later. Still not heard anything about my counselling & could really do with it now.

Loopymumsy · 30/09/2010 06:27

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Pinkchampagne · 30/09/2010 17:21

Got sent home from work early, as felt ill with tiredness & lost all colour from my face. Was also very wobbly emotionally today.
Went to doctors after work & was told I should hear about my counselling within the next few weeks. Let's hope so!

Loopy - I can imagine how anxious you must be right now, especially with the timing of your next scan.
I hope this pregnancy progresses well for you, I really do. x

Loopymumsy · 30/09/2010 18:10

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Pinkchampagne · 30/09/2010 21:11

Thank you for that, Loopy. I am hoping that may be the case for me, as I really don't want DP to have a horrible 40th.

Velvetcu · 30/09/2010 23:20

Hello Lovely Ladies

Sorry to hear you are feeling down again Pink - I too am hoping things will get easier after the due date.

Loopy well done for staying positive - it must be soo hard for you! And no, you definately shouldnt Google too much.

Hi Fordy, McKT, YRMOTB hope you are all well!

Pinkchampagne · 01/10/2010 18:33

I have had some counselling today. Found out there was a lady in my home town that does private counselling, and I so need it right now, so I saw her after work.
Costs £35 a session, but so worth it to be able to see someone & get the help instantly.
She was really good & seemed to understand my feelings really well. Am going back on Tuesday.

Loopymumsy · 01/10/2010 20:09

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youremindmeofthebabe · 04/10/2010 10:29

Aw pink, That's excellent news, glad you found her, eventually. Hope it continues to make you feel better!

How's you loopy? Feeling ok?

I've had a nice weekend away, twas lovely and relaxing, saw an amazing blues musician called Martin Harley, it was brilliant.

Is everyone else ok?