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Today's the FIRST and we still have each other :)

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MummyMcKT · 01/06/2010 14:07

A thread for all of us who were due in 2010 and who've bonded through the last few weeks.

It doesn't matter where your head/heart's at on this journey at the moment just as long as you want some company....

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Loopymumsy · 17/08/2010 08:15

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Pinkchampagne · 17/08/2010 11:21

Sorry you have had a bad week, Loopy. Can see how the whole gender swaying thing would get you down, when all you crave is a healthy pregnancy.

I have been feeling a bit fed up about the house situation. The house was everything we wanted. It was in the perfect place, was the perfect size, was a really good buy, was in a nice safe cul-de-sac area with a big grassy area perfect for the boys, the boys really wanted it (and they have been a bit anti moving from their house) because it was near my parents. Can't find anything online that even comes close.
It sold on Friday the chuffin 13th too!!
Hopefully things might start looking up a little soon, as this has not been a good year all in all! Sorry, having a bit of a woe is me moment here!

Hope everyone else is doing ok.Smile

youremindmeofthebabe · 17/08/2010 21:05

Sorry you're not feeling very good loopy. Does gender swaying depend on days, or what? Don't need to tell me if you don't want to talk about it though. ((hugs)) Did the kids have a nice time?

I was going to tell you that it just wasn't meant to be, pink, but seeing as we all know what scant help that is when you've fallen in love with something already, I won't bother. Feel for you though, I really hate all the house buying, mortgage paying, equity losing shit that is the house market. I feel your pain.

I am feeling ok here. I want to be quietly pregnant without all the fuss, but that's never going to happen now Confused Am off to drink tea, and perhaps an early night, God, I'm Rock an Roll, huh?

Waves to mcktastic fordy velvet cadmum. Hope you're well and happy peeps. Smile

youremindmeofthebabe · 17/08/2010 21:09

Ps,HERE is my just-giving page for my Great North Run. Would be lovely if anyone could sponsor me, but don't feel you have to. I think you can do it withoput putting your real names if that's better for you
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Loopymumsy · 18/08/2010 07:00

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Velvetcu · 20/08/2010 16:11

Am retreating to the safety blanket of you guys for a bit. The TTC thread is so fast and pretty stressful! So many people and so many questions/much information. How do you find it YROTB and Loopy?

How is everyone? I have enjoyed the school holidays but I'm ready to get back to work now but still got another week and a half off. Too much time for thinking.

My mum and nan are driving me nuts! They keep making unsubtle hints like "next year is gonna be a good year for you" and "never give up trying at anything" etc even tho I have lied told them I'm not TTC.

YROTB I will definately sponsor you.

Hope everyone is good. Time is moving too fast for me atm - talk is turning to xmas and my due date is 15th Dec so I'm not looking forward to the festive season :(

Loopymumsy · 20/08/2010 16:32

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youremindmeofthebabe · 20/08/2010 20:14

It is super fast. I tend just to check in twice a day, and there's loads more new people recentlySad which makes it trot super quick.

I've missed you from there loopy. How are you? I really didn't know about the gender swaying thing, and can see why you could find it difficult. Presumably that was what you were doing bfore?

velvet I am not looking forward to due date now, end of November for us, and it's around the same day a friend of mine lost a baby at 27 weeks, which makes it even more sad.

I'm having a mare of a day really, insurance shit, mice in the house, screaming 3yo's and friends backing out of things I've paid for. So I'm having a drink.

Love to all x

Loopymumsy · 20/08/2010 21:06

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Pinkchampagne · 20/08/2010 22:09

YRMOTB - I will also sponser you.Smile

Know what you mean about time moving fast. I have had a few wobbles over the last few days. I woke up upset this morning & I think it is because my due date is fast approaching. I was due on October 14th, DP's 40th birthday, and right now I really wish it hadn't been due then as it is obviously a big birthday & everytime I even think about it, I am in tears. Feel I will spoil his big day.Sad

Velvetcu · 21/08/2010 12:30

Aww Pink, have you managed to talk to anyone about it all yet? I know I will be in a state around due date. Mine is a week after DHs 30th so I know what you mean about feeling like you will spoil things.

Hope you are having a great time up there Loopy. I'm sure DH will be delighted with his paypal purchase :)

I too was very bad and had a couple of glasses of red last night.

Its my mums 50th next weekend so I'm stressing about whether to drink or not. With the last PG, I got a BFN the day before a huge night out and a BFP 4 days later so Im worried!!

Pinkchampagne · 21/08/2010 13:29

I haven't done, velvet. Have these numbers but haven't built up the courage to ring them yet. Still not heard when my counselling will start.

Ended up getting tearful over dinner last night. Told DP that my spells of being upset may get more frequent over the next few months, and he said we would get through them together. Told him I have never felt so sad for so long.
I also had more than a couple of glasses of wine last night!

Have any of you read the "child in my heart" poem? It really made me cry.

Velvetcu · 21/08/2010 15:00

No Pink I havent read it. It doesnt take much to set me to crying so I try to avoid thinkgs like that at all costs!

It's like everything and nothing has changed since the mmc. Such a very strange experience. A friend asked me if I was coping with it all ok now and I, of course, said yes I'm fine. You just can't explain how it feels to someone who has never been there.

I was a little upset when I got back from holiday as my mum was looking after my plants but she forgot to water one - the only one that really mattered :( It is completely dead but I can't bring myself to throw it away yet - kind of ironic I think.

Any Pink, get on and phone someone. Even if its just to have a cry and a rant at someone other than DH it will only be a good thing.

Pinkchampagne · 21/08/2010 16:09

I know exactly what you mean, Velvet, and I totally agree that you just can't explain it to someone who has never been there.
People other than DP think I am coping just fine & probably think I am over it. You make out you are ok to the world, don't you, when in reality you are far from it.Sad

Yes, maybe I should gather together the courage to make that phonecall.

McKTastic · 22/08/2010 22:31

Just a quick "Am still here!".

Have had a mixed week but have survived. Have been reading all your posts but not managed to get my head into gear to write a proper one myself - hopefully this week.

Thinking of you all xx

youremindmeofthebabe · 24/08/2010 09:47

Meh.

^^That is my summing up of feelings today.I cried last night when dp asked me if I still thought about the MC a lotHmm, er, yeah! and I am being silly, thinking what if I never get pg again, or what if I have to go through all this again.

So, Meh. Hope you're all better than me. (sorry mememe)

And I got really very wet on my way to work and I'm still freezing cold cos the heaters don't work.

Velvetcu · 25/08/2010 10:38

YRMOTB how are you today? I had a cry yesterday too coz DH said he couldn't understand why I still come on here and talk to you guys! I said you are the only way I can pretend to be normal in the rest of my life.

So I'm sending bigs hugs, tissues and chocolate to you all coz I know how you feel

youremindmeofthebabe · 25/08/2010 15:24

Hi velvet.

Am feeling a bit better today thank you, I'm not wet and cold, for a start either! We are going to a festival at the weekend which should be lovely, with ds and my bro etc.

Sometimes i wonder about the men in our lives. Mine wasn't trying to be unkind, or anything he was just genuinely curious??! Bizarre .

I think DP understands a little now, cos it's nice having our release of emotions and so on here, that you can't necessarily have in rl.
Anyhow, hugs for you all, will post mebbe tomorrow, then away for a few days. Big love, here's the chocolate back, try not to scoff it before i get backWink x

Loopymumsy · 26/08/2010 07:21

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youremindmeofthebabe · 26/08/2010 09:17

loopy congratulations! Oh my goodness, I'm so pleased for you, I thought you didn't even get any swi done this month! Well done. Am so pleased, and only a teensy weensy bit envious. Here's to a completely uneventful 8 months or so. Am really glad you are tentatively getting your happy ending. ((hugs))SmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmileSmile

Hello to everyone else, I'm off camping this weekend, be good, and have extra comfortable lie in's for me. Will check back in monday x

youremindmeofthebabe · 26/08/2010 09:17

and thanks for sponsoring me, loopy btw x

McKTastic · 26/08/2010 10:47

Will post more later but had to join in with YRMOTB to say CONGRATS Loopy :) :) Hopefully you'll start a trend! X x x

Pinkchampagne · 26/08/2010 11:37

Wow, congratulations, Loopy!Smile

Loopymumsy · 26/08/2010 11:41

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youremindmeofthebabe · 26/08/2010 11:48

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