Today's the FIRST and we still have each other :)

[MummyMcKT]

A thread for all of us who were due in 2010 and who've bonded through the last few weeks.

It doesn't matter where your head/heart's at on this journey at the moment just as long as you want some company....

Think I am definitely doing the right thing in going tomorrow, as I had yet another tearful evening last night, and DP thinks I seem depressed. Don't want to drag him down too, and can't cope with the boys behaviour right now. My head feels overloaded to the max. So much is going through it, but nothing is getting processed properly. Can't carry on like this.

Velvet - glad you're now bleed free. Bet you are looking forward to your holiday!

I am sorry Pinkchampagne. I think that I have been where you are. It is possible to recover without assistance but those around you pay a high price. You are doing the right thing by talking to your GP. Remember that there are alternatives to drugs but that taking medication is far from the worst thing that can happen to you. If you need ads, It might only be short term.

The only other thing that I can tell you from experience is that you have every right to feel down. You have had your feet pulled out from under you and your entire world turned up-side-down. It is OK to feel sad and downright depressed when you have suffered such a loss. It would be far more worrying if you didn't know WHY you were feeling so down. I hope it all goes well. Thinking of you.

I meant to add: Glad to hear that you are headed in the right direction Velvetcu.

Hello to everyone else. Off to bed here. It is 10:30 and dh is off to London for Grad ceremony early tomorrow morning. (Can't really imagine a week here without him...)

Hello All

Just a quick post to say will be thinking of you tomorrow PinkC Hope your GP gives you good support.

Fingers crossed you and your DCs have a fab week Cadmum and you have lots of lovely things to tell your DH when he returns.

Glad your body's back on track Velvet (I def felt relief that mine seemed reasonably "normal" considering). Bet you're counting down to your hols. VEGAS!!

Hope you've had a fun week-end Loopy . . . . have been reading some of the "bus" chat. Fingers crossed for you.

Hope all's well with you Fordy and your nan is as she was.

Hello all you other lovelies. Am on the internet (STILL) looking for hol options while DP watches the footie. Will be providing pizza at half time though so better not stay long....

Keep well x

Went to gp today. She says that she feels counselling will be more beneficial than ADs as it sounds like my head has too much to deal with, but the waiting list is around 14 weeks. Fourteen weeks is ages to wait to get some help. I am going to have to try to kick myself out of this & not sure how.

Hey Pink

Logged on to see how you got on this avo. Agree with everything loopy has said. Am sure my friend got free counselling through the Miscarriage Association. Also am not sure if you work but if you do you can sometimes get (confidential) counselling through Occupational Health. Hang in there girl. You are not alone.

Hols have been thrown up in the air courtesy of DP's boss - we will still get away but different dates so all the looking I've done re availability has been in vain (the best laid plans!!) Would pretty much do anything Loopy but am still a headf**k when it comes to decision making so finding it really hard to get stuff sorted! Not long till you're off camping now

Hello one and all - hope you're all doing ok.
x

Would love to be in a position where I can TTC, but really think we need to be more settled. DP really wants us to be at least living together. His house selling is still a slow process, with only 2 viewers since he put it on the market. Also, I know I am not strong enough yet to face the possibiltiy of it happening again. Think it would tip me over the edge, and I think DP is finding it tough with me being so low so often. Don't think either of us want to be in that vulnerable position right now, where all could go horribly wrong again. Much as I ache to be pregnant, I think it is just that I have this huge hole inside of me that needs filling, but I need to be a little further down the road to recovery first. Do I make sense?

Not sure if there is a MA near me. Might be worth giving them a ring though. Was thinking about that possibility today actually. I do work, so need to fit any counselling around my work hours.
Thank you both for thinking of me today.

Real pain about your holiday, McKTastic. Hope you get something sorted soon.

Loopy Did think very similar thoughts re getting away but wee bit worried I'm still not firing on all cylinders and would feel like I'd splashed the cash when I wasn't able to savour it fully IYSWIM! Who knows!? Really just want a break with DP but somewhere where I feel "safe" too (ie either mainland UK or somewhere I've been before and is familiar abd DEF somewhere I don't need to dress up or wear a bikini - am still a chocolate muncher?!?!) Will let you know how it all pans out in reality.

Pink I had a look on the MA website for you. They don't seem to offer counselling although various links and suggestions on their website to those that do. They do however offer a support link - the ability to talk to someone who's been through a MC on the phone. The number is 01924 200799 - they're open from 9 till 4 (Mon to Fri). If you give them a call they will try and match you with someone local that you can talk to. I read your other thread - you're not going through this alone sweetie. We're all thinking of you.

Night all x

Pink Have just read another thread on here where they suggested seeking counselling through CRUSE. Just wanted to let you know.

hello lovelies!!

Glad your on the right track velvet, loving your hols thoughts McKT and Pink I am so sorry you are feeling so low. You seem to be on the right track and finding some counselling.

Hey loopy, how are you doing?

Hi cadmum too..hope you are coping without your DP x x

I'm ok, nans ok right now we are having lots of giggles and she is really making me smile.

thinking of you all xx

Thank you for that, McKTastic. Have just phoned MA & been given a number for telephone support. She is not sure whether there are any groups in my area, but has advised me to look at the chat section on their website.
Will take a look at CRUSE too, so thank you for that suggestion.

Pleased to hear your nan is doing well in herself, fordi.

Well done for making that phonecall Pink - you're stronger than you think - it takes courage to ask for support.

Hope you manage to hook up with someone local through MA support.

Thinking of you - try to focus on one day at a time for now!

ed when I read your post Fordy. It must be so hard for you going through this time with your nan so soon after your other loss but I'm glad you're managing some quality time with her.

Wishing you all lots more giggling over the next wee while.

Thank you, I know its so hard knowing this is all for a short while, she wants to enjoy what she has and I want to enjoy her. She keeps telling me it will be ok and I am young and not to worry.

Glad you called pink, I have a friend who went to MA groups for years and years after her mc's,she said they helped her enourmously.

Right I am off to do a davina workout after doing lots of walking today..I will lose weight!!

Hello Everybody!

How are you all? It's nice to "see" you all again. Sorry to hear that you're so down pink. My friend was telling me that SANDS also deal with miscarriage losses as well as term losses and still birth, so perhaps that's another option? My friend is a telephone counsellor for them, less so now, I think, but further to your much earlier comments, there's no way she'd judge you for the length of pregnancy IYSWIM.

MckT I would definitely recommend a holiday as a lovely way of R&R, It was a really nice escape from the monotony of daily life and having to deal with things. Unfortunately I have been shoved back into it again as i have the funeral of my friend to attend a week today.

Hope you have a lovely holiday velvet, bet you're excited now!

Waves at cadmum, hope you're coping o.k without DH.

fordy glad to hear that you can at least spend some time with your gran, i think I found that the wors thing when my gran passed, that i was unable to say goodbye first.

loopy glad to hear your're getting back on the horse. What's the bus about? I am a little confused by it, Is that when you hope to be pregnant? I am easily confuddled!

Hey Loopy I read that too

Have to admit it makes me terrified at the thought of being pregnant again.

Have always said you can't guarantee all will run smoothly in relation to pregnancy but now actually living with that reality is becoming pretty soul destroying.

Just wanted to say hi to all!

Am soooo busy atm but will find time at some point to catch up with everyone but it may well be after my hols!

Take care everyone I am thinking of you all and the many varied hardships and stresses you are facing xx

Oh how awful, loopy. I haven't been on for a few days so haven't seen the thread, but must be heartbreaking to lose a baby so far down the line.

Very quiet round here now. Do you think we are beginning not to need each other? that makes me . I hope you're all just busy and on holidays!

Have as good time velvet if you haven't already gone.

loopy that's terrible isn't it? that poor lady. What a shame.