ONE STILLBIRTH / TWO MISCARRIAGES IN NINE MONTHS.

[LEWEI]

I had a miscarriage at the weekend, this is my second since Feb, we are obviously devestated after losing our son last Sep. The miscarriages are causing us a great deal of concern, not only due to the fact that we have lost our babies but the fact that both happened exactly when the second period would have been due. We are thinking very carefully about trying again because we can't go on like this. Has anyone out there experienced this kind of problem? I carried my son full term without much problem until the end, and we just don't understand why we are losing our babies in the second month.

Lewei, how are you doing? Still hope you are feeling more positive. Thinking of you today as my mind as usual is with our ds who we buried exactly 9 months ago today- friday 13th-what a day! Hope you can discuss the aspirin-senario with your GP soon as I still think it's helping me a lot in this pg and I do hope you will be in a similar condition someday soon. Keep positive!

What is it with the 13th????? My little one was lost on the 13th ( March).
Saying that I was born on a 13th.
Huge hugs Brookstone for todayxxxx
Lewei - How you doing chuck?
xxxxx

I am doing pretty well at the moment, still feeling positive. Fathers Day was a hard for us both, but a card and a huuuuuge bar of chocolate from the dog, cockatiel and the gerbils helped to cheer up dp a little. I am seeing my GP on wednesday morning so i have a lot to discuss with her. We have also been asked to meet with the panel of specialists who are investigating the little man's death, which is a small step forward.
On a lighter note i took a day off from being Ms Healthy on Sat, dp and i sat in the garden, in the gorgeous sunshine and got more the a little merry, but sadly the booze dulled the senses and i now have scarlet shoulders and cheeks and i have to go to work in a couple of hours. So needless to say i am feeling a little sorry for myself on that front. Hope you all had a lovely weekend!

Hi! You sound alot brighter! Glad u had a nice weekend in the sun - shame you're suffering now though!!! That's very positive news about the panel of specialists. Good luck with that! Father day is not always a good day. 2 others I have spoke to today would rather forget about it. I hope so much that your wish comes true and you get to be a mummy and daddy again - forever. How old are you Lewei - if u don't mind me asking?
Lots of love for now,
xxxxx

thanks quakers for the "huge hugs". hope the 13th went ok for you.
lewei, great news about the panel. i really hope they provide some anwers for you and dp and that you get some sort of comfort from it.
lots of luck with your gp on wed-will be thinking of you. hope it goes really well and that she doesn't spot your sunburn!
lets us all know how it went. LOL

I am 32,Quackers, i can't believe it sometimes, i don't know where the last 10 years went. Having a family always seemed like something we would do "later" "plenty time for that" now all of a sudden i am in my thirties and time seems to be flying past. Dp is 36 this year and in his own opinion he is ageing incredibly well compared to those he was in school with (i just agree to humour him)I think maybe being that bit older has maybe helped us cope with our losses, we are far more mature as people and by far more sensible than we were even five years ago, but then again we were probably not ready to start a family five years ago. What i do know is that there were many many people who expected us to fall apart( our relationship) after the little man died, but our relationship has changed, deepened and losing our other little ones this year has again brought us closer together, we are more aware of each others moods and fears. We were told that it would be difficult for me to have children because what was thought to be fibriods(which were nonexistant) so i never really yearned for something that i never expected to get, our ds was a great gift, once reality sunk in we realised that this was the one thing that we were missing, he was all our hopes and dreams rolled into one gorgeous little package. Now being parents is no1 on our list, if it is meant to be. If not then my lovely doggy will have all the attention to herself. Am i babbling on again???????

Bless you Lewei, you're really smart! Still fairly young though , I'm 30 this year. I had my dd at 26 and she desperately needs a playmate! Poor lamb, she says where's baby gone every now and again - hoping I can tell her soon that another is on the way!! I agree I couln't have coped with the loss at all in my early 20's and we might have fell apart if it had happened then. One thing is for sure your relationship is never the same again after it. I am really grateful that we are closer after several 'moments' of frustration and anger. I am actually happy 3 months on and really trying to relax and hope that it happens again soon.
I really wish you well this week and hope you get some answers that might help you deal with what has happened to you both. A friend of mine carried to 38 weeks and lost her baby and they never found out why but a year later she gave birth without any problems. It must be so tough not knowing exactly why and why you. Best of luck Lewei and for trying again!
xxxx

How did you get on at your GP's yesterday, Lewei?

Lewei

I only now have found this thread, I am appalled by the way you've been treated and you're doing exetremely well demanding explanantions, I would insist on your mc being investigated too, especially after the mess they've done!! I beleive they owe something to you!!

All my love and admiration for being so brave, don't believe I' be able to cope like you do.

Best of luck, hope the NHS will get their act together soon!!

Sorry i have taken so long to reply (working weekend) Well the results of my swabs STILL are not back, that will be two weeks on wednesday. My GP was great she is pushing us forward for investigations, she doesn't think it is right to make us wait to see if will lose another baby before anything is done. She was very interested in our tranexamic acid theory and also wants to look into the possibility of using low dose aspirin.The hospital now know that the little one(tissue to them) went to the pathologist, but they're not entirely sure which one or when my GP will receive the results. Lots of if's, but's and maybe's. Dr says to try again as soon as we fell mentally and physically strong enough, not to listen to all those who are telling us to wait a year or two (mostly well meaning friends who already have two or three children already) On a brighter note my dp is finally divorced after four long years of waiting while lawyers argued amongst themselves (cosing both sides a pretty penny) So he wants to get married asap, i think we can wait another couple of months until we are on holiday, but it is quite exciting.Just wish we were doing it with a year old, blond curly cutie as our paige boy and a wedding dress to accomodate a big bump, but as they say "if wishes were horses"!!!!!!!!

LEWEI

nice to hear some good news from you.
Hope you'll soon ahve some more, keep us posted!!

Hi Lewei, I'm so pleased you're getting married! One thing less off your mind then too with the divorce coming through!I can't believe people telling you to wait so long to try again. Why not try again - it's better to move forward than to sit there worrying for a year what if, what could have been etcc.. At least you will have tried and given nature a chance again. You do what you want to do when it feels right to do it!
Lots of love and hope you have some news soon from the tests.
xxxx

Test results have appeared, all clear, no infection in any shape or form . So now we can go ahead with the investigation and probably next month we will start trying again. I feel that a year is a long long time to wait, especially when a woman is in her thirties! Tonight we will be celebrating our day of good news, i have the wine chilling. Its so nice to know that so many people on mumsnet care.Thank you, your support is a great comfort to me.

Lewei, this is great news - enjoy the wine

Great news Lewei - ENJOY!!!!!

lewei,
i've just logged on again after spending most of the past week in the garden making the most of this glorious weather and was delighted to hear your great news. everything really seems so much more positive all of a sudden. brilliant news that your gp is investigating- there's no way you should have to experience another loss before anything is done- so that's great. excellent also that there's no reason why you can't start ttc whenever you feel ready. you know what you want so just go at your own pace and don't listen to well-meaning people who just haven't experienced your yearning and losses. lots of luck with everything. congrats on the romantic front-super news. congrats to dp also-nice one!!

Lewei, I am a great believer in TTCing as soon as you feel ready, so good to read your last couple of posts. Wishing you all the best with your various plans and congratulations on your forthcoming marriage!

I am in a state of shock ath the moment, i haven't
been feeling very great for the last few days, so out of curiosity i did a pregnancy test this morning and it it POSITIVE !!!!!!!!but it is only four weeks since i miscarried, so am i four weeks pregnant as the calulator's say??? I have just phoned dp to tell him, he is quite shocked too. I am delighted but worried, is it to soon? what will the doctors say? Is my body going to be able to carry this little one after every thing it has gone through in the last ten months (and having a conception date of friday the 13th is quite scary)Lots of questions but

lewei, what brilliant news!!! I have all my fingers crossed for you, roll on the next 8 months! congratulations.

indeed Lewei, that's astounding. We will all be rooting for you so hard this time round our eyes will be watering! Can you get to see your GP asap and take her advice about tranexamic acid/low dose aspirin?
Big hugs and many congratulations on conceiving again. Thinking of you all!

Fantastic news Lewei, take care of yourself.

Oh and don't worry about Friday 13th, I was born on one, and look at me

I'm so thrilled to hear about your news though

Lewei, I've just caught the tail-end of this - congratulations, I wish you all the very best! And don't worry about the date either - I was married on Fri 13th, conceived on Fri 13th (not same year!) and am due Thurs 13th - oh well - nearly!

Good luck

Lewei, that's brilliant. It's only too soon if you're not ready and you sound like you are! I have started ttc straight after an early m/c so it's encouraging to hear some good news!

Lewei ... great news! Fab ...