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Miscarriage at 12 weeks - pls do not read if sensitive to TMI

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doggus · 27/03/2009 19:07

I was 12 weeks pregnant, bleeding slightly for the last three weeks, which turned into a torrent of blood and then I started to miscarry yesterday.

I have to go into the details here because I need some advice. I passed the baby, I know because to our horror we both saw. I then passed a large grey lump about the size of my palm. After lots more blood and clots the bleeding settled.

However today the bleeding and cramps have hugely intensified. I passed a huge lump of grey rope earlier, and more clots. What shall I do - if anything? I phoned the GP who said there was nothing they could do and go to A and E if it got too bad.

Does anyone have a view - I am really reluctant to go to A and E as we are, to make matters worse, struggling with ds who has a vomiting virus and is being sick constantly even on water.

Any help greatly appreciated. I just feel so miserable.

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Northernlurker · 27/03/2009 19:12

You poor thing - how awful for you. How many pads are you filling with the blood and how quickly?

So sorry for your loss

SobranieCocktail · 27/03/2009 19:13

You poor thing! Not sure what to advise, but wanted to offer sympathy

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doggus · 27/03/2009 19:15

Hi northern and sobranie - thank you for replying. I am filling a pad every two hours.

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Lulumama · 27/03/2009 19:16

sometimes you are advised to keep what you have passed to ensure it has been passed in whole. am so sorry, it must be so upsetting.

have you tried calling EPAU or gynae ward for advice?

if you are losing a lot of blood or in a lot of pain then you should be seen

are you soeaking through a pad quicker than every hour ?

AlistairSim · 27/03/2009 19:18

Ah you poor sweatheart.

When I miscarried at 12 weeks, I passed pretty much the same things but in hospital.
The grimmest time of my life so far.

Other than the cramps, how are you feeling? Do you have any fever or weakness?

I found NHS Direct really helpful when it happened to me.

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doggus · 27/03/2009 19:18

Hi lulu - a pad every two hours or so. EPU is closed - maybe I will ring maternity hospital?

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doggus · 27/03/2009 19:20

Hi alastair - no fever, just feel dreadful with a huge headache, but I think that is from crying. It is really grim isn't it, and I haven't led a sheltered life. I feel I will never forget what I have seen.

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Lulumama · 27/03/2009 19:21

you could ask to speak to someone in gynae?

morningsun · 27/03/2009 19:21

ring a&e direct for advice?

georgimama · 27/03/2009 19:21

I would go to A&E if I were you. I know you don't really want to but you need a scan to make sure nothing has been retained.

So sorry.

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doggus · 27/03/2009 19:22

lulu - will do I think. Will call them in a minute.

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Northernlurker · 27/03/2009 19:22

I think ringing somebody for advice would be a good plan. NHS direct? They can tell you what the 'normal' blood loss is. How do you feel - are you in pain, feel lightheaded or weak?

AlistairSim · 27/03/2009 19:24

Please let us know how you get on, doggus.

sandpebbles · 27/03/2009 19:29

hi doggus, i think absoloutely go to A and E, so sorry to hear what is happening. I think you are being very brave.

elsiepiddock · 27/03/2009 19:31

Have no advice, but poor you - it sounds very scarey to cope with at home.

daftpunk · 27/03/2009 19:33

so sorry you're going through this

i'd deffo go to A&E.

take care

HumphreysCorner · 27/03/2009 19:42

Agree that you must contact A&E. doggus, I am so very sorry.

EldonAve · 27/03/2009 19:43

Sorry to hear of your loss

If you fill more than 1 pad an hour or feel faint go to A&E
If necessary call an ambulance

When I mc I found NHS direct and the hosp gynae ward no help

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doggus · 27/03/2009 19:43

Have rung - going to measure blood loss for an hour and then report back. xx

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happyjules · 27/03/2009 19:47

Hi doggus I really feel for what you are going through at the moment. My mmc was two weeks ago ago and I to passed my baby whislt at home on my own in the middle of the night. I was undergoing medical management of a mmc but things happened quickly and i wasn't in hospoital.
I do think for your own peace of mind and medical reassurance you should make contact with your local hospital even though they may only advise you to stay at home. Trust your instincts if you can. If you can speak to someone on gynae as it should reduce the risk of you being dealt with by maternity
No you wont ever forget what you have seen and I am so sorry for your loss lots of hugs

funtimewincies · 27/03/2009 19:49

I was advised to go to A&E if the miscarriage got to be 'more than I could cope with' for whatever reason, be it bloodloss, pain or being emotionally unable to take any more.

So sorry to hear about your experience and hope that you get adequate support .

LittlePeanut · 27/03/2009 19:50

So sorry doggus. I had a missed mc last year, which eventually came away at 17 wks - although baby had stopped developing at 14 and a half weeks. I also saw too much.

I feel your pain, I really do. It is the most miserable, painful thing to endure. I just wanted to say that time does heal, you will never ever forget, but you will not feel so helpless with grief.

For now, just let it all out. Nobody is expecting you to just carry on and be strong. Wishing you all the best x

oopsagain · 27/03/2009 20:11

my friend had this about 2 yrs ago.
She passed her little one and then had alot of bleeding.
She ended up in hosp and had transfusions..

i don't want to worry you- but i want to say that you do need to be very careful about how much blood you lose- it really can be qute major.

Call up and ask how mush blood they think is acceptible... and if you really aren't sure then get yourself to a and e tonigh.

and my friend kept her little one and they bought a little basket and had a special burial for him at a humanist burial place.
It seemd right for them and thier family to do this- and it provided sme closure.

Hth, tho' i'm sure you are completely devastated.
Try not to think of the horror of it- your baby wouldn't have suffered I'm sure.

KateF · 27/03/2009 20:20

I'm so sorry for your loss . I miscarried at 13 weeks and needed a scan to confirm that everything had gone- it hadn't and I had an ERPC next day. If your bleeding doesn't settle you should definitely go for a scan.
It really is an awful experience

whomovedmychocolate · 27/03/2009 20:27

So sorry to hear of your loss. Do go to the hospital if you experience any signs of infection in the next few weeks (high temperature, smell, discharge, recurrence of pain after 72 hours etc).

I know it's hard right now to think ahead but once the bleeding eases, it would pay you to get some iron supplements (Spatone or similar) to try and build yourself back up again. If you have lost a lot of blood you can take months to recover without supplements.

I hope your son feels better soon as well.

Please do make time to cry though - I know you have to cope with your son as well but it's got to come out or you just go demented (well I did for a while anyway).