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Anyone there to hold my hand....please.

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calsworld · 27/08/2008 07:57

I'm about 9 weeks pregnant and when I went to the toilet last night I was bleeding. This was at about 10.15

I rang the emergency number on my notes and they said to call out of hours doctor, which I did. I went to see her and by this time had been to the loo about -100-- times several times and to start off with the blood died down but I've had more again this morning.

Its not bright red, neither is it brown, but its quite dark red. There's quite a bit of clotty bits in it.

Yesterday morning and this morning I've had quite bad pains followed by a poo - similar to what I would normally experience during periods due to my endometriosis, and when I've been to the loo the pain has gone.

My tummy feels sore today - the kind of discomfort I've been attributing to stretching and growing, but its not painful, if that makes any sense. Doctor says I have to wait it out but has moved my scan from next week to tomorrow. I wish it was today though.

I don't really know why I'm posting as I know that no-one can tell me if the pregnancy is ending or if in fact everything will be OK, but it feels better to write it down.

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MKG · 27/08/2008 22:09

Hi Cal. I'm so sorry things are not getting better.

There really is no right thing for me to say to you, but just know that you aren't alone, and that we are here.

LackaDAISYcal · 27/08/2008 22:17

just wanted to say I'll be thinking about both you and dinny tomorrow.

re pain; take what you need to take the pain away if it comes to that. When I had my first MC at 11 weeks, the hospital sent me home with some strong co-codamol with the advice to keep the pain at bay as it makes things a bit easier. I was taking that and ibuprofen as well. It didn't make the emotional side of things easier , but it was one less thing to deal with iyswim.

fingers crossed it won't come to that though.

{{{{hugs}}}}}

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calsworld · 27/08/2008 22:19

I'm struggling, I really really thought I'd be OK but the tears just keep coming. I don't seem to be able to stop them. Everynow and then I have a wave of pain and when I go to the loo, its falling out of me...still not much on the pads though.

My back hurts, think I'll take some paracetamol and hope to get some sleep.

Do they still scan me if I'm still bleeding and in pain tomorrow?

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SesQal · 27/08/2008 22:23

Yes, I do think they'll still scan you and if there's any doubt (v unlikely I'd have thought), insist on it.
How's your DH?
Do try and get some sleep. Paracetamol may help with that too as it does make some people a little bit sleepy.

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calsworld · 27/08/2008 22:30

I asked DH how he feels and he thought for a little while...then said he was looking forward to the day we have another baby in our arms, as in the birth of the next baby, and he was sad that it wasn't going to be in March but that it was OK as we'd just try again. Emotionally, DH is very strong and think he's fine. He's being lovely to me, he always is so its no change really, I just appreciate it more at the moment. (Mental note to self to appreciate him more in the future).

Will they offer to take it away for me? Do I have no choice but to sit and let it eek out bit by bit?

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LackaDAISYcal · 27/08/2008 22:32

oh, cal

yes they will scan you and hopefully treat you with great sensitivity.

Try and get some rest.

{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

LackaDAISYcal · 27/08/2008 22:34

You will be able to speak to someone and might even be sent over to the early pregnancy unit if your hospital has one, and will be given the option of whether to have a d and c or to let nature take it's course.

Take Care xx

SesQal · 27/08/2008 22:36

I will never forget the combination of love, support and hurt I saw in DH's eyes at that scan. They go through it too just in a very different way. He even apologised for not crying very much!

We still don't know what will happen tomorrow and again I'm sorry but my only experience of mc is missed mc where my only option was the op. Your options will probably depend on exactly what they see on the scan. Make sure you tell the sonographer when you go in what your concerns are and then they will treat you accordingly.

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calsworld · 27/08/2008 22:38

Thankyou, I'm going to turn the laptop off now (am tucked up in bed with clean teeth!).

Here's hoping for an easy night, somehow, I don't think its going to happen but I've got to close my eyes at some point...

Goodnight guys - Dinny, good luck for your scan tomorrow.

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SesQal · 27/08/2008 22:40

Ok. Take care x

SesQal · 28/08/2008 08:16

Cal and Dinny - thinking of you. Hope all goes well today. Will be at work but will check in via my phone. x

Rhonds · 28/08/2008 08:44

Good luck for today x

holly81 · 28/08/2008 09:34

hi cal not posted to you before but just read what your going through i 2 am pregnant only 6 weeks but had bleeding all weekend then since have done a negative test am having a scan tomorrow so understand how your feeling thinking of you today holly xx

Pinkjenny · 28/08/2008 09:36

Good luck for today, Cal xxxxx

Diege · 28/08/2008 09:56

Good luck for today Cals, and Dinny too. Have everything crossed for both of you xxx

sue10 · 28/08/2008 10:21

Thinking of you ladies today.
XXX.

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calsworld · 28/08/2008 13:51

Thankyou everyone for your kind messages and support. Sadly, its all over for me, a complete spontaneous miscarriage confirmed by a scan in gynae this morning. At the moment I'm just glad that its all over with.

Everyone has looked after me really well, I'm finally back home and tucking into lunch, DH is working from home this afternoon.

Dinny, hope your outcome is more positive.

Thanks again everyone, its really helped having such wonderful support available. x

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liahgen · 28/08/2008 13:59

look after yourself, when this happened to me, it crept up on me when i thought all was well. x

OracleInaCoracle · 28/08/2008 14:00

oh cals, im so, so sorry. be kind to yourself x

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calsworld · 28/08/2008 14:03

Thanks guys...don't be sad for me, this baby just wasn't meant to be. I'll be TTC again soon and hopefully things will work out better next time.

I'm a bit older, a bit wiser and next time, I'll take the morphine a bit quicker instead of feeling like I had to brave it out.

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CaptainKarvol · 28/08/2008 14:14

Cals, I'm really sorry to hear that. I'm glad you have an answer now, but sorry that it had to be this one. Take care.

Mikafan · 28/08/2008 14:17

sorry to hear this calsworld. Good luck for next time. Take it easy. I've had 2 MC and they do take a while to get over mentally and physically even if they happened early.

dinny · 28/08/2008 16:00

Cal, really really sorry to read this

Have posted on my thread too

Dinny xxxx

LackaDAISYcal · 28/08/2008 16:46

oh, cal, so sorry to hear this . Take care of yourself, rest and take as much time off work as you need, and I hope things go well for you in the future.

You know where we are on the pregnancy after miscarriage thread

balanomorey · 28/08/2008 18:44

Had picked up on your post earlier in the week and was so hoping for a positive outcome for you - I am so, so sorry for your loss. I had a m/c earlier in the year so can appreciate how you must be feeling. You are so right tho, this one, for whatever reason wasn't meant to be....keep trying - I'll be raising a glass tonight to all us ladies who are wishing to hold lo's again, or even for the first time. Don't give up, stay positive. x.