Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

Original poster

Anyone there to hold my hand....please.

115 replies

calsworld · 27/08/2008 07:57

I'm about 9 weeks pregnant and when I went to the toilet last night I was bleeding. This was at about 10.15

I rang the emergency number on my notes and they said to call out of hours doctor, which I did. I went to see her and by this time had been to the loo about -100-- times several times and to start off with the blood died down but I've had more again this morning.

Its not bright red, neither is it brown, but its quite dark red. There's quite a bit of clotty bits in it.

Yesterday morning and this morning I've had quite bad pains followed by a poo - similar to what I would normally experience during periods due to my endometriosis, and when I've been to the loo the pain has gone.

My tummy feels sore today - the kind of discomfort I've been attributing to stretching and growing, but its not painful, if that makes any sense. Doctor says I have to wait it out but has moved my scan from next week to tomorrow. I wish it was today though.

I don't really know why I'm posting as I know that no-one can tell me if the pregnancy is ending or if in fact everything will be OK, but it feels better to write it down.

OP posts:
Playingthe9monthwait · 27/08/2008 09:26

Cal - no real advice to add just wanted to let you know I am thinking about you and I really hope everything works out.

Diege · 27/08/2008 09:38

Good for you ringing Cals - midwives can often get to the places that GPs can't! Take care, and let us know how you get on

glaskhamhasoneintheoven · 27/08/2008 09:54

oh cals- hope you can get seen earlier... hope everything is ok for you. I had bits of bleeding with ds all the way through my pregnancy... he came out of it fine!! [hugs] (i know we dont do them but you need one!!)

will be thinking of you!! x

LynetteScavo · 27/08/2008 09:59

calsworld...hope I didnt' sound too harsh in my last post. I've been where you are and know how scary it is.

Keeping every thing crossed for you! Good luck!

Original poster
calsworld · 27/08/2008 10:13

LS, not harsh at all, I'm really grateful for the support.

The midwife hasn't rung back and the office is closed now. I did try ringing just before 10 but it went to answerphone....now I don't know what to do.

My tummy is sore and I'm very tired, just been to loo and the bleeding has eased off again. It still isn't bright red which I'm taking as a good sign but on the other hand, the soreness doesn't feel very positive.

I wish I just knew one way or another what was going on. I'm sure whoever makes up this rules and guidelines that dictate women should sit and wait at home can't have ever experienced it themselves.

Am sad for my DH too, at the moment he's at work, he looks after me so well, and I know its totally irrational but I do feel a bit like a disappointment to him. Lots of hugs tonight I hope.

If it is all over I'm probably going to get very drunk .

OP posts:
GYo · 27/08/2008 10:23

Hi Cals- just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you today and sending lots of positive vibes. Get lots of rest.x

ronshar · 27/08/2008 10:34

Calsworld, come and join us on the Knicker checking thread. There are lots of us who are pregnant after MC and some of the ladies are also sitting through the torture of waiting for scans following a bleed.
If you can find Jules she unfortunatley bleed solidly for nearly 2 months. Baby Jules was born last month.
Bleeding DOES NOT mean MC. It can be bruising on cervix, implantation bleeding, a small blood clot that can form between placenta and uterus etc.
All of these things are common and while cause a huge amount of trauma for us pregnant ladies it doesnt seem to bother our little beans.

Congratulations to you for your pregnancy. Try not to get yourself too upset and hold on for your scan.
I hope to see you on the Knickerchecking thread. We are all lovely and the support is fabulous.

Original poster
calsworld · 27/08/2008 10:38

thanks ronshar...will peek in...

OP posts:
Diege · 27/08/2008 10:41

Cals, assume it was a community midwife you spoke to? Might be worth giving the hospital midwives a ring and explain the other midwife's concern but that she's not got back to you? I think it's reasonable to get some feedback when you've been told she was trying to arrange a scan for today.
You could then (if they're no help) either brave the A&E route (where you'd get a scan eventually I'm sure at some point today)or go the dvds and choccy route and camp it out til tomorrow. I do know how you feel - it's a very scary place to be in - but hopefully it's just a blip in an otherwise uneventful pregnancy.

Original poster
calsworld · 27/08/2008 10:46

Diege - It wasn't the hospital so I assume it was the community midwife team. I'd kind of decided to give it till 11.30 coz she might have had lots of women ringing in that hour and be dealing with follow up stuff afterwards....and don't want to be a pain. I'm not trying to be meek, i just know that I need to accept that answers can't always be instant.

If I haven't heard from anyone by 11.30 I'll ring the midwifery triage team again (I rang them last night).

I am very tired after being up so late last night - with not finding the bleed till bedtime, then waiting for them to ring me back (out of hours service is like nhs direct here), then going down to their treatment centre with poor DS in tow as we have no emergency babysitters sorted out....I had to wake DS this morning but he was still chirpy, he's such a good boy and I'm very lucky I know.

OP posts:
dinny · 27/08/2008 10:48

yes, Calsworld, if you want a scan today I think you should ask them to fit you in, and if they won't say that you have no choice but to come down to the hospital

my scan is tomorrow (the nuchal routine one) - I'm going to wait, unless I start heavily bleeding or cramping

dinny · 27/08/2008 10:49

Ronshar, can you do a link?

I really need the loo but can't bear the worry

Original poster
calsworld · 27/08/2008 10:52

Dinny, I found it, its here

OP posts:
Original poster
calsworld · 27/08/2008 10:53

Doh, ignore that one! That's my thread!

Its here

OP posts:
kookykid · 27/08/2008 11:04

Cals, I am thinkng of you. SO sorry you are going through this and I have everything corssed that all is OK. xxx

Dalrymps · 27/08/2008 11:05

calsworld - Really sorry to hear you're having such a worrying time. I haven't been there so can't imagine how you're feeling but I hope you get a scan asap so you know what the score is. I second the choccy and dvd plan. As lots of others have said, bleeding can mean many things and not just a mc, hang in there, thinking of you (((hugs)))

Original poster
calsworld · 27/08/2008 11:25

I've just spoken to the Gynae assessment unit at hospital which is where I'm booked in for a scan tomorrow. She has taken my number in case they have any slots become free today but otherwise they can't fit me in today unless I get an emergency referral from a GP. I'd only get an emergency referral if the pain becomes 'unbearable'.

Chocolates and MN / DVD's it is then. At least I asked the question. I'm disappointed that the MW that said she'd ring back hasn't...I feel unimportant now.

OP posts:
dinny · 27/08/2008 11:31

Calsworld - was just about to write that am in same situ with my mw but she literally just called to see how things are....

I bet yours will phone before lunchtime

what time is your scan tomorrow? mine is 11.30. I'll be thinking of you. my friend has taken dd and ds off to softplay so am going to lie down and watch This Morning. take care, Dinny xxx

MKG · 27/08/2008 12:27

Oh Calsworld and Dinny I really am hoping the best for both of you.

dinny · 27/08/2008 12:29

thanks MKG

seems so surreal after never having prob in other two pregnancies - have been so lucky with dd and ds

MKG · 27/08/2008 12:34

I know.

I felt the same when I had my MC in January.

Just stay positive knowing that this can be "one of those things" that happens and we don't really know why.

dinny · 27/08/2008 12:40

yes, it's all fate anyway

just can't bear the thought of hearing the worst tomorrow

GruffaloSoldier · 27/08/2008 12:46

So sorry Cals that you are going through this not knowing. I will be thinking of you lovely. Please rest up. Hope you get your scan soon xxx

Original poster
calsworld · 27/08/2008 12:57

Thanks for the messages everyone. I've been sleeping for a while which is probably for the best, it helps pass the time at any rate.

I'm going to go and have a shower and then try to find something to eat - I haven't had anything yet as I just don't fancy anything.

OP posts:
Starshinetiger · 27/08/2008 13:40

Cals, so sorry to hear you're going through it. Not much I can say, but sounds like you've got lots of excellent support on here. Am thinking of you.