Please hold my hand while I miscarry very scared

[Tweetypie27]

I’m 10 weeks baby died at around 6.5 sac was measuring 7 weeks. I had no option for any treatment till Monday. The bleeding has begun I’m so scared I’ve never been so scared as I am right now. It’s started off slow but I’ve miscarried before at seven weeks and it started like this then was fast and brutal.
But not to painful thankfully.
im scared incase I bleed to death my kids are at their dads thankfully. Help me through the night :-(

Wow you did really well I found out the 23rd and had the family over for Xmas they all wanted to cancel and I said no it kept me busy but I wasn’t bleeding then.
I’m going to just try and do the next few days as Normal then and hope it comes out I am having a lot of period pain now all the time so living on painkillers just hoping it’s a sign it’s going to pass soon. I think your really brave thanks for replying to me means a lot.

I think because I hadn't known I was pregnant long it hadn't all sunk in so maybe that was easier for me. Obviously there was no escaping it because of the pain and everyone I went to the toilet (I always need a wee too im terrible!). But it was very mind over matter for me or I'd have been a wreck.

I think I just wanted to get on with things. I was up all night Christmas night into boxing morning and then when it passed I took some cocodamol to get to sleep which helped. It was all the not knowing for me that I found hard and it being Xmas it was a bit like can I calm down and have a drink or do I need to keep making excuses (nobody knew except my partner).

Don't be daft, we're all in the same boat. I hope you'll be okay x

I also had my first negative test today which I was dreading but I wasn't really upset like I thought.

Then my brother popped round with his little one so we were busy doing some jobs he said he'd help with and then we went to the shops... and I'd forgot about it until now replying to you. Honestly try and keep busy xx

Hi the pains have ramped up for me at the moment I’ve rang EPU as I’m really worried why I’m in this pain but nothing is passing 😪
They told me it’s normal and that it sounds like it will pass soon. I’m so scared of it going wrong and needing hospital I have such anxiety with it all and being messed around with I just wish it would come out of me now.
I just dread everyday at the moment.

Hope it happens soon for you. Have yourself a hot bath it helped me xx

Yeah I had that. It was. The gas and air helped. It was over quickly. And when they put the pain relief up my backside sorry tmi it helped quickly.

Just can’t believe a MC hurts this much I’ve been in tears. My oldest son is going on at me to go the gym and I said I can’t I’m in agony so we had a huge row he said he’s sick of me being Like this now can’t believe he’s being so vile.
I’m meant to do the uniforms and stuff but I actually just can’t get up and do things as I have the most hideous period cramps of my life and just have to Rock through it it’s like labour when your about 5cm.
why is life so cruel I have a high pain threshold and had my last two at home no pain relief but this is worse there’s no end to it just horribleness.
Im so sorry for moaning but I can’t cope at all I’m trying but I never knew it hurt so much my last MC was not this painful and was over fast this one is relentless.
i don’t know whether to go and get the pessary but I’m so sore down below the thought of anyone touching me is horrible.

How old is your son? Does he know what's happening?

I was in agony too but only for around 8/9 hours. Painful for about 24 but the last stint really ramped up so maybe you're close.

Have you took some pain relief xx

That’s what the midwife said so I’m hoping I am by now surely. He’s 16 he knows it’s a miscarriage but don’t fully get the situation he thinks I’m just being mean.
He is at that selfish age it’s all me me me I told him he can’t get the bus in and out of town jn the dark so can’t go as I don’t need that worry too.
I can’t drive at all so he will just have to suck it up for now currently stomping around the house and hates me I think.

Ah well he will live won't he.

Hopefully you see a bit of movement soon

Are you taking all the painkillers you're allowed? Make sure you're topped up with meds and hopefully this is it happening for you now it's ramped up

Just give birth to it worse experience of my life I’m sill getting contractions so I gather placenta has to come next bleeding as slowed though thankfully

Hope you are ok. Hopefully the worst is over. Xx

Oh sweetheart, I am so sorry. I've followed your thread from the beginning and I was about to post and suggest you ask for pain relief from the hospital.

I miscarried at 14 weeks (in hospital) and the pain was off the scale. I was given pethidine.

At least it's almost over now. The placenta may well have come out with the baby. It wouldn't be obvious. Please, if you bleed a lot, go to hospital.

Won't be a placenta for a baby of that gestation, OP. I hope you get to rest now.

I’m bleeding heavy but not major now like an extremely heavy period or like the bleeding after giving birth I’m still getting period pain but the pressure I had has gone it was defo the sac it was the size of my had and I fished it out and there was a something hard inside of it the outline of a very small baby inside the sac my friend was with me and she said it was the sac don’t understand why I’m still in pain like this though.
i felt relief when that came out and now I’m in pain again can you get afterpaina like labour ? That’s how it feels I hope nothing more comes out of me it was so frightening

Ok someone told me there would be a placenta there it must of been it because it was so big and just plopped into the toilet and it was hard half was soft half was hard but covered in a blood. I wasn’t expecting jt to be so big like that but I still have period cramps but the bleeding has slowed I hope nothing else is I. There the whole thing is so scary and I will never get pregnant again after this.

That's how I felt too. Less pressure but still pain. I took some cocodamol and went to sleep but I was exhausted as had been up all night.

Could you go to bed?

If the pain gets worse consult a doctor/epu.
Xx

I’ve had two last year and I just camp out on or near the toilet as you do lose a lot of blood. I wear massive maternity pads and use a hot water bottle. I don’t ever use analgesia but paracetamol every four hours will help. Also drink loads and loads of water - keep hydrated

Yes, you can get afterpains.
If you carry on bleeding a lot you must go to hospital.

I feel better in the toilet it helps the pains.

It is heavy like after you have given birth it’s the only way to describe it. It stops for a bit then j her bursts of it then nothing then bursts of it again.
Im hoping I’m over the worst of it now I lost more clots and the pain eased. My last MC I bled heavy for six hours and it’s been about three now so I hope it slows down soon.

I collapsed and ended up in hospital they had to pull the baby out it’s was stuck what I thought was the baby wasn’t. I lost so much blood I will never get over this MC ever.

Sending you lots of love.

You have done so well and you'll recover in time.

You won't get one this experience but it will get easier. You are stronger than you feel right now. You have been so strong.

Look after yourself and follow the advice the hospital gave you. Lots of rest.

Will be thinking of you today ♥️

I am so sorry. This has been a terrible experience for you.
I can't imagine what you've gone through.
It's dreadful that you've been forced to suffer like this.
I dont understand why they made you go through this. Surely a D & C would have been safer and kinder?
I would complain because you might have died from blood loss at home.
To be honest I was worried this would be the outcome for you and I'm just glad you made it to hospital.
You truly have my sympathy.