Please hold my hand while I miscarry very scared

[Tweetypie27]

I’m 10 weeks baby died at around 6.5 sac was measuring 7 weeks. I had no option for any treatment till Monday. The bleeding has begun I’m so scared I’ve never been so scared as I am right now. It’s started off slow but I’ve miscarried before at seven weeks and it started like this then was fast and brutal.
But not to painful thankfully.
im scared incase I bleed to death my kids are at their dads thankfully. Help me through the night :-(

I hope its over quick. Know how you feel. Had 3 miscarriages. Sending all my love and hugs ❤

Thankyou this is also my third MC I do have children but three seems excessive still for one person to have but at least my other two MC were over so fast before I could process them ending this one is much harder and drawn out. I do have the option of a D & C I’m going to try the pessary first then just have the op if it doesn’t work as I can’t do this I’m so drained.

Everyone around me is having babies or announcing them and it’s so depressing to hear all the time I will feel better once mine is over and I can move on.

I do not have the mental strength to try again after this it’s floored me more than I ever could imagine.

Its new year tomorrow can’t believe I’m still in this position on New Year.

Thanks for all your kind words it does help so much.

Well it seems I can’t even miscarry properly I’m just losing red blood and some stringy bits no clots I’m so upset I’m sick of this. So sorry to moan I just feel like I’m in a never ending hell and cannot leave the house.
Happy New year ladies

So sorry @Tweetypie27 so miserable when you just want the physical part over.

Can relate to all you say. After two miscarriages this year I am so ready for this year to be over. Hope the physical process picks up and you can begin the healing process x

No advice, just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss x

From what I have read (and believe me it's a lot.. hours and hours). No two miscarriages are alike. Your body will do what it needs to do. Take care of yourself xxx

I didn't have lots and lots of clots either. In fact I don't think I remember any .. but my body still passed a little sac xx

Thanks ladies I’m hoping a sac passes soon I’m getting contractions everyday like mild labour between 4-8 blood then it’s all stops again so strange. I can ring tomorrow and ask their advice on the tablet route.

How are you feeling now x

Hi thanks for asking after me I’m still bleeding but not heavy it’s red and has some clotty tissue but no large clots and no sac has passed 😞I forgot to ask you yesterday how far were you with your MC as you had no clots ? I wish that was me but I can’t see how as I’m 11 weeks now but baby didn’t grow past 7 was only 3.8mm big on scan.
I don’t know whether to ask for the tablets now to hurry it along or let my body pass this what do you think ?

Hi. I've been thinking about you today.
I was 6w3d but hadn't had a scan so perhaps stopped growing before? I really don't know either way.

This is my first mc so I can't advise on the tablets but maybe you should just ring the epu and ask? They rang me the other day and were so lovely.

I had a few stringy bits but no clots really that I can remember but I probably wasn't thinking straight either.

@Tweetypie27 I'm so very sorry lovely- I only found out whilst at my first scan many years ago at 13 weeks and was sent straight to theatre - I remember the feeling well- physically and emotionally

I hope you are OK, sending good wishes for all you hope for in the future and time for you to grieve your loss, so sorry. 💐

Sending love and a handhold. Hope you are ok

Hi OP, so sorry for what you're going through.

I had a similar experience with a miscarriage at 8 weeks, the bleeding went on for so long I spent days in the bathroom unable to leave the house and in the end I had the surgical management and I'd really recommend it.

I felt similar to you and my mental health was deteriorating, I went to the hospital, had an anaesthetic and woke up and all the cramping and bleeding was gone and I wish I'd done it straight away.

Definitely something to consider if you're still bleeding.

Hi Thankyou ladies yes I might consider the D & C if it doesn’t happen in the next few days as I’m drained now with it all just want it over with. Nobody tells you it might go on and on like this :-(

Thanks for replying yes this stopped at 6 weeks 5 days I think so I’m not expecting massive product (horrible term) but I expect something more I’m just bleeding daily it’s gets slightly heavier each day has some small clots that have stopped now and it’s like a period but they said I will feel a sac come out and I haven’t I’m giving it till tomorrow then getting the tablet.

Morning hope you're feeling ok

It's all the unknowns isn't it.

I actually said to my partner last night "I always thought a miscarriage would be bleeding. I didn't expect the xyz" he said there's probably lots of things like that where we don't know what it involves until you go through it ..

Are you going to speak to the doctors or hospital today for some more advice?

I would definitely go the dnc route. When I had mmc at 12 weeks I tried the tablets but they didn't work for me. So I had a dnc in the end was just a carry on. Make sure you get put to sleep. I was awake and regretted that decision. This was December 18th when I found out and didn't get the op till the 19th January so had to have 2 lots of antibiotics in between. Definitely took the p. Hope you're okay x

They said they will call me today but nobody has yet I’m one of those people who just puts up and shuts up I think and I didn’t ask to many questions at the time when they asked me what I wanted to do. I didn’t want a GA and put to sleep as it makes me really sick after and I’m scared of it.
I am just scared of the whole process my partners gone out today with my little girl so I’ve got a break but I’m still in pain all the time I just went the toilet and I’m losing some clots now but not big ones I broke one open (tmi) but nothing was inside like I was hoping it was the sac or something. I’m hoping the clots mean it’s getting going but I still think I will need the tablets maybe.
I’m going to wait till morning if they haven’t called I will ring and ask their advice on whether to carry on or take the pills and D & C as last resort.
I didn’t think MC could take this long my last two just came out fast and brutally and now I think that was the lesser of two Evils.

Did you have the MVA was it awful ? So sorry for you all options are crap aren’t they.

Really mentally struggling to cope with this now I thought it was finally going to come out today but just bleeding since that clot earlier and no more clots. Why won’t it come out I’m so upset 😪😪

Bless you 😞

I bled from Monday night on and off until the following Monday when it passed. I then bled on and off again until the following Saturday night.

How long has it been for you?

I think you should definitely ring epu and see what they can do for you as it's taking its toll on you now xxx

It started on Thursday I think I’m just comparing it to my other MC and expecting the same. So yours took a week did you go out in that week ? My little girl starts her nursery weds my partner has to go back to work so I’ve got to just carry on.

I did actually. It was 20th December. I was only light so hoped for the best. We went away to Glasgow I didn't drink but made the concert. Done a little bit of shopping.

The week we were home I took my mum and partners mum out for lunch. Took his mum to church Christmas Eve (I did struggle as was in pain by then). I was in a and e 7-9pm trying to get them to treat my water infection after being messed around by 111 and my gp for 5 days.

Christmas morning I managed to go and see my partners little one open his presents. See his mum. Went to my own mums and had lunch and see my nephew open his gifts.

It sounds a lot now but I was adamant I wouldn't spoil anyone's Christmas by morning (even though I had a right to!!). I took the stance that it was nothing I had done and nothing I could do would change it and I was grateful for all the things we did have this year.

I even went out with friends on the 28th. I ummed and ahhed and decided it would do me good. The epu rang me as I was heading out and the midwife rang me about my upcoming appointment and as soon as I sat down 🤦🏼‍♀️. A couple of my friends were talking about a pregnancy scare and how they were panicking (ended up being late period due to flu and covid vax 🤯) so I was a bit quiet then. They actually asked if I was ok 😢. I didn't end up getting wasted and acting a fool... my friend did as she wants to leave her husband...

Tbh carrying on with "life" done me good. Seeing other people and talking about other things and not being stuck in the bloody house. My partner said I should go sick... I'll be getting up at 5:30 tomorrow and heading to work and keeping busy.

I hope you can manage your week too. If not, you can't ... no two miscarriages are the same and you've done amazing already 😘