Lost my baby at 7 weeks pregnant

[misslomi]

Went for a scan today as I'd been spotting and having bad cramps and we got told that there was no heartbeat and the baby was only 7mm so they think it died around a week ago.

I'd had bleeding earlier in my pregnancy but had blood tests which confirmed I was still pregnant. Not sure if the two are related.

I'm just devastated, can't stop crying. Is anyone else in the same boat?

I've opted for surgery with general ansethic, hoping I've made the right decision, not sure I could cope with seeing the blood right now.

Hi op, so sorry for your loss. Not in the same boat but have been there twice. It is very lonely. I didn't have surgical management, I had natural and then medication.

Take care of yourself I found once the medical side was done, it really hit me. It was devestating and people don't talk about, almost like it didn't happen.
Look after yourself 💐.

I'm not in the same position but didn't want to read and run. I'm so sorry for your loss. Just wanted you to know someone is listening and to send you strength to get through this incredibly difficult time. I hope you have good people around you to lean on and to help you through this.

Thank you both, my partner is lovely and very supportive.

I just feel so devastated, even with the issues it was such a shock. I still feel pregnant if that makes sense.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my first pregnancy at 5w4d and it was awful. People don't speak about miscarriage as openly as they should do.

Be kind to yourself and take your time grieving. There's nothing we can say to make you feel better but there's a lot of us who 'get it'.

Sending you hugs.

I'm sorry for your loss. I've had 3 natural spontaneous miscarriages at 8w, 9w and 6w. I wish I could un-see what I saw when they happened, quite traumatising on top of the heartbreak of MC alone. So if I'd had a choice I'd have chosen medical management with that hindsight, but we're all different. Some people may choose to wait and see/expectant management because it gives them more closure than medical management. Whatever you choose will be right for you.

Be kind to yourself 💐

I feel for you. I've had this happen twice, along with two earlier losses at 5 weeks with bleeding. The D&C under general was the best way to go about it for me. I felt like it was quicker and less traumatic than waiting for my body to realize what had happened. There was no pain and very minimal bleeding compared to the natural one I'm having right now.

So sorry you're going through this and hope it can be done quickly for your sake.

@Dinoswearunderpants thank you. My mum has been round which has calmed me a bit. She has miscarried in the past so she got it. So sorry for your loss.

@Margo34 I don't think I could cope with the trauma of potentially seeing something to be honest! You sound very brave. So sorry for your losses.

@Rtmhwales Thank you, yes that's what I'm hoping. I just want it over with so I can move on. So sorry for your losses.

@misslomi i know exactly how you feel, I was told at my 8 week scan that baby had died at 7 weeks, I had no bleeding or pain so was unexpected.
I cried so much in the first week, I honestly never thought I’d get through it and feel better. It’s been 4 weeks since I found out I’d lost the baby and 2 since I passed everything and I’m feeling much better. Still feel shit whenever I think about it much it has gotten easier already❤️ I’m just looking forward to TTC again!
sending you lots of love xxx

@ChloeN thank you. Its just heartbreaking isn't it. Been crying on and off since they told us.

I've got my surgery tomorrow and I'm really scared that I'm going to start bleeding before.

When are you starting to TTC again?

@misslomi i had medical management and honestly the bleeding was not too bad, don’t panic if you do bleed before it’s not always as bad as others say! I was so scared but it was really manageable❤️
Now!🤣 I’m not waiting for a period like they advise, I double checked and it’s only for dating reasons. I feel ready to try again xx

@misslomi @ChloeN be mindful that you might have lingering hormones after MC so if you don't have AF in between then you could end up with a false positive HPT. Not always the case though, just a heads up that it might happen. After my most recent MC it took almost 6w for my hormones to settle down - I was still testing positive on HPT throughout that time and ending up going for a scan to check whether MC had completed or if I was pregnant again - MC was complete it was just lingering hormones. Which meant it was a while before I ovulated, but all those false positive tests in between were almost just as heartbreaking all-over again.

Good luck in your TTC journeys, hope you get your rainbow babies soon🤞🌈💫

@Margo34 thanks lovely, I’ve been told to test after 2 weeks by epu and I’m negative so I’m all good xxx

@ChloeN wishing you the best of luck with everything!

@Margo34 thank you! I'm very new to all this as our lost baby was a surprise. But now we want to start TTC as soon as possible.

@misslomi I felt exactly the same which is why I found it so hard having false positive tests for weeks after MC - especially as we also jumped straight back on the wagon TTC so dared to hope I'd caught again without waiting for AF.

Just something to be mindful of.

Good luck

Hello OP

I'm so sorry. I've been through this twice. Once at 6 weeks and again at 9. With the one at 9 weeks we had seen a heartbeat but two weeks later it had gone. I also had an evac under GA. I had to wait a couple of days for this and it was heartbreaking. The actual procedure was fine.

The thing that broke me was them asking what did I want to do with the baby, I chose for them to be cremated but didn't want to know when etc as I couldn't face knowing and having that date remind me for years to come.

I called the miscarriage association for support, they were amazing.

Lean on your family and friends. It is heartbreaking.

Lots of love xx

@Margo34 thank you for your advice, must be awful to get false positives after all the heartache.

@eatyourcrustspls thank you and I'm so sorry for your loss.

My friends and family have been amazing, it's awful having to tell people though.

@misslomi sorry for your loss. I found out at 9 weeks, didn’t have any signs that there was an issue, it was just an early scan. It then took another fortnight to start naturally miscarrying. I was then bleeding for five weeks, it ended up being an incomplete miscarriage and then I had to have surgery. Technically I had a choice at that point between medical or surgery, however I needed the bleeding to stop and surgery had the quicker end result.

Time really does help with the process. Take as much time as you need though.

We are back to ttc now, three cycles in.

@Blue2020 oh god that sounds so drawn out, you must've been so strong to go through that and come out the other end.

Good luck with TTC!

I am going through the same as you. On Monday I started spotting and on Wednesday heavier bleeding started. I had a scan yesterday (7 weeks pregnant) which showed my baby had stopped growing about a week and a half ago. I'm going for a follow up scan next Friday but I'm certain my dates are right and the bleeding and pain are a lot worse today. I hope your surgery option went OK. I have been bleeding for 6 days and no idea when it will stop!

I've had 2 losses. One at 4 weeks and one at 7 weeks. Like a pp said I saw things I wish I could un see, really hope you're ok x

@LG2019 I'm so sorry for your loss 😢 yes my surgery went well. In some pain and still devastated but no bleeding.

Hoping it all passes quickly for you x

@cantthinkofabetterusername so sorry for your losses 😢 its just heartbreaking isn't it. I'm very glad I had the surgery, I don't think I would've coped well seeing anything amongst the blood x

@misslomi glad it went well for you. I ended up passing my baby last night. I don't think anything can prepare you for that experience and what you see.

@LG2019 oh god I'm so sorry. That must've been awful. Make sure you look after yourself today x