11 weeks pregnant.. Think I'm miscarrying

[Dollymixture77]

Hi there

I'm 43 and 11 weeks pregnant today.
Straight forward pregnancy so far until last night. I experienced a small amount of brown discharge.

This morning I have a small amount of dark red blood with a dull lower back ache.
I also have some stretching sensations in the right side of my stomach
But no Cramps as yet.

I didn't think I would fall pregnant again, so when I did I wasn't sure how I felt. I Have 2 boys already and just thought I would now be too old to concieve.

But the thought now I could be losing this baby has filled me with dread and it has made me realise I always wanted a 3rd.

I know it's just a case of seeing how this pans out.. And there's not much I can do.

But I was just wondering if any of you ladies out there have experienced a similar thing and might share your thoughts on how it all turned out.

Dear

@User8008135 and @abcyz

Thank you so much for your advice... I have called the early pregnancy unit and they want me to go in Monday for bloods and possibly a further scan... I'm hoping it's just my hcg levels taking their time to go down. It was such a strong positive though :(

@GingerCalico

Gosh your hug was clearly much needed.. Made me tear up 😢

Thank you for your kind words.. I always feel thatvI sacrifice my own feelings to save others feeling sad/bad.. But I know in this instance I need to give myself time..

You ladies are all just do bloody lovely xxx

@Lozz22

And thank you so much for sharing your experience.. I guess I should prepare myself for all possibilities..

I hope it wasn't too distressful for you.. And that you are now in a happy place

So the baby is still there 😪

I have been booked in tomorrow to have a medical evac.

And I'm scared...

Can anyone talk me through this x

It will be ok Dolly. It's shit emotionally but not too bad physically. Be prepared for contractions after and a lot of bleeding. You'll feel sore and tender.

Speak to your hospital, mine used to ensure all lost babies were interned in a memorial garden after which helped me emotionally.

Due to covid, you may be asked to isolate after, it's dependent on hospital. Get yourself a good couple of food deliveries sorted just in case.

Mainly be kind to yourself, don't push yourself and just heal up. Have someone be there for your dc so you can just cuddle up and not do anything for a few days at least.

Medically, i can tell you i had two pessaries, then a general (couldn't stop crying but the nurses and doctors were so compassionate), then the erpc, then bad contractions (don't be afraid to ask for IV painkiller), then soreness and bleeding but less so then with birth or a period after the first 24 hours.

Thinking of you @Dollymixture77 you can get through this gosh heaven knows how tough us women can be in times like this

Let us know how you got on, it'll be really shit emotionally but in my experiences the nurses are so supportive and lovely and were all trained super well and compassionately, and explain things clearly

Hi

Just a final update for all of those that asked..

So the baby has finally gone 😢
And I feel like I literally gave birth to it..
I was given the medication yesterday at midday in hospital and the baby passed at round 4pm. I experienced very strong and very painful contractions for around an hour.. Until the baby delivered perfectly enclosed in the amniotic sac. I felt like I went through labour and was finally relieved when it was over.

I am still in shock I believe and feel quite numb. The size of the sac really took my breath away as it was literally the size of a grapefruit - full of fluid - so like a water balloon. I was told that my baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks but my body still believed I was pregnant until Monday ( so around 14 weeks)

I had read that miscarried babies at that gestation in the sac were less than the size of an egg?

Can anyone enlighten me on this? It just seemed oddly big.. I felt it come out and thought jeez.. And then looked and it filled the whole bedpan. Is this normal?

I have a picture (I felt I should take one) if anyone is interested in having a look.

They are going to Bury my bub in a memorial wood with other lost angels where I can go and visit if I want to.. Which I may do further down the line.

Aw honey

It bring back memories of my own a few weeks ago. The size seems surprising doesnt it.

Im glad they told you about their burial options, such a sweet idea. I hope it gives you a bit of peace. Try to rest up lots for now it really does knock you sideways for your health so concentrate now on rest and looking after yourself

@Dollymixture77 just read through this thread and wanted to send love to you. You've been so incredibly brave x

I'm in somewhat disbelief but it would seem..

I'm 5 weeks pregnant
.... and I dare'nt move

I've just found and read your whole thread and was hoping that you would be along with some good news given that you started this thread a while ago!Everything crossed for you OP. 💐

Just read your post!
I’m so pleased to hear your update

@wheresthehope

Thank you sweet lady. 🙏
It's amazing.. But I'm crapping myself! Haven't told anybody and won't until I know it's viable... I'm walking on eggshells

#stunned

@Emus

Why thank you...
I'm crossed from the top of my head to the tips of my toes 🤞🤞🤞

Fingers crossed for you. Xxx

I’ve been reading through many different threads as Im struggling to sleep right now, had quite a traumatic experience in hospital these past few days with my first pregnancy which was a miscarriage. Read through your whole thread and I’ve got everything crossed for you @Dollymixture77 ❤️

@Beapo

Oh darling girl... I'm so sorry.. I know how lost you're feeling right now and I feel for you so much. You can't run away from the situation, you feel trapped with your feelings.. almost punishing you. It feels incredibly unfair and it seems every other person is falling pregnant. Every where you look there's baby adverts.. Baby showers.. Baby email updates.. And it feels as though the pain will never end.

It will my sweet girl.. It will get easier.. And you will come through the otherside. But you need to allow yourself to feel shit.. To grieve your loss.. To hide away for a bit if you need to.. To binge watch ' I hate susie'.. To maybe have one too many wines.. To deal with this in any which you can... Lean on your friends.. Utilise mumsnet - it was.. And still is a godsend for me - when you feel that everyone else had has enough of your tears (they never will by the way) come offload whenever and whatever you need to.

When are all in this together.. No matter what stage of life we are all at.. There will always be someone that understands..

Big love to you angel 🤍

@wishing3

Thank you so much 🙏

Thank you @Dollymixture77 ❤️ I really hope so. My experience has put me off TTC again incase I have to go through it again, but fingers crossed it doesn’t and if it does, they can knock me out next time, no way anyone should be awake for that 😭 I managed to get 1 hour sleep from 6-7 this morning. Can’t wait for my body to get back to normal but I think it’s going to take time, can’t even try for a no.2 without it making me bleed and cramp. Sorry don’t mean to hijack your threat with my shit, almost literally there lol. As soon as I’m in a bareable amount of pain and don’t need pain relief, then I will most certainly be getting some wine! 🍷

@beapo

It's extraordinary what us women can actually deal with. Giving birth to our tiny sleeping angels then in the next breath tucking our little ones into bed... Making the dinner.. And congratulating others announcing their joyous baby news... That we wish we were having. You are braver than you think.

You are fucking courageous girl.

I thought exactly the same things.. But here I am again... In the hands of fate.

Each day at a time darling 🙏

Ps. Hijack away - this thread is for anyone that needs it 😘

I've just read your whole thread. Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I miscarried in 2015. I also had a friend who was due at exactly the same time and in some ways her little boy is still a reminder of what we lost. It took me years to feel strong enough to try again. Nobody can put a timeline on it. However we did eventually and DS is 10 months old now.

Sending love to everyone who has or is going through this. It gets better, over time it hurts a little less.

@Mylittlesandwich

Miscarriage is tough enough, without constant reminders. I'm sorry you lost an angel. Like you, I didn't know if I could go through it all again.. But age isn't on my side so it was all or nothing.

But I panic everytime I go to the loo.. Convinved Im going to see red. But I must have faith.

Wonderful to hear you now have a little one.. I can imagine how wanted that sweet soul was

🤍

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This really resonated with me so I thought I'd share it with you..

I saw red...

So here I am again..

Although this time I'm not the new girl..

I know the score.

Love to all that showed care on the thread ❤️

@Dollymixture77
Are you ok? Keeping all crossed for you