Delayed miscarriage

[disneyqueen91]

On Tuesday we went for our scan and found out our baby died at 9 weeks. I've opted to wait it out for the time being as I'm not ready to let it go but I just wanted to ask if anyone else had the same feeling and what was the first sign you were loosing the baby? With every twitch I'm like OMG it's now. I don't feel like I can have any medical help at the moment as I want to keep my baby as long as I can ( I know that sound silly) any help would be great.

@mrsmb03 they give you a tablet to soften the cervix two hours before the surgery, but it doesn’t start anything.

I don't know if anyone would want this but I've been in contact with my midwife and hospital to get a photo of the scan. They didn't offer at the time which I fully understand but I needed one. You just need to ring the hospital department and see if they put a copy on file. They might vary region to region but i just thought I'd let you all know. 💐❤️

@disneyqueen91
Are they giving you a copy? Well done for asking. How are you today?
Do you work? if so how long are you planning to go off sick? I'm a bit if a worrier and I worry about work and/or that I've used all my sick leave.

@mrsmb03 yes I'm getting a copy. I'm actually feeling great. Still not passed (as far as I know) but I have no pains and my head feels clear for the first time in a week. I don't work no I'm a housewife (I'm very fortunate in that) please don't worry yourself about work. You need to be ready so take as much time as you need 💐

I'm so happy for you that you are getting a copy! I'm glad you have no pains and your head is clear. xxx

@mrsmb03 how are you today?

@disneyqueen91 I've been sleeping lots, still light bleeding so sometimes a bit lightheaded so tried to sleep as much as I can, I think I slept like 11 to 12 hours overnight. My nurse called me today, she will scan to see if everything has passed in a few days time. I will then decide if I'd like to have tablets or just give it time to pass.

@mrsmb03 Bless you! I'd love to sleep that much but at the moment it's staggered. Take all the rest you can get and make yourself well again. Let me know how your scan goes and fingers crossed everything has gone 💐

@disneyqueen91 Thank you!

What has your midwife adviced you? Are you going for another scan soon or?

@mrsmb03 I've not spoken to anyone since the day it happened. I was told as long as it's come away and I don't have any pain, heavy bleeding, fever or fainting I can just move on and contact them if I want support.

@mrsmb03 I'm unsure what's going on in my body at the moment though. We keep joking it's passed and I don't even know as I'm perfectly fine today with minimal bleeding but it could just be a good day - calm before the storm as my Nan would put it - I'm just waiting to see what's next

@disneyqueen91 my nurse said it isn't uncommon that the missed miscarriage can take up to two weeks before it happens but I'm unsure if that also means when you started light bleeding. I thought it is over for me but I still passed a substantial clot last night (sorry if tmi) so maybe it really does take time, maybe the body doesn't want us to go into shock so it is taking it's time? if you're re worried maybe worth contacting the EPU schedule for a scan? x

@mrsmb03 I spoke to someone the other day when I was requesting my scan photos and they said it's normal for it to take a month. I was up in the night with the worst pain but a hot water bottle helped and it only lasted an hour. I'm going to see how it goes and if next week I still have nothing I'm going to speak to someone. I've actually got dressed and done my hair today which I was pleased with. I love my pjs but over a week in nothing but, with wild hair isn't for me. I've booked somewhere for my husband and I to go on Valentine's Day as a plan to try and be ok to leave the house by then (we never do anything normally) I've not left the house yet as I'm not ready to step out the door as the last time I did I was happily pregnant and now I'm not. My friend stopped by last night with flowers which meant the world even though I didn't see her for long as she had work and didn't want to bother me for long. The next step for me is social media. We posted on New Years our news so now we have to share our sad news. I don't regret putting it on social media as I think people should talk more. I just don't know how to word it as I don't want pity. I wish I could turn comments off on fb

@disneyqueen91
I'm glad you're going back slowly to your normal routine. It would be hard to say in social media about what you are going through. I understand so much that feeling that you don't want pity. This is exactly what I feel too.

Little triumphs, I had my scan today, they have confirmed the sac has passed and my body is dealing with the loss, urine sample still showing as positive and I still have thick uterine wall and this blood will come out in a week or couple of weeks but that it is what is to be expected at this time. Also at that stage of pregnancy, the sonographer said the sac or pregnancy isn't anything recognisable when it passes, as it would be amongst blood clots.

I'm now going to try my best now to recuperate and heal both physically, emotionally and mentally. I wish and pray the same for you. Please know that this too shall pass. x

@mrsmb03 I'm glad your scan went as well as expected. I went out for the first time today, it was only Tesco but it was good to be out. My photos arrived today as well which was such a help. God knows when the baby will come away but I'm ready now and can't wait for it to be over.

I wish you all the best in your recovery ❤️💐

@disneyqueen91
Thank you and well done for going out. Think it is good if we need to celebrate little triumphs.

Have you thought of asking for a certificate from the hospital? My husband isn't keen but said it is up to me. I'm not sure either if this will just bring more pain, if it is just best to move on or if it is actually healthy to do so.

What are your or everyone's thoughts? x

@mrsmb03 I've not really thought about it, I think you'd have to name it and that's not for me. It's still Baby G to us and I don't think I need anything else to move on. I do think that if it helps you then you should do it and if you don't know how people will react either don't tell them or tell them to shut up 😂
Are you thinking you'd like to?

@disneyqueen91 I'm still unsure tbh. I'll think about it over the weekend maybe. I had blood test done to check if my hemoglobin is gine because I fainted, thank God it is okay. But I'm thinking I should eat properly to regain strength and be strong after all that blood loss.

What are you ladies eating while recovering? x

@mrsmb03 I'm glad your blood tests came back clear. I'm still 'pregnant' and still have all my cravings so at the moment it's digestives and hash browns. I eat a healthy diet in normal life and I'm quiet active but this last week I've eaten takeaway pizza and I'm desperate for my local Chinese to open after Chinese New Year 😂 I think as long as your getting your vitamins if you need the treat have it. At times like this it should be healthy and bad in a good balance. If my Chinese shop doesn't open soon I'm going to have a kebab which I haven't had in 3 years 😂😂

@disneyqueen91. I'm actually surprised I am able to eat, because normally I don't have an appetite. I'm bit small well so they stay but it's got nothing to do with diet it is more to do with my natural frame and ethnicity. It could still be pregnancy hormones that I am able to still have a healthy appetite. I'm going to take advantage of it so I can recover sooner. x

How is everyone? I hope everyone is recovering well.

@disneyqueen91 How are you doing?

@mrsmb03 hi, how are you?

I'm doing much better thanks. The baby has passed now and the bleeding has pretty much stopped which is good. I've made plans with friends this weekend, it will be nice to be back to normal x

@disneyqueen91 when did it happen? Were you in pain? You are on the road to recovery now. I'm so happy to hear you have made plans and are going back to normal. Women are so strong! x

@mrsmb03 I didn't have that much pain. It was ok to be honest I was so ready for it to happen. Yes women are strong. To go through something like this and come out the other side is a wonderful show of strength.