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Empty pregnancy sac

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Samk79 · 16/03/2019 13:28

I had a scan on Thursday when I thought I was 11 weeks. They could see an empty sac which measured 5 weeks. I know my dates are not that far out.
They took bloods and informed me my hormone levels are high suggesting that my dates are right and my body isn't getting rid of the pregnancy
I have to go back on Thursday for another scan. I am bleeding and have cramps. Has Anyone had a similar experience and did you miscarry naturally?
I just feel in limbo right now 😞

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Samk79 · 26/03/2019 17:58

@VenusStarr thank you, I think it's hard as others don't understand, even my mum has struggled to process it! Is it Friday your scan?

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VenusStarr · 26/03/2019 18:47

Yes, it's first thing Friday @Samk79 and dh is off the whole day so hopefully we can do something nice. Just depends on the next steps I guess. Not too much longer now.

I'm finding that after people say they're sorry to hear the news they don't know what else to say so don't mention it :(

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Samk79 · 26/03/2019 18:50

@VenusStarr will be thinking of you Friday. Have you had any bleeding at all? I have had some friends who have been lovely and sent flowers. My daughter has been amazing too, she went to the bakers before school yesterday to buy me a nice cake to eat when I got home x

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VenusStarr · 26/03/2019 19:07

Thank you @Samk79, will let you know how it goes. No bleeding. Literally had a tiny spot of light pink a couple of days ago after a bm but nothing significant. Have been really bloated yesterday and today.

Work went me an orchid and a card. One of my friends was coming down tomorrow but had to cancel. I don't really want to see anyone yet, other than dh. Worried he's getting fed up with me being sad and unmotivated. He says not. I just want some closure on it now. That's very sweet of your daughter :) x

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Samk79 · 26/03/2019 19:10

@VenusStarr I feel the same, both my mum and mum in law rang today but I didn't want to talk to them. I just want to shut myself away! My other half has invited his family round for dinner Mother's Day and I can't be bothered with it 😞

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VenusStarr · 26/03/2019 19:15

Oh no! @Samk79 it's difficult isn't it. You just don't know how you'll be. Hopefully you'll be OK and at least you're at home so could take yourself off upstairs if it was too much. I feel like I don't know what to say, like my head is blank.

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Samk79 · 26/03/2019 19:18

@VenusStarr it is difficult as I know he is trying to keep things normal. I know things will get better for me now I've had the surgery but I do still feel that my life is on hold and his isn't, he is still going to work and doing all the things he normally does. I've never been off sick for this long before!

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VenusStarr · 26/03/2019 20:03

@Samk79 I'm exactly the same! Life is in hold for me but dh is pretty much carrying on as normal. I don't think I could handle bring back at work yet and can't imagine being back there at the moment. I feel like I need to use this time to get myself back to my usual self but just don't seem to be able to do much other than get up and shower. I guess it takes time. I think the hardest thing is when I just get upset out of the blue.

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Samk79 · 26/03/2019 20:06

@VenusStarr it's so tough isn't it 😞when are you due to go back to work? X

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VenusStarr · 26/03/2019 20:24

@Samk79 I haven't thought about it yet. Think I'll definitely be off next week. It depends how the hospital let me manage it. I think if I have surgery I could go back sooner, maybe. I'm thinking probably another couple of weeks then I'll review. You've got a couple of weeks off haven't you? Do you think you'll go back when that note finishes?

chocolatelog · 26/03/2019 20:26

@Samk79 I've not had a chance to be upset this whole episode. We have 5 children ages range from 2-17. Life is hectic, when I'm alone I have stuff to get on with. Dh has been more upset about all this than me 😔 but then he was the most excited when we found out.

I'm taking my lo playgroup tomorrow and I'm a little bit dreading it. A couple of the girls there know I was pregnant (because I looked so Ill in the early days when I just found out) they asked me if I was and I'm a terrible liar. I'm dreading having to tell them what's happed when they ask how the pregnancy's going 🙈

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Samk79 · 26/03/2019 20:27

@VenusStarr my sicknote covers me until next Thursday, I'm then off on leave the week after. My boss has suggested taking the Friday off as leave too. It would mean I would have been off for a month though which seems like such a long time!
Have your work been supportive?

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VenusStarr · 26/03/2019 20:41

Yes they've been lovely @Samk79. They're all so nice I'm scared I'll just break down when I walk back into the office and they'll all be lovely about it but I kind of want to put it off until I feel stronger.

A month feels like a long time but don't feel bad about taking it x

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Samk79 · 26/03/2019 21:00

@VenusStarr that's great they have been supportive. I just know I couldn't have been at work wondering all the time if I was going to miscarry, I felt much happier being at home. How long have you been off for now?

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VenusStarr · 26/03/2019 23:06

I've been off 2 weeks today @Samk79. Hard to believe that I believed everything was OK when I woke up 2 weeks ago and thrn everything changed :(

I've hardly been out of the house as I'm scared to start to miscarry away from home.

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Samk79 · 27/03/2019 07:34

@VenusStarr I'm the same, I started bleeding 2 weeks ago today. I keep thinking this time 2 weeks ago I thought everything was fine. I'm the same as you, I haven't wanted to go out because of the fear.
Hopefully after your scan you will have a plan. I'm always hear if you need to chat x

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VenusStarr · 27/03/2019 09:42

Thank you @Samk79, I need to get out and do something, spending far too much time dwelling on things. I'm frustrated that my family and friends have been a bit rubbish. I don't know exactly what I want but they have been quite absent.

How are you feeling today? X

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Samk79 · 27/03/2019 10:01

@VenusStarr I'm the same, I've dragged myself out of bed and had a shower which is a step! I'm still emotional and in a bit of pain but need to start doing more. Like you I feel I'm spending too much time dwelling on things. My other half will be out at work most of the day today 😞

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VenusStarr · 27/03/2019 10:06

Mine too @Samk79, he's on a late tonight so won't be back until about 10. Lots of hours to fill... X

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Samk79 · 27/03/2019 10:09

@VenusStarr it's rubbish isn't it 😞 there is only so much reading and watching tv I can do!

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Samk79 · 29/03/2019 07:33

@VenusStarr how are you? Thinking of you today when you have your scan x

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VenusStarr · 29/03/2019 08:05

Thank you for thinking of me @Samk79 just on our way to the hospital, feeling a bit scared and emotional :( x

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Samk79 · 29/03/2019 08:15

@VenusStarr that's understandable. Let me know how it goes x

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VenusStarr · 29/03/2019 08:22

I will @Samk79, hope you're OK today? X

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Samk79 · 29/03/2019 08:27

@VenusStarr I'm okay thank you for asking. Still struggling emotionally but guess that's to be expected x

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