Empty pregnancy sac

[Samk79]

I had a scan on Thursday when I thought I was 11 weeks. They could see an empty sac which measured 5 weeks. I know my dates are not that far out.
They took bloods and informed me my hormone levels are high suggesting that my dates are right and my body isn't getting rid of the pregnancy
I have to go back on Thursday for another scan. I am bleeding and have cramps. Has Anyone had a similar experience and did you miscarry naturally?
I just feel in limbo right now 😞

Oh hugs. That is so crap. I felt devastated when that happened to me. I was about 11 weeks and started bleeding but no cramp. They gave me a scan and it showed an empty sac.

Then I was given a choice to miscarry naturally or have a d&c. My mum advised the d&c so I took that option. Went into hospital at 7am having fasted from the night before but didn't get operated on till 11.30pm due to more urgent cases.

I'm not sure how you can comfort yourself but I did think that I'd be even more sad if a child/foetus had died. DH (now XH) was utterly useless in understanding. I hope you get the support you need.

I went onto miscarry a further 3 times but finally hit the jackpot with my DD. Fingers crossed for a happy ending to you.

@VenusStarr thank you. I think it's harder for us as it's our bodies that are going through it. I feel like s failure as I couldn't grow a baby

@swimrunfun thank you, sorry to hear you have been through it too. My hospital seems to push for natural management

So sorry to read this, I was signed off work for 2 weeks when this happened to me, I took medical management and wish I'd just had the d&c. I had about 3 anovulatory cycles after then fell pregnant with my now DS2 who is 6. The thought still makes me cry, it is grief, I ate a ton of chocolate in my recovery... best of luck x

@Samk79 I have older children too. DD's 17&14 know what's happening and have been so good with helping with the little ones until dh gets home. Ds is 16 and knows I had a op and bought me a box of chocolates on Tuesday bless him, I don't know if he knows what happened unless the girls told him.

@VenusStarr horrible feeling isn't it. I just can't be bothered to make small talk and pretend I'm not in pain. I haven't got to do the school run now, dd woke up with a temperature and feels unwell, so it's a day in our pjs watching movies until later this afternoon when I'll have to drag myself out to my hair appointment x

@pashmina696 thank you
@chocolatelog that's lovely your children have been supportive, I hadn't told my children I was pregnant but I decided to tell my 16 year old dd last week about the loss.
She has been amazing, I thought she would have been horrified that I was pregnant but she wasn't! Makes it a bit easier of we do decide to try again. I haven't told my 11 year old son, he is worried though bless him and keeps asking me what's wrong xx

@Samk79 we hadn't told them either, but they guessed ( I told them I wasn't well in the early days and they both chorused "she's pregnant again" 🙈)

Tbf it wasn't a planned pregnancy and we had just come around to the idea and thought 6 can't be much harder than 5 when we got this news 😔 I don't know if we'll try again, I wouldn't want to go through this again.

@chocolatelog bless them. Mine was planned but when I found out I panicked about starting again and my age etc, I'm 40 this year. It took me a while to come round and now I feel guilty about my initial feelings.

We aren't sure yet whether we are going to try again, we are getting married in July so probably going to leave it a few months and see how we feel after the wedding x

Can relate to the sense of failure @Samk79. This was our first pregnancy, tried for 16 months and had just been referred to a fertility clinic when we found out. I'd been in counselling exploring my feelings of failure to become pregnant. So this has just compounded my feelings and fears that it won't work for us 😢💔

How's your bleeding today? Hope you're OK.

Sorry your little one is poorly @chocolatelog but a duvet day sounds good :)

Sorry you've experienced this too @pashmina696 and @swimrunfun

@VenusStarr bless you, it certainly is an emotional rollercoaster. It's hard when our bodies don't do what they are meant to.
The bleeding is still quite bad, I just did a bit of tidying up, now i am exhausted.
The hospital have called, I have to go for consent forms and bloods Sunday then booked to go on Monday at 11 if it hasnt happened x

Hi everyone, we have almost made it through another challenging week, well done us!
After feeling pretty good yesterday I have been in pain all day today, my whole body aches as if I've done a ridiculous workout!
I think it's partially because I slept through the night (hooray) but that means I fell behind on the painkiller schedule so am playing catch up. Getting occasional shooting pains in the stomach area.
I don't think anything's wrong as it's not excessive and comes and goes but definitely needed a chilled out day today!

Need to start preparing myself mentally for getting back to work on Monday, not looking forward to it but luckily only 3 more weeks to get through and then it's spring break for us.

How's everyone doing this afternoon?

@coconutlatte44 sorry to hear you are in pain today. How long have you been off work for? I had two lots of flowers today, one from a friend who popped round and the others from my friend who lives in Canada. It means a lot when people show they care x

Thank you @VenusStarr she's fine now. Lots of cuddles and chocolate sorted her right out lol x

@coconutlatte44 hope your feeling better soon. I'm still in pain even now, bleeding has calmed down a lot so that's something.

I'm having a large gin after spending 2.5 hours at the hairdressers, it did the trick and cheered me up a bit. Looking forward to a chilled weekend now and some nice weather next week.

Have a good one ladies and hope your feeling ok x

How are we all doing ladies? X

@Samk79 feeling much better today, pains still there a bit but it's nothing to how it was, bleeding very light and I'm starting to get a colour back in my face. My neighbour said she saw me Wednesday and I looked like death 🙈

How are you feeling today?

@chocolatelog glad you are feeling a bit better.
I'm okay, my bleeding keeps getting better then worse again, still have the pains though. No idea if I've passed everything 😞

Hi guys
Have had a bit of a rough weekend, was fine the first couple of days post ERPC but have been really emotional this weekend, crying at the drop of a hat.
Not finding much energy to do anything but forcing myself to get out for a walk once or twice a day. All I feel like doing at the moment is reading other people's stories about how they have coped with all of this.
I am back at work tomorrow and definitely worried about how I am going to cope, but I am going to ask for some flexibility in case I need to come home early etc.

@Samk79 when are you back at the hospital?

@coconutlatte44 sorry to hear that, since my last post the pains have ramped up and the bleeding started again 😬 sick of this now just want to feel normal again. Be kind to yourself and relax, it's a horrible time and I think resting is key.

@chocolatelog and @coconutlatte44 sorry you are both still suffering

I'm back at the hospital for bloods that then have to be there at 11 tomorrow. Am booked in for surgery if needed but they will scan me first

Hi ladies, just joining the thread too, hope that's ok. So sorry to hear about your losses too

I started light bleeding on Friday and went to the epu, where I was scanned and told that I had an empty pregnancy sac. She actually told me I had a failed pregnancy, which made me feel a bit shit

Anyway, I had so much bleeding yesterday, literally sat on the toilet for 3-4 hours with blood and clots coming out. I did feel a bit worried as it was so much blood, so it's reassuring to read some of your experiences that it's normal.

I'm not sure if everything is out yet, but I've stopped bleeding as heavily now and not soaking multiple pads per hour. I'm feeling a bit light headed today but hopefully the worst is over.

Going back to the epu to be scanned in 10 days so hopefully they will confirm if I have got everything out. I haven't told work yet that I was pregnant/miscarrying, don't even know if I can be bothered to do it as I just can't deal with the sympathy and attention. I don't want to receive flowers or well wishing cards, I just want it all to go away

I'm sorry you've had the same experience @happychange. That language is awful 😢 I can't really remember what they told me, I just remember the sonographer say I'm sorry lots. Work sent me a card and an orchid yesterday, set me off again. I'm not sure how I can contemplate returning to work 😢 dh is at work this evening, I'm supposed to be meeting my sister for something we prebooked, not sure I can face it but don't want to be alone. He's back at work properly next week.

@Samk79 sorry to hear you're still bleeding, will be thinking of you tomorrow

Sorry to hear your pains had got worse @chocolatelog, it seems no option is simple

Hope you get some rest @coconutlatte44, don't put too much pressure on yourself tomorrow.

No news from me, my body just doesn't seem to want to let it go 😢 at least I'm back on Friday and hope to have a plan. Feeling very stuck.

@happychange sorry to hear you have been through this too. It's hard to be told there was no baby 😞I feel like a failure
@VenusStarr hopefully like you say you will have a plan after your scan

I'm back from the hospital, have to be there at 11 tomorrow, feeling very emotional again

@Samk79 good luck for tomorrow, try take it easy today x

@chocolatelog thank you, my other half is cooking a roast today, the hospital have given me a sicknote for 2 weeks which I was surprised at!

@Samk79 oh that's good. At least you can relax knowing you haven't got to go back to work straightaway.

And you lucky girl getting a roast cooked for you, dh is poorly with a bug so I've ordered a dominoes 🙈 can't face cooking today. I've just about managed some washing. Haven't even got dressed yet.

@chocolatelog thank you, I only expected them to sign me off for a week!

Enjoy your dominoes later, I'm lucky that my other half does most of the cooking in our house!