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Went for my 12 week today and baby had stopped growing at 8+4. They are giving me a week to see if things move on their own. Don't know how to feel but so feel guilty

Glad everything went okay @mk87, and hope you find some time to relax over the next few days (remember to be kind to yourself).

Apologies for the silence, been having a difficult couple of weeks and trying to keep my misery to myself!
8/9DPO today and had some pretty red spotting yesterday / first thing but seems to have cleared up to brownish CM. Think AF is probably going to be making an early appearance, which is a bit depressing because this cycle has been properly odd (OV 5 days earlier than I'd have expected too, AF not due for another 6/7 days based on pre-MC cycle length).
@PineapplePrincess how are things with your DH? Any thoughts about trying again?
How are you doing @mk87?
@Michelle0507 and @Cleozeta I think you should be a similar point in your cycle as me.... hoping things go well for you xx

Did you try straight away? I'm Not too sure right now. This was my second and has knocked us a lot. We are having a summer of fun, booking a last min holiday in September sometime and then having a chat about options at that point. I really want children but have never craved to be pregnant so this is just making me feel like it's not meant to be and we should look at some alternatives. I know some people go through so many and such battles but I'm just not sure I am strong enough to do that yet

We tried straight away, yes, from before my first AF. i'm getting on in years and already have three (and would like numbers three and four to be reasonably close together). I'm also in a pretty hellish job and would like an exit strategy; my alternative option is to retrain but would rather start that after the baby.
I'm glad you've booked some exciting things for your Summer. I'm going to book some gig tickets for next April when I may or may not be pregnant (but don't want to completely put my life on hold). Have also just spent an obscene amount of money on skincare (I have rosacea and stress related poor skin!)....

Hey guys. Sorry you have had a difficult few weeks @Pampl3m0usse, feel free to vent here. {{{hugs}}}. Could spotting be implantation maybe?

Hubby and I are on better terms atm. No more discussion about trying again. Have DTD a couple of times during what I suspect was ovulation (not testing), one time he withdrew early (sorry tmi) and the other didn’t, so there maybe a slim chance this month, but not holding out any hope. Not sure what that means, but too worried that broaching the subject at the moment will result in a definite ‘no’.

In other news I called the RMC at the hospital this morning to chase appointment, they couldn’t find any record of a referral. Grrrrr. Lady is going to dig about and find out what’s going on. I feel a complaint coming on!?!

Have taken a leaf out of your book this week Pampl3m0usse, and went looking at houses. Saw one we really like, so that might give me a bit of focus if we can manage to pull it off. How is your house move going? (Or is that the stress?)

Perhaps and I had similar in the miscarriage cycle but I'm also getting the horrendous backache I assumed was a uti last cycle again, so think hormones are probably all over the place.
I'm so cross for you about the RMC.... I've always found PALs a helpful intermediate step before a complaint in terms of getting them to do what you want them to do quickly.
House stuff progressing slower than a very slow thing, but will get there in the end! Not quite sure why I thought adding another stressful life event in was a good idea though?! Anyway the increased space will be fab when we get there.
Work situation is pretty intolerable though and I've likely brought things to a head through union contact, etc... so expecting a stressful few weeks. xxx

Sorry to hear you are having a crap time pample. Maybe it is pre payment for some good luck coming your way.
Could spotting be implantation? Would be around the right time.
I am also 8dpo today, had af type cramps at 6dpo and thought af may be coming early, but no other signs quite yet. Don't think it's good news either as boobs are not sore.
Are you finding you annalyse things more now? I think maybe as our pregnancies were so recent its easy to try any compare potential symptoms? I'm looking for things that happened last time. So unlikely this soon though, need to just relax more

So sorry you've all been through this and sadly after 3 weeks of moping I'm ready to join. Had a mc in January at 6/7 weeks which I could deal with but 3 weeks ago had medical management for mmc at 13 weeks (baby died around 9) had horrendous bleeding and huge clots and blood loss at the hospital and it settled when I came home. In the last week I've had slight spotting but it's always brown then days where I have nothing at all. Just been to the toilet and it's bright red again? Anyone else experienced this and was everything ok/what did it mean? Just want my body to go back to normal so I can try again.

Hi Ladies,

Sorry for the silence I've been unwell since I came back off Hol, GP says it's viral - as always!
My period is due tomorrow, looks like it's arrived. I'm so angry first time I got pregnant instantly. Maybe because I wasn't trying or stressed?
How are you guys doing?
XJune88 sorry you find yourself here. I'd think yay it's all stopped then I'd get odd bits was like that for a while.x

Hey guys

Hope everyone is doing okay.

@xJune88, so sorry you have joined us. . How long has it been since medical management? If just a week or so, I would doubt it’s your period, maybe last remnants of MC? If it’s heavy or there are any odours get it checked; could be an infection. I stopped and started for a week or two after medical management.

@Michelle0507, hope you’re feeling better. Nothing worse to be I’ll in the good weather.

I’ve been chasing hospital all last week for RMC appointment. After speaking to the third secretary, she told me my lab results from last miscarriage would be coming out to me by post. Due today (post has been, so not today) or tomorrow. Query weekend of panic - they wouldn't tell me over the phone; only the letter would give results and ask me to book bloods with GP, before they would see me at the RMC.

In other news, and this is obviously just adding to my level of freaking. Just took a HPT and I think I’ve got a super faint line. Maybe just an evap. I feel sick.

Well I was booked in for surgery so I took the pills to dilate my cervix an hour before but they ran 2 hours behind. So 3 hours had passed and I ended up in absolute agony, loosing my waters and just sat on the toilet in hospital surrounded by nurses pouring out blood and clots and had a gyne put a speculum up and pulled large bits of tissue out. So unsure what it's classed as?! This was 3 weeks ago tomorrow. I'm extremely bloated and having mild cramps on and off. Spotting is now brown again. So confused x

That sounds like medical management. I’ve had surgery and medical management before (two separate miscarriages). The pills they insert before surgery is to loosen the cervix in the same way they do with medical management, I think you just get a stronger batch for medical management. If you were delayed in going to surgery, the pills may have been strong enough to bring on contractions and force things out.

So sorry you ended up in that position. Surgery is usually a less invasive procedure (well perhaps more invasive, but you’re out cold so don’t remember anything).

Problem with medical management is that it doesn’t always work (didn’t for me in May - I had to get speculum and manual evacuation too, as it didn’t progress anything) and doesn’t always clear everything.

Keep an eye on the bleeding. If it gets heavy, you’re pain or there is any fishy odour call the EPU. You may have left over tissue and it’s taking a while to budge.

Have you taken a pregnancy test post this miscarriage? It can take a while to turn negative, but a continual positive can indicate left over tissue as well.

This whole situation sucks. Stay strong and look after yourself. {{{hugs}}}

@Pineappleprincess super rubbish about waiting but possibly exciting with the faint line.
We've only done it twice, as much as I want to get pregnant I just don't feel like doing it. God, It's so bloody confusing.

Xjune88 that sounds awful. I started to pass clots etc the night before mine and that was so painful & horrible. Luckily I was still able to go to theatre.x

Blue ink test has faded to nothing now. Took a pink ink test and that looks pretty conclusive. But given the blue ink, I’m wondering whether it’s likely to be a chemical. Having AF pangs, which only came on after taking the test - probably psychosomatic. I think I’m going mad!

I was just coming to term with the idea of not trying again. Or at least not till we made it to the RMC. Don’t even know why I took the test - no idea when AF is due (not being paying attention to cycle) and had a spare test in the cupboard.

Haven’t told DH yet. Not sure if I will at the moment. Not sure how he will react. Gah!

My pregnancy test went negative 2 weeks after which I was shocked by! Yeah the tablets i had to put under my tongue the gyne said I must of been sensitive to what they'd given me, great lol. Will keep an eye on it all!

My period is due today had the odd spotting, which is strange. I did do a test yesterday to be 100% but it was neg.

@Michelle0507 did your period come in the end? hoping for good news....
@PineapplePrincess any news from you???
@Cleozeta how about you lovely; I saw on another thread about your short LP... my GP told me it is fairly common after miscarriage.... I'm now on CD5 anf had a slightly heavier period than last time so hoping things are sorting themselves out. Life is so stressful at the moment that I doubt I'll get pregnant easily though. Here's hoping still!

@pampl3m0use oh yes it's arrived! Very heavy and quite a few clots!
It just gets me down I think this shouldn't be happening & I just don't feel like I'm ever going to have a healthy pregnancy.
I'm all over the place on the loss cycle - We use it at work and I can constantly see where I am
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Oh no @Michelle0507 it's so disappointing every month isn't it? More than ever before.... I'm trying not to think about how pregnant I should be, but the healthy eating etc I was doing in the immediate aftermath of the miscarriage has gone down the pan! Hoping that I'll be able to get into a better routine in the school holidays....
I'm sure you will get there with a healthy pregnancy, but can completely understand the uncertainty and worry.
xxx

Hi everyone, I discovered I’d had a mmc today at 9/10 weeks. Went for a private scan as was worried about lack of symptoms and they couldn’t find a heartbeat.

I’ve found the info on this board so helpful - I think I’m going to ask for surgical management. This is a bit of a weird question but should I go straight to the EPU or is it more sensible to call them first? I want to deal with this ASAP and feel like turning up in person might help but maybe that’s wishful thinking.

I don’t think I can face going to work tomorrow but not sure what to tell them. I might need to tell my boss next week if I need more time off so don’t want to lie but don’t want to be completely honest just yet.

To make things worse I’m supposed to be going to see my brother’s 5 day old baby on Saturday. He doesn’t know I was pregnant and I can’t see how I’m going to go and visit without telling him as I can’t see how I won’t cry. I don’t really want to burden him and SIL with that right now though.

Hey @Pampl3m0usse. No sign of AF and I’ve managed to not take any further tests. Ended up telling DH, more by accident than design, it took practically 20min before he spoke to me. We’re now going for the ‘don’t acknowledge it strategy’ apparently.

Finally got hold of RMC letter. Didn’t appear Mon/Tue/Wed or today via post, so I called again and insisted that they emailed me a copy of the letter.

Apparently no genetic abnormalities in the foetus (which the letter says is a good thing?) and I’ve to ask GP for a thrombophelia screen, with blood anticardiolipin antibodies and anticoagulant lupus. But they assume that they will likely come back clear.

No mention of attending RMC and for my next pregnancy to start aspirin from six weeks and folic acid and multivitamin from positive pregnancy test. Bit annoyed it seems to be dismissing me again.

Thinking of making a GP appointment to discuss and rush the bloods.

Can't believe they're making you wait. I had surgery 2 days later, booked it on the same day. Seems heartless to me to keep you in limbo. Sending you lots of love x

Hey ladies,
Joined up to cry vent and talk through my current situation.
So here goes.....
Got my BFP April 26th.
Dating scan booked for 31/5. (I had no idea on dates)
Dating scan was awful nothing inside the sac. Was measuring about 7 weeks.
Sent away and told to come back in 2 weeks as it might of been to early. Couple of days after bleeding had started.
Went back to epau on 5/6 due to heavy bleeding and pain, rescanned and the sac had changed and shown signs of miscarriage.
Decided on medical management and went for treatment the day after.
That night st home after treatment was horrendous I’ve never felt pain like it. They certainly don’t give you the heads up how painful it could be.
3 days passed and thought everything was normal as I felt stuff come away on the night of initial treatment. Booked a hair appointment and started loosing an obscene amount of clots whilst getting hair done. Felt horrendously poorly that day/night decided on the Sunday to visit a&e to get checked over as something wasn’t right.
Gynaecologist checked me over and said no bleeding no clots to be seen, codine and rest and go home. Left hospital and arrived home 5 mins later i haemorrhaged allober my room, bathroom and toilet. Blue light ambulance back to hospital.
I was then admitted for 2 days and had medical management a further 2 times which progressively worse than the first :( confident everything had gone I was discharged and managed 10 hours at home. I then haemorrhaged again and was back in hospital. I asked what would happen and was told they would take me to surgery the Friday this was on the Tuesday. On the Thursday they scanned me and everything was exactly how it was the week before. Surgeon came and said they would like to give me the medical treatment again. This time it was worse morphine couldn’t help the pain. All I did was haemorrhage again Rescanned the next day and still the same. So surgery booked and was a success. Discharged 4 hours later after a 9 day stay :(. Took a pregnancy test 2 weeks ago bfp still, back to epau and scanned and womb was full of clots :( and I had an infection. Sent away with antibiotics and told to retest 2 weeks later but the consultant was sure things would be good.
So here I am 2.5 weeks later, in pain and had my test and surprise suprise a bfp. I am broken mentally I have dealt with the loss. But I can’t get my head round I’ve been “not pregnant” longer than actually thinking I was. So back to epau tomorrow :( just sick and tired and want this chapter closed.
Sorry for the rant
Just I don’t want to offload at home incase my daughter hears and my hubbie is in a position of sugar when will this end :(
Anyone had similar experience :(

@ronniemipperton sorry you find yourself here. I had a private scan on a Sun and they rang EPAU. My understanding is you have to ring first, but it may be different in different hospitals. Surgical management was best for me, I didn't want to be flushing the baby away, sadly I started to miscarry the night before but still went to theatre.
Please don't go in to work if you don't feel up to it, lie if needs be say you have a sickness bug.
As for your Brothers baby only you will know what is right.
I'm glad this thread was some help.

@Mrslca83 sorry you find yourself here also. It sounds like you've had the most awful experience, I am so sorry. I had medical management but it all went straight forward. On my second period now and they have been pretty awful.
I hope you feel better in time, take it slow.
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