Mmc

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Went for my 12 week today and baby had stopped growing at 8+4. They are giving me a week to see if things move on their own. Don't know how to feel but so feel guilty

Great news pineapple, thats really positive. The further along you get with hb & correct measurements the smaller the chances of mc become. Feeling very positive for you this time x

Incredibly happy to read this PineapplePrincess. I feel like we can be your own private 'baby due' thread :) 10 weeks with a heartbeat is really fab news... I know you'll know all that and the lack of guarantees, but really, it's super...
xx

Hi all,

Hope everyone is well just thought I'd touch base with yous. X

Hi Michelle0507 and all the other ladies,
Hope all is well with everyone and PineapplePrincess amazing news I hope you are still keeping well, this could be the one- Positive thoughts xx
@Ladybug84 how are you keeping? xx
I’m on holiday atm we had booked it before my MC and defo now needed the break, just so yous arnt jealous it’s overcase atm in Majorca and threatening to rain
Take care everyone xx

Hi guys {group hug}

Just recovering from the cold, which on top of sickness has pushed me to be off sick. Work are gonna be loving me atm. Hubby has been largely unsympathetic, however he’s now come down with it - so he can feel my pain! {evil smile}

Week today till the 12wk scan. Managing to hold my nerve. Have been passing the time looking at holidays. Hoping to get something booked up September/October. But refusing to do so until the scan, not sure insurance would payout if needed, under recent circumstances.

@ChattyL - wishing you sunshine. Hope it’s still warm and the food, view and company are making up for the clouds.

@PineapplePrincess sending you positive vibes for the scan.
A holiday sounds good - I found it so helpful.
X

Currently in hospital another misscarriage. Should be 5+2. Getting negative pregnancy test so one person said chemical. Gutted

Sorry to hear that michelle

Awe @Michelle0507 sorry to hear that xx

@pineappleprincess good luck for 12wk scan tomorrow I’ll be thinking about you, we will be travelling home from holidays, weather was really good, nice food and cocktails 🍹, we’ve had a nice wee break xx

@ChattyL & @cleozeta thank you.

Wow they were awful today they told me stupidly 6 of you have come at once, we choose to miscarriage and what time you know!!!

Dr was awful. Nurse said he was being ridiculous and didn't need to see me but he was new so he was doing. The Dr said your levels are 5 so you know what that means no baby and sent me home. So so poor!

@PineapplePrincess good luck lovely x x

My god @michelle0507 that’s awful I know there’s nothing they can do but to be at least show compassion and be nice isn’t hard, it’s hard enough for women knowing what’s happening without the hospital experience being awful too xx

The hospital just rang the Dr discharged you and we needed to see you. I did wonder why I never saw a Nurse. She couldn't apologise enough and said to ring if I need anything.x

@michelle0507
God they really sound useless, I hope you get sorted with the nurses now and they are nicer and have compassion xx it’s hard enough without having to go back again xx

@Michelle0507 - Oh hun, I’m so sorry to hear that. It’s doubly shitty that you’re not getting the appropriate care or attention needed. Early losses can be so cruel, as you get the initial high of excitement to come crashing down so quick. Don’t be too hard on yourself or how you’re feeling, a loss is a loss at any stage and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Thanks all for the good wishes for tomorrow. Week has gone quite quick. Scan tomorrow afternoon, so no doubt day will drag.

In other random news I need to pick up ashes from May MC. I originally had four weeks from cremation to pick them up, and with everything that’s been happening and feeling so sick I never got the chance. Figured I missed the deadline as I was warned they would automatically be scattered. Queue terrible guilt. Got a call this week to say they still had them, and did I want to pick them up. I said yes, so contemplating picking them up tomorrow - but not sure if that would be too weird.

I was 30 yesterday and got engaged soon came back down to earth with a bump!

Oh gosh! Congratulations on the engagement (and happy birthday!)

I can completely understand how it’s taken a shine off everything.

I wish I could give you a proper hug in RL.

Hi lovely ladies,
I'm back from my long break, it's been lovely and just what I needed.

@ChattyL I'm glad you had a nice break too. I also had this trip booked before MC. We flew to Spain straight to a friends wedding, 5 days after MC. I was a bit emotional but it was nice to have a drink (or a few more) and unwind for a bit 🙂 My MC is taking its time to come to an end, I'm still dealing with brown discharge, so not much swimming for me but the weather was great. We spent the last week at the beach near Cadiz. I've come back with a fresh mind. Today was my first day back at work, well I worked from home, but I managed to clear my inbox and get things rolling again 😊 xx

@Michelle0507 I'm sorry 😐 nothing new to say just know we're hear to support one another through this shitty time. Doctors can be so cold sometimes... Just contact the EPU nurses and bypass the doctor, they tend to be nicer. When I got home yesterday I saw the EPU sent me a letter just to say they were sorry and that I could call them with any question during this confusing time. I thought it was really kind. That's all we need. Don't be hard on yourself and enjoy your birthday and engagement, congratulations!! 👰🏽 💍 xx

@PineapplePrincess how did the scan go? Really hope it went well for you today xx

On Monday will be 3 weeks since I passed the sac. The EPU told me two days later I had a bit of lining inside but that should come out as I was still bleeding. They asked me to take a pregnancy test @12th Sept and to call them with the result. I imagine this is to see if my hormones are back to normal, but would they know from that if all the POC have come out? I went to a private gynaecologist during my holiday and saw the same in the scan but he recommended D&C as I could end up with an infection he said. I decided to wait and see if my body does the job but he did make me worry. Has any of you gone through a similar experience and what did you do in the end?

Xxxx

I joined the MMC club in July. I believed I was 13 weeks but baby had died at 5+6.

I felt so alone but (for want of a better word) I’m glad that I’m not alone. It’s a very isolating thing to happen.

I won’t be TTC again due to my age/weight/PCOS.

@Ledbury81 so sorry to hear. It amazes me how out body keeps the pregnancy for so long.

Thank you @PineapplePrincess I feel so ill, run down, cherry cough, sore throat & a head ache feel like a walking disaster. Haven't eaten in 2 days just don't feel hungry.x

@Michelle0507. I think it was the fact I wanted this baby so badly that caused my body to hang on in there so long.

Hey @Ledbury81, welcome to the gang. So sorry to hear about your loss.

How you holding up @Michelle0507? Hope you are being kind to yourself.

@Ladybug84 how did the test go? Hopefully all POC are now gone and you can get back on track again.

The 12wk scan went okay. They were very good with me. DH ran late and they’d took me into scan and I burst into tears as I didn’t want to hear any bad news without him (that happened with our first MC). So they waited for him, and everything went fine. I was still bubbling away by the end.

Beginning to feel a bit more real. But I still can’t bear to talk about it as if it will happen. Still dealing in ifs and buts at the moment.

@PineapplePrincess it's sooo good to hear from you and that it is good news!! ☺️ you had me worried then... 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

@Ledbury81 sorry for your loss. Hope you're feeling better

I'm going to the EPU for a follow up scan tomorrow. My discharge has turned to bleeding again although it's not as heavy as a period. It's only been 3 weeks since the MC so not sure if this is my first period already... my body has me all confused 🤷🏻‍♀️

Hope everyone else is feeling ok xx

I'm in same boat, mmc. I took medical management route and started bleeding on Friday. I still have really painful breasts, when do the pregnancy symptoms go? Still passing clots etc as of today so obviously still not finished miscarrying

Welcome @Iloveeating, sorry you find yourself here.

How far along were you?