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Went for my 12 week today and baby had stopped growing at 8+4. They are giving me a week to see if things move on their own. Don't know how to feel but so feel guilty

@michelle0507 I’m lucky only once did I ever think that in around 19 years the once and only time I’ve had the flu my P didn’t arrive and I had to do a test very lucky that every other month it arrived like clockwork, all the ladies experiences after miscarriage are different some pregnant straight away, some a few months some never and then there’s having another miscarriage- life isn’t easy as a woman xx
That’s good your period is light this month mine was always light and hate the cramps too, who would like it!!
I work in civil service and any sick time off is counted as 1 period of sick, wouldn’t want to go back and not be ready then off again cos that would be a warning then, it’s all very strict, so I’ll just be taking the time off I need, 9 years working there and not a day sick.
Your return to work sounded good too but bet it wasn’t easy after your holiday x

{{{group hugs}}}

Glad you had a productive appointment with GP @Michelle0507, perhaps something will be picked up in the bloods that might be causing your low mood? Thyroid or iron levels can throw things off at times.

@ChattyL glad you are taking this easy, holiday is something nice to look forward to too!

@Cleozeta and @ChattyL, glad I’m not the only elderly prim here. Altho’ at 42, I think I’m beating you both.

@Pampl3m0usse sorry you are run down. Sounds like you need a nice treat after all your stresses, spa day maybe? How is the new house going? [asks the person with an offer on a house too!]

I’m doing okay. Two scans down and things seem to be progressing atm. Have another scan organised for next week and then another two weeks after that. The 12wk is not till early September, so still ages away.

I’ve gone heavy for the, I-want-to-know-something’s-wrong-before-I-start-bleeding-again strategy, as I tend to go rapidly downhill from there. So want to spot if things have stopped early so I can get booked in for ERPC straightaway.

Currently have a fit note for adjusted hours with an emphasis on working from home due to severe morning sickness. Lots of meds and so far hospital have given me two cyclizine injections to stop me retching. Safe to say, I will not be doing this again if this does not work out.

Sorry to share, don’t mean to trigger anyone. But I’ve banned myself from the pregnancy boards, hubby in denial, so don’t have anyone to share with. xox

Can I join? Found no heartbeat at my 12 week scan on 04 June, baby was measuring 6+5, then had ERPC on 6 June. Period came back on 13 July and I was desperate to start trying again but DH wanted to wait so now I’m back on the pill. All seems very sad

@HelloViroids sorry you find yourself here. I hope it helps you a little.
My Partner finally realised my fears the other day as I'm only contracted until March that if I loose my job or get a new one I won't get MAT pay as I won't have been there long enough so he said go back on the pill for a bit then. I said no chance. He has no idea how it affects your body!

Hi @HelloViroids, welcome - sorry you find yourself here.

I completely understand the desire to keep trying, and the frustrations of a partner with different views. Was this your first miscarriage? I am assuming you guys are still fairly young, if you have decided to take a break from TTC.

Hi,

How is everyone @Pampl3m0use @Pineappleprincess @ChattyL

My GP appt got cancelled but my bloods all came back okay. :( I'm there on Tue to discuss it.x

Hi @Michelle0507

Sorry to hear about your docs appointment. Never quite sure how to feel about blood results coming back normal. It should be good news, but sometimes something flagging up allows you to to have a focus and ‘fix’ something - if that makes sense?

I’m okay here. Still not eating, lost almost a stone - skinny jeans here I come!?! The 9wk scan went okay, I cried when they still managed to find a HB. Another reassurance one booked for Friday; living scan by scan atm.

{{{group hug}}}

Yep I felt exactly that. I think she'll go down the depression route. She'll have to do some research though as I'm not taking any meds that can affect pregnancy etc.

@PineapplePrincess that's amazing news I'm so happy for you! I had a Friend who lost 6 babies before this current pregnancy so I'll keep everything crossed for you! Are you just not eating as you're off food? I didn't eat never felt hungry hence knowing something was wrong when I couldn't stop eating!

@PineapplePrincess I'm rather ashamed to admit that yours is the only pregnancy that I've felt actively pleased about since my miscarriage. One of DH's colleagues announced a pregnancy with almost exactly the same due date and whenever he mentions her pregnancy I get annoyed. Anyway I'm so pleased for you and even though I haven't been actively posting much recently (life so busy!!) I've been thinking about you (I hope that sounds non-stalkerish!). Sorry about the morning sickness... I had hypermesis with my girls and made myself very ill trying to keep going... I think it's likely to strike if / when I get pregnant and I'm not going to force myself through work with it....

@Michelle0507 I'm pleased your bloods came back OK but sorry you're feeling down. Hopefully things will improve soon. My GP has also been advising meds for depression but I declined for a range of complex reasons. Managing OK at the moment but that's likely to change when the new term starts and I'm back to hellish job.

@HelloViroids how are you doing now?

@Cleozeta any news?

@ChattyL are you still off? Hope you've managed some recuperation time....

Thanks for asking pampl, no news alas. Nothing happening here apart from many bfn's. Ploughing on.

Hope you are doing ok?

Pineapple - so pleased for you, so happy that things seems to be progressing well so far. Fingers & toes crossed for you it continues that way

Hi Ladies,

@michelle0507 hope your keeping ok are you feeling any better with the thought of your appt tomorrow with the doctor?

@PineapplePrincess
Really happy to hear your scans have went well fingers& toes crossed it will continue to go well this time, ps your not that old just seen a woman on ‘This Morning’ 58 years old and had a baby 👍 I worry about being too old (39) to get pregnant but need to not worry about that and just try x

Hi @Pampl3m0usse I’m not too bad still off work and plenty of time to myself, have been out a few days to get groceries etc physically feel ok think my period is starting again slight colour when wiping from last night, ERPC was on 26/7/18 didn’t know when to expect my cycle again, when did everyone else’s come back? Would be good if it is it starting as we are going on holiday to Majorca on 29aug had it booked before this happened and think now the break might do us good, then I’ll see after that about returning to work.

Felt very down yesterday thinking - I shoulda been 17wks now, worried will I get pregnant again, worried it might happen again, anxious about going back to work, feeling lonely because my OH doesn’t talk about it all had a wee cry last night and was close to crying most of the day.

It’s not easy as we all know ladies xx
Have a meeting with Welfare Support from Work tomorrow morning also but think its just to ask if they can do anything to help from what my colleagues have told me.

Take care ladies, big hugs 🤗

Hi Ladies,

Let me join this club so I can feel I'm not alone during this sad journey.

I fell pregnant quickly after we started TTC in May. I got BFP in July and all was good until I started bleeding last week. At 11+2w the scan at the EPU showed an empty sac + yolk, no baby. Since then the bleeding is heavier and cramping more intense, just like having a heavy period. The EPU will see me again in 10 days following the guidelines, but I do know I'm miscarrying and just want to deal with it as soon as possible. I've just called them to bring the appointment forward. They will see me on Wednesday (after 8days) but if everything looks the same they will not be able to proceed with management options... We're supposed to be flying on Saturday for our nearly 2 weeks holiday. I really need to go, more than anything to see my family after four long months and to get their love and support which I'm in so much need of at this time.

It seems my body will not let go quickly, and that's what I need the most right now so I can start moving on emotionally. This was my first pregnancy and my first miscarriage.

I'm on my way to buy more pregnancy tests, this time with the hope I get a negative result to confirm the hormones are gone.

What a bad experience this is, I'm so sorry for your losses, wishing your day is filled with optimism

xx

UPDATE

I thought I'll come back and give an update after my long message from earlier today.

At 3pm the cramping got intense. By 3:30pm I was having contractions and at 4:15pm I passed what I believe was the sac. The pain stopped instantly and I'm just bleeding a bit heavily now.

It is bad but I feel a lot better now knowing that the physical recovery will be quicker this way and then I can have a break from all this and come back from the holidays feeling stronger.

Hope everything is going well with you all ((hugs))

Xx

Hi @Mumtobe34

Sorry to hear you have found yourself in this situation, it isn’t nice and of course you can post on here xx I see your update too, hopefully now you have passed that will be it all just the bleeding, my bleeding lasted nearly 2 wks it was painful cramps at the start with heavy bleeding then just the bleeding as the cramps eased off, I had a missed miscarriage and had to have the ERPC as I didn’t start bleeding myself, I hope you can at least have a wee break away on your holidays and see your family be get support & love from them.
All the best, take care of yourself and don’t do too much would be my advice xx

@Mumtobe34 sorry you find yourself here but I have to say it is a great place for support, people who actually know how you feel not tell you what they think you want to hear.

@ChattyL fine really about tomorrow I know they aren't going to tell me why I'm not getting pregnant so it'll probably just be depression or hormones!

Another Friend has just announced on FB she's pregnant and boom anger again!! I haven't said congratulations to any Friends apart from the one who has had multiple misscarriages. I don't want anyone to feel that pain but just can't say congratulations.
Had a good chat with my best friends wife today she's a great person to talk to and has a medical background. I talked about starting aspirin she said she would I just don't get why I'm not getting any positives on the ovulation tests and aspirin isn't going to change that. I'm also sick of being told relax and enjoy it it'll work then easier said than done people!!!

Sorry ranting again! x

Hi again girls, I changed my user name as Mumtobe didn't seem appropriate 🙂 thanks for the replies.

@ChattyL
Sorry to hear about your experience, I thought after ERPC there was no more pain and people felt physically back to normal straightaway (I read it somewhere). Here it goes again that every woman, pregnancy and miscarriage is different. I'll take your advice and I'll take it easy. Hopefully I'll get confirmation that that was it on Wednesday.

@Michelle0507
Sorry about your situation, it is frustrating no having the answers you're looking for. I have read so many stories since last week (sure you have too) and there are stories that give us hope, the happy endings. Do never lose hope. When I broke the news today to a friend she told me about her neighbour and their two miscarriages and their 3 month old rainbow baby girl. Have you got in touch with Tommy's? Perhaps you have but if you haven't yet do check them out. They could get you information about research centres and explore your options. And I get how you feel about seeing pregnancy hits and babies everywhere, they become more "apparent" out of the sudden (like hey look at me look at me!)... time will help

Xx

Well what a waste...
Apparently my potassium was slightly low & I was dehydrated according to my bloods, yet someone else rang me from the Drs and said they were all okay. Clearly not all okay but no need for an appt etc.
The Dr well she was so different like she had no interest and was just like why are you still here there is nothing wrong. Recomended I look at Sleep Hygine it's some App or something and it costs & to look at Mindfulness.
I asked about Asprin in pregnancy no I don't recommend it, if you had another misscarriage we'd look to do it - thanks a fkin lot!
Also she made out it just fell at the same time I came off the pill egg released but she said it probably wasn't a good egg and my womb wouldn't be healthy. Now no one has ever suggested this she isn't even a qualified Dr so I'm feeling so pissed off. I'm going to treat myself to a good Ovulation Test (recommendations welcome) on payday give it a month if still negative I'm going to look at seeing some private.
NHS you've been utter shite yet again!

@ChattyL @PineapplePrincess @Pampl3m0use

Gah @Michelle0507 - she sounds awful, completely unhelpful. Do you have to do anything about the low potassium? Can you arrange to see the first doctor again?

I would be tempted to try the low dose aspirin if I were you. I’m currently on it, and it was recommended to me after my second miscarriage.

When I was at the hospital seeing the RMC, I asked about folate (not recommended as no scientific evidence it works), progesterone (warned against as it can cause fusing problems with baby apparently) and doc was non committal about trying benedryl (some women have found it helpful, but nothing conclusive). She did say if this pregnancy didn’t work she would give me the contact details for an English doctor who could arrange Killer NK tests at a low price (circa £200). I was like WTF, why wouldn’t you let me do that before now!!! It’s like it’s fine to go through more miscarriages before offering points of help - grrrrrr!

In other news I have 10wk scan tomorrow. I have a bad feeling about it. Morning sickness has been coming and going this week, and I have come out in spots both on my face and down below. Symptoms are reminiscent of previous miscarriages, so fearing the worst. Not sure whether to warn DH I need advance.

@Ladybug84 - welcome, sorry you have joined us.

@ChattyL, @@Cleozeta, @Pampl3m0usse - thank you for the nice comments. Its brought tears to my eyes. Hoping everything is okay, but constantly thinking the worst and trying not to get used to the idea. MC takes pleasure out of absolutely everything.

Quick one @PineapplePrincess as about to run out of the door to work.

Thinking of you and hope all is well xx

@pineappleprincess

All the best of luck for today xx
I’ll check in later again to see how you got on.
Hope everyone else is keeping well too xx

@Pineappleprincess thinking of you and sending you all the positive vibes!

Good luck pineapple x

Hey guys, scan went okay today. We still have a heart beat! Measuring 10+1 which is bang on. Cried yet again, seriously I am crying at everything atm.

Woman doing the scan was awful, was on the bed for less than a minute. She didn’t ask if I wanted the monitor on or not (I usually get it turned off at least till a HB is confirmed). Announced “there’s the baby”, I purposely wasn’t looking at the screen and I actually had to ask if there was a HB. She said ‘yes’ switched everything off and got up and left the room.

DH asked if everything looked okay as she got up, and she just ignored him. I left to go to the loo (holding bladder all morning) and I think he cornered her to ask again. She said everything looked fine, but she spent so little time scanning I don’t know how she could say that.

Such a contrast to last weeks scan, where the lady was so reassuring and didn’t rush, checked ovaries, sac, etc. This women obviously thought a reassurance scan wasn’t worth her time or effort; god help anyone if she had had to impart bad news.

Two weeks now till the 12wk scan. Eeeeek!

@PineapplePrincess that's SO amazing. Very shit about the the lady scanning you!!

I just want to feel your happiness I don't understand how I got preg after dtd less than 5 times now can't. I've seen a lot of people have acupuncture to help.x

@PineapplePrincess

Great news!! Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞🏼 xx