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Went for my 12 week today and baby had stopped growing at 8+4. They are giving me a week to see if things move on their own. Don't know how to feel but so feel guilty

Hi, my period was odd really painful then okay really heavy then nothing then a few spots one day was odd. I looked at an ovulation app and mine said 21st for like 5 days did a test on 21st I think it was positive as I bought the cheap ones with 2 lines dtd been testing since and it's negative!?! Well confused.
I had my nose done also it's my nearly 30 crisis! The most painful piercing I've ever had, I also nearly fainted. @Pampl3m0use

A friend told me you're more likely to get twins after a miscarriage, no idea how much truth there is in that! I was a Nanny for twins, wow it was hard work lol! But right now I'd take twins!

Hey @Pampl3m0use, hope things are fairing better for you at the moment. Love the idea of a nose piercing, pain doesn’t sound so good though!?!

Took another test last week and got a positive, and no sign of AF as yet. So looks like this is happening, for now anyway.

Seen the doctor who took the bloods that the consultant ask for (15 vials in total), but apparently they all came back normal. Have chased for a consultants appointment, but she currently on holidays.

Due to start aspirin from Thursday this week, and scan next week to see if there is a HB then start clexane.

Got a call from the booking-in team at the hospital trying to organise a mid-wife appointment today. Told them no, they could take the data from my April appointment, nothing has changed except my intervening MC. Would do the paperwork if I make it to a successful 12wk scan.

It’s all very unreal. I have to keep myself my brain that this isn’t happening, until it happens...

Are you getting a positive test and thinking your pregnant @PineapplePrincess or am I reading wrong?

I've been considering taking aspirin but don't know if it's safe to do so? I feel like if I go to my GP she'll be like there is no need bla bla.

Yep, @Michelle0507. Four positives to date and no sign of AF, currently going on two weeks late.

The P word is banned though, I’m on track for MC #5 is the way I’m currently dealing with this.

Oh wow, how lovely I'll keep everything crossed for you. Positive thoughts I know it's hard.

I've questioned whether I am as I got a clear 2 lines on the ovulation stick dtd tested next day and it was negative but I don't know if it'd work like that. I just feel so sad & fed up, which probably won't help me get pregnant - everyone keeps telling me that. Desperate to test but I'll be like 3 days so I don't know. I've done an ovulation test every day and it's been negative. X

Myself & my partner went for 12 week scan on 19.7.18 to be told the baby was only 6 weeks size and no heart break, devastated and shocked, I’m 39 years old and have waited so long for the right man to want to have a child with, we’ve been together 4 years and thought if we want a family we better start so this was devastating, went to the EPPC yesterday to scan again and they confirmed the same, had read so much about this on here and about the options, my family were all pressuring me to go with surgical procedure which I am so petrified of, I have a totally irrational fear that someone could be doing anything to you while you are asleep, I don’t know where it’s come from but it really haunts me, in the end I decided myself with the surgical procedure as the other 2 didn’t seem like something I can cope with, I have no bleeding or anything and it just doesn’t seem real. Reading all the other ladies stories here has really helped me, I am booked in for surgical procedure tomorrow morning, really worried feel so sick about it and heart broken 😢

@ChattyL so sorry you find yourself here.
I also found this thread so useful it has been so good to chat to people who have been through it also.
I went for surgical as I didn't want to flush the baby away & I wouldn't have been brave enough to be awake during a procedure. I'd let the Hospital know how worried you are there are lots of people in theatre so I wouldn't worry too much.
My bleeding started the night before.

Sending you well wishes for tomorrow x

Hi Michelle thank you so much for your reply, I felt the same as you did about the other 2 options plus didn’t want to have all the bleeding to cope with, I told the surgeon on Tuesday all my worries, my OH said she thinks your a nutter after that, but I couldn’t cope with the situation unless I told them and she’s the one doing the surgery so least she knows now.

Im now in bed eating pancakes and ham before the cut off time of midnight, I know I’ll be hungry in the morning have to phone hospital at 6& be there for 7.30 fingers crossed I don’t have to wait long, as with all the woman here the waiting isn’t nice.
Thank you for the well wishes I will post on here tomorrow when I get home, this page has been so good and helped me to this point so far xx

Hope all goes ok for you today @ChattyL

I was also in your position last week and had surgery a week ago today. I was in a lot of pain by the time I was waiting to go down to theatre, and it was a relief when I woke up and the pain had gone. I've had very minimal cramps and bleeding since. Surgery was definitely the right decision for me.

I am now back at work and feeling more positive about the future as each day passes. It's been tough but it does get easier.

Thinking of you - and everyone else on this thread xx

Hi
Michelle0507 and snowy29 I’m now back in my room went to theatre at 8.15 I would say I was asleep by 8.30 after all the prep and checks and awake in recovery at 9.15 felt ok when I woke up doesn’t take long to come around just couple of mins, then back into my room on the ward at 10.35, it went ok better than I expected with all my fears just some cramps and bleeding now but hopefully that will pass, can’t find the remote for the TV so I’m on my phone replying to Mum, sisters etc and chatting to my partner who’s stayed and waited on me while I was in.
They said I can go home In about an hour.
I’m so grateful of this mums net for all the help & advice I’ve had it has really helped me reading other ladies experiences. Thank you ladies xx

Hi @ChattyL glad to hear it went as well as it can. It is a very short operation, I slept for about 3 hours after.
Rest up and take it easy. I felt ill for around 2 weeks but I think it was the change in hormone levels. X

Hi @Michelle0507 I felt wide awake after, tried to sleep at 3.30 slept a wee bit but so much noise from a local steel works it woke me then had a text from my mum to say an uncle has died, ☹️ So I didn’t feel like sleeping anymore. Yeah the hormone levels are bound to have to readjust, if you don’t mind me asking what way did u feel Ill? I’ve a sick line until 7.8.18 but imsure I’ll get another if needed, work is very stressful and busy and i don’t need to rush back xx

I just felt unwell I couldn't particularly say how, daft I know. Head aches, tiered, drained, run down just unwell a bit of dizziness. I found out on 5th May there was no HB work gave me a week off sick. Nurse at Hosp gave me a sick note for another 2 weeks which I didn't want but needed. I only went back for 2 days then went abroad for 2 weeks so it really helped. Do not rush back.x

Hi everyone - it's my first time posting here.

I had a MMC at 12 weeks. I had had some light bleeding and spotting which progressively got worse over the course of a week. Initially the midwife assured me that it could all still be ok but unfortunately it wasn't meant to be. I went to the epu one night after starting to bleed really badly and a few days later the scan confirmed the fetus had stopped developing at 5 weeks. I was absolutely devasted. The truth is when we found out we were pregnant i was worried about work and what I would do but as the days went by we got more and more used to the idea of having a little one in January. I was in so much pain and couldn't face coming home waiting to miscarry so had an erpc at the beginning of the month. I only bled v lightly for a few days and 2 weeks after the erpc I took a pregnancy test which was negative. Since then I have had no symptoms and still waiting for my af. I know it's only been 25 days but the anxiety is having the best of me. Before I got pregnant my periods were 28/30 days and I am hoping I go back to normal as soon as possible so we can start trying again. It's so demoralising every day hoping my body will go back to normal. Plus I'm feeling so lonely. I had only told v close family and 2 friends. Our families have been supportive but my friends don't seem interested. It's like I am supposed to just be fine because these things happen. It's like it's nothing you just get over it and move on and that's it. I feel like I don't have my body back. Like I can't move on until I have my period and get pregnant again.

I just need to remind myself that is was a horrible experience physically and mentally and it will take time.... It's good to hear positive stories here though!

Welcome @ChattyL @snowy29 @IMBP - sorry you all find yourself here.

@IMBP, you’ll find a lot of people don’t understand miscarriage unless they have been through one themselves. For those who haven’t experienced it, it is often easier for them to ignore the issue completely. Normally because they don’t want to upset you by bring it up. Often you need to set the tone or take the lead, and others will follow. As for body getting back to normality, it can take time - it’s still recovering and will be out of whack for a bit. Be gentle with yourself and try not to worry too much. (Easier said than done, I know!)

@ChattyL, please don’t rush back to work if you don’t feel up to it. Sorry to hear about your uncle also.

Hey guys, hope everyone is holding up this week.

How’s @Michelle0507 and @Pampl3m0usse?

Hi @PineapplePrincess thanks for asking. I am having the worst period of my life, which I believe is also a wee early. Not heavy just the worst pain, it's the same pain as when I started to misscary. The pain goes into my right hip and around my back. I'm booked in at the Drs Tue, but it's with an associate - she is lovely but she has to get a GP you go over everything she's said so it is explaining it twice and I don't think she is the best person to see. I also just feel so run down and fed up I've not had any positive ovulation tests and I think it's all got a bit much. I'm hoping they carry out some blood tests. I came off antidepressants about 5 months before I got pregnant, I think they'll suggest it again. The side effects going on and off it were awful , I didn't think you could be on them when you were pregnant either so we'll see. Right now I'm just so sad that I'm not pregnant. I'm 30 a month today and wanted to be pregnant before then! :( Sorry for my rant literally don't have anyone else to rant to!!!

Hope everyone else is doing okay. x

Oh @Michelle0507 that sucks. Feel free to rant. Have you been using the CB ovulation tests or the strips? I found the strips hopeless to predict, and used CB for a couple of months (too expensive to use any longer) until I got the hang of reading the signs.

Pain doesn’t sound good, glad you are getting it checked out. Maybe there is an underlying cause that’s ties to the reason you miscarried?

Thirtieth birthday is not so bad (trust me fortieth is much harder!). I know the goal setting is easy to do, but you are still sooooooooo young in the grand scheme of things. Please don’t let this get you down. {{{big hugs}}}

@ChattyL how are you feeling a little while on? I do hope that you're managing to get some time to rest.
@IMBP I felt exactly the same about just wanting to get pregnant again quickly and move on... it has sort of lessened a little over time (I'm not pregnant three months on) although it's pretty miserable whenever I get my period.
@Cleozeta are you still here? Any news?
@PineapplePrincess thank you for the hello. I hope you're still managing to remain sanguine about everything, and feel like you have some decent support in place whatever happens going forwards (although I've thought of you lots and hope that you will have lovely positive news going forwards).
@Michelle0507 I had horrendous period pain for the first couple of months after my miscarriage, to the extent that I went to hospital to get checked out. I ended up with a scan about two and a half weeks ago and there was no obvious cause. Scan was a source of mucho disappointment as it looked like I had two ready to pop follicles (and therefore two eggs) but still didn't fall this month. On CD3 and feeling a bit better after a few hopeless days. I had dental surgery a couple of months ago and follow up treatment a week ago which seems to have triggered the most horrendous cold sores..... :s so feeling a bit sorry for myself (and theyre so sore eating is tricky!) I think it's probably an indicator of how run down I am as well, job continued to be horrendous until the end of term and just moved house. Hopefully more positive news for me on the horizon anyway!
xxxx

Hi pampl, thanks for asking, nothing to report here, cycles (thankfully) normal so far but nothing of the 'increased fertility' after mc unfortunately. Just keep thinking I should be 23 weeks currently! Starting to think its a no go for me as I'm 41 and time is flying by.
Fingers crossed for all of us soon

Hi! Thank you for the message! I've had my period 29 after the erpc but it was only a couple of days and lighter then previously (sorry for the details). I didn't seem to have any symptoms either before my period and that is worrying for some reason.

I am hoping things improve for everyone here. I keep telling myself this is something I won't forget but which I will overcome and I try to focus on the people who have had successful pregnancies after a miscarriage.

Hi lovelies,

So I went to see my GP today well the associate - I've still no actual idea what she is apart from lovely she feels like one of those friends you catch up with every now and again!
So I told her I feel tired, run down, many head aches including migraines and just unwell. I said I feel like a right old nag people must be thinking just stop moaning!! She's done bloods for literally everything! She did them there and then which is good as I'm needle phobic but meant I had no numbing cream, asked for a butterfly needle and that's what she used she was so good.
I go back next week and we'll discuss if there is anything on the bloods if not she is going to go through each area and try and sort it. She did say do you think it could be a bit of depression I said I don't know as I don't honestly know what depression feels like! I said my old tablets were awful for side effects at the start and end so I'm very anxious about having to go on them again.
I mentioned horrible periods and not ovulating she tells people 6 - 12 months for normal periods and ovulation! Hosp literally told me I'd be instantly pregnant. So I think I've put pressure on myself to get pregnant instantly hasn't worked slipped into a bit of depression but we'll see. Please body just let me have a baby.
Sorry for the long post! x

@Pampl3M0use @pineappleprincess

Hi ladies,

@pampl3m0use @pineappleprincess @michelle0507

I hope yous are well as we all can be, @michelle0507 glad to hear the doctor is doing bloods hopefully if something is wrong it’s easy to sort, I hope your doctor is wrong about it taking that long for your body to get back to normal I was told that could get pregnant straight away too by hospital and I hope it happens for all of us when we are ready, I am 39 my missed miscarriage was the 1st time in my life I have tried to get pregnant, isn’t it funny we spend our life taking the pill, injection, coil etc to prevent pregnancy then when we want a baby it’s not that easy, was just discussing with a friend this week who’s suffered miscarriages too.
@pample3m0use I’ve been getting lots of rest phoned doctor today to get another sick note physically feel ok bleeding starting to end I hope, has been off and on heavy and light since the surgery will be 2 wks this Thursday, but mentally not ready for work yet, my work is very busy and a lot of pressure I’m not ready to face that yet, I’ve told a few colleagues also but I know the rest will be asking ‘what was wrong with u’??? they probably think I’m sick of work and needed a break as a lot of people take off sick with it, I’ve holidays planned for 26.8.18 for 2 wks so will go back after that, no holiday away booked yet but hoping to sort that this week need a break away.
Sorry for the long post xx

ChattyL I know exactly what you mean I feel a fool through my younger years thinking "OMG am I pregnant" always used protection like but my younger brain didn't work like that.
Snap I thought I'd be pregnant this time just had some feelings, obviously not. This period is odd I had 2 days of just blood when you wipe (sorry) and today is the same. Thank God the awful period pains have gone!!
I'm glad you're giving yourself time to heal, I didn't think I'd be off 3 weeks but it was needed. I think I'd have taken another week at least but I worked 1.5 days then went on holiday for 2 weeks! X