Missed miscarriage and next period

[Greenglassteacup]

Hello All

I had an erpc 3 weeks ago after a mmc. I want to ask others who have been through this horrendous experience when your next period came. Also, was it a lot lighter or heavier from your usual periods?
Thanks

Oh well, the dangers of testing too early. Must have been a chemical pregnancy. Period started today. Load of shit.

Does thos count as a second miscarriage or not? Feel very low.

Did some reading. Looks like it would be considered a second miscarriage as it is not possible to get a positive result on a pregnancy test unless implantation has occured. I suppose it's better than the missed miscarriage I had last time. At least I know this time & a lot earlier. Still doesn't make going to work & pasting on a smile any easier.

So sorry to hear this Greenglass. Hope your ok

No I'm not ok. Twice in 4 months. I have forced myself through another day at work. All I want to do is go to bed & stay there.

After the first miscarriage the consultant who did the erpc said it was "very unlikely to happen again". Fuck that.

I feel so angry & so sad.

I know it's horrible to experience it once but twice just seems so unfair.

The bleeding is as heavy as the period after the erpc

So sorry you're going through this again Greenglass. I'm also 42, lucky enough to have a 2 year old DD, but this week have just had my second MMC picked up at a scan, MVA scheduled for next week.

I always said that my 43rd birthday was my cut off of ttc-ing a sibling, but that is looming in March '17 and I'm not ready to rule out another child completely. I hate hate hate being this old. Couldn't believe we'd conceived again, first cycle we'd really tried, I didn't really believe we could be so lucky so wasn't surprised when the scan showed the embryo two weeks behind my dates.

My biggest fear is that my egg quality is presumably such that there is a high risk of this happening again and, like you, I don't want to spend my DD's childhood being sad, hormonal and stressed out.

Please PM me if you want to have a rant or a chat.

Thanks Duck for you in this awful mess. I've been so tearful today, feel floored by this & it's such a hidden, socially unacceptable grief.

www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/video/2016/dec/14/i-had-a-miscarriage-and-im-not-afraid-to-talk-about-it-video

Hi, just to say I'm so sorry you're going through this a second time, it truly is shit. I had a later loss earlier this year and just last week had an early miscarriage of what was supposed to be my rainbow. This second time round I have felt so angry, I too was told I was statistically more than likey to have a healthy pregnancy, if I managed to get pregnant again. Forgive me, but statistics can piss right off, they are not helpful when you are always the bloody 1 in whatever odds.

I'm thinking of you and I understand the pain

Ps just watched the video, thanks for sharing that, it is very true what she says.

Hi Proper

I've bought chocolate & that's dinner sorted

Greedy and tea cup..... You may find this book helpful (it is about conceiving against the odds toward the end of reproductive life)..... It is a bit full of new age stuff (personally I don't buy into that).... But also the first few chapters are full of wisdom and about rebuilding your conception of yourself/ learning to trust your instincts and body. I have found this infinitely helpful (and it is not a "how to conceive " bible.... It is as much about making your peace with the journey to motherhood again, or not as the case may be....)

It also aloows for the possibility of wanting to rage against the universe/ never get out of bed again type feelings, so not a "Pollyanna " approach....

The fertile female by Julia Indichova

Thank you for the recommendation but it's really not my cup of tea, I prefer to lose myself in a novel or do some drawing or walk in the woods. I'm done with trying to conceive, I am not interested in having any alternative therapies or any fertility tests or in charting my temperature. I wish you all well