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Tell me your happy endings

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Cass168 · 02/05/2016 07:23

I found out last week I'm having my second missed miscarriage in 6 months and that they won't refer me for tests until I have three. Which hopefully I won't!
So while I get myself together mentally, please tell me your positive stories about conceiving after miscarriage. Was it third time lucky? What did you do differently? It would make me feel so much better to hear some happy stories. I have one dc already - totally normal, uneventful pregnancy that time.

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honeysucklejasmine · 02/05/2016 07:27

So sorry for your loss. Flowers

I MC my first pregnancy, and carried my second to term. She's currently in the other room with DH so I can sleep... Not sure why I am not, really.

I didn't do anything differently. It took 10 months to concieve again.

BeauGlacons · 02/05/2016 07:34

Ah now five ogs reached the second trimester, three the third and I lost count of the early miscarriages. DD was conceived when I was advised nit to, until the results of tests at least and was born 51 weeks after ds2 at 27 (he was too poorly to make it). I think of him every day.

DD was born at 41 weeks, very easily. Everyone heaved a sigh of relief.

There is nothing you can do to influence this if you lead a reasonably healthy life. It isn't you fault.

I remember the mental pain so clearly and my youngest is almost 18.

I look at my two children now and the only way I can rationalise it I if it hadn't happened I wouldn't have the same wonderful children I got in the end.

Of all my losses I found the mmc at 12 weeks the hardest - the lack of explanation and matter of fact way it was dealt with made it heartbreaking. And the fact that my body seemed to have thought it was still pregnant when it hadn't been for weeks. Very distressing and I feel for you.

Good luck, be kind to yourself.

Baconyum · 02/05/2016 07:34

Conception wasn't my problem undiagnosed endo and maintaining a pregnancy was. I lost 3 no 4 is snoring in next room Grin

Have to say though I'm a pro-active type. I did a lot of research and as a result decided before even ttc again

No alcohol
No caffeine
Refined sugar to a minimum
Additives to a minimum
No high impact exercise
No unpasteurised cheese, raw egg stuff etc

Now I don't know if that made a difference, but she's here now. I do tend to be evangelical on the no caffeine and no alcohol though as there's a lot of research supports this and several other countries advise women to avoid these in pregnancy. The others are more controversial but by this point I figured it couldn't hurt.

Cyrli · 02/05/2016 07:48

So sorry to hear of your loss. I had two mmc at 12 weeks six months apart after two healthy pregnancies. I got no answers and was told I'd been very unlucky Sad

My next pregnancy was very difficult but successful. I took 75mg of asprin every day from finding out I was pregnant to the birth. I told all doctors / midwives etc that I was taking asprin and they all agreed it was a good idea. It worked, two year old is climbing over me now!

I hope everything will work out for you. X

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Cass168 · 02/05/2016 09:08

Thank you so much, this is exactly what I need to hear right now. And really happy that things worked out for you after your losses Flowers

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Snoopysimaginaryfriend · 02/05/2016 16:31

I'm not a success story quite yet, but after three miscarriages before 12 weeks (one a mmc) I am 38 weeks pregnant.

I always got pregnant first time trying just couldn't hold on to them. After the third I asked to be referred to a miscarriage clinic, the NHS referred me to an IVF clinic.

We went private for treatment. I had aspirin, progesterone, steroids and three intralipid drips up to 16 weeks. She isn't here yet but they always remark how she's strong and healthy at appointments.

Don't give up!

TomCat81 · 02/05/2016 18:17

Third time lucky here. 38 weeks pregnant after two early miscarriages last year. I didn't do anything different, but with the first two we conceived straightaway. This one took us three months of trying (not long, but it felt it to us). I'm not sure if that made a difference but it was something to cling on to in the early days. Good luck, hope it works out for you.

lovelilies · 02/05/2016 18:29

3rd pregnancy ended in MC for me, then I conceived again 4 months later and am currently 33 weeks with DC 3.
Sorry for your losses, remember each pregnancy is individual and I felt better knowing that the mc meant that baby just wasn't meant to be.
Good luck, don't give up hope Flowers

Jsy123 · 04/05/2016 22:47

I'm sorry for your losses. I miscarried my first and second pregnancies in 2014 and am happy to say that it was third time lucky for me. Like you, my dr wouldn't test until I'd had 3, he said that in most cases 2 in a row is simply bad luck and i suppose that was true in my case. Hopefully it will be for you too.

Best of luck and try to stay positive, your chances of your next pregnancy being successful still outweigh the chances of it not being.

limon · 08/05/2016 11:38

Fourth time lucky for me. I had one "pregnancy of unknown location" and two early missed miscarriages. Three months after my third, testing having been inconclusive, I got pregnant again and took 2x baby aspirin every day. I had my dd aged 43 and 3/4 and she's now four.

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Cass168 · 08/05/2016 21:04

Thank you all for sharing your stories.
A question though - for those who took baby aspirin, did you take one or two a day?

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limon · 09/05/2016 08:18

I took two a day. I'd taken one a day in my third pregnancy and the doc said it would be fine to take two a day. I only took them after I was pregnant. I really do think it must have been a blood circulation issue.

pawpatrol · 11/05/2016 10:57

So sorry for your losses. I had two within five months, took some time out then five months later conceived Dd who is now nearly 6. Xx

RaisinGirls · 11/05/2016 12:27

In 2013 I found out I had a MCC when I was 12 weeks pregnant, after many years of trying. I felt like my life had fallen apart, and never before or again had I felt such loss.

I now have a two year old daughter, conceived about 4 months later. They only thing I did differently was to be obsessive about having sex. I did take aspirin (75mg) a day from the moment I found out. Not sure what difference that made - as have been pregnant since (2 further MC) and it didn't help - although it really depends on why the MC happen I suppose. The one thing I did do differently after the MMC was I followed the Sperm Meets Egg Plan (google it / search on here) and stuck to it no matter what. I didn't change eating / drinking / other lifestyle things.

I really hope things change for you, I know when I was ttc after mc I found MN such a fantastic resource and it helped me get through each day.

steppemum · 11/05/2016 12:42

I had MC
then ds was born
then a MC
then another MC
then dd1
then a MC
then dd2

I did start taking zinc supplements before dd1 was born, but don't really know if it helped.

rider1975 · 12/05/2016 18:25

Really enjoyed reading these success stories - thank you for sharing and congrats to you all xx

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Cass168 · 12/05/2016 21:13

As rider said - thank you all, and sorry for your losses.
This thread has helped me a lot over the past couple of weeks. Flowers for each and every lovely one of you

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farfallarocks · 12/05/2016 22:49

Third time lucky for me after treatment with clexane ( I went for tests privately ) and again after one mc we got lucky with number 2 after being told a natural conception was impossible and a failed round of ivf! So sorry for your loss it's the pits

Imaginosity · 12/05/2016 23:39

I had two miscarriages at 12 weeks - about 6 months apart. Then two more earlier miscarriages. I had accepted the fact that I was not going to be able to have another baby - it took me ages to come to terms with it.

My last miscarriage was at 6 or 7 weeks. I got pregnant again the next month and an 20 weeks pregnant now and everything is looking positive. I still haven't got my head around it fully as I never thought I'd get to this point.

I was prescribed baby asprin after the fourth miscarriage. Make sure you talk to a doctor if you're considering taking asprin as I think standard dose asprin is not recommended in pregnancy.

Have you read this?
www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/wp/wp-content/leaflets/Thinking-about-another-pregnancy.pdf

AKP79 · 25/05/2016 16:37

This is a brilliant thread. Thank you Cass for the link. It's so nice to hear some positive stories.

Currently going through my 2nd miscarriage. 1st MMC at around 10 weeks. This time MMC was diagnosed at 12 week scan. Booked in fir ERPC. On Tuesday, but have started cramping and bleeding. Needed something positive to see me through.

Rhuba · 25/05/2016 16:53

Cass I'm so sorry for your losses.

I had a MMC at 11 weeks. I now have DD (6) and DS (4) I did nothing different except I was a nervous wreck for pregnancies 2 and 3!

My friend had 6 miscarriages Sad. Then last year she had a lovely baby girl. She then forgot about contraception and had another baby girl 9.5 months later! Grin

Rhuba · 25/05/2016 17:07

AKP Flowers

Nyborg · 25/05/2016 17:13

Cass, I'm so sorry for your loss.

I had a miscarriage at 13 weeks, and then another at 7 weeks. The first was especially grim - I hemorrhaged, had a D&C and ended up back in hospital four days later with a complication from the op.

I knew about the "three MCs before a referral" rule although my GP was very supportive and sympathetic. I was terribly upset at the prospect of conceiving a third pregnancy that would almost certainly end in a loss.

But then it didn't. I had hideous morning sickness which carried on for most of the pregnancy, but I had no intervention or treatment at all and yet DS was born at a good size, having stayed happily put until 42 weeks. He is now a very chirpy toddler. He is the baby I didn't think I could have without medical help.

I so hope your story is the same. Wishing you strength and good fortune.

BrightandEarly · 25/05/2016 17:15

I am so sorry for your loss. I had two missed miscarriages in a row and it was devastating.

My third pregnancy resulted in DD, now 3, and very soon afterwards I had DS, now 2. So there certainly is hope.

Both of my miscarriages were investigated (private healthcare). In the case of the first baby no cause was found, which was worrying at the time. In the case of the second there was a chromosomal abnormality, but not one that was linked in particular to DH or I, or likely to occur again. I found that reassuring.

I didn't do anything differently in my third or fourth pregnancies.

One thing which has helped me immensely is I had a little stone bird made by an artist to represent each lost baby. These are still by my bed and my way of not forgetting them. I appreciate this may not be for everyone, but it has made a big difference for me.

Thinking of you OP Flowers

Umblubblub · 25/05/2016 17:30

Hi Cass, also wanted to say thanks for posting this. I've recently had my second mmc in a row too, and also have one dc. We're about to start ttc again and I'm petrified. Reading these positive experiences really does help.