Miscarriage at 6 weeks

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I lost my baby at 6 weeks yesterday. I went to hospital at lunchtime and by 5pm the miscarriage had 'completed'. So though it was painful, it was fairly quick.

I think I was in shock, so went into a kind of auto-pilot last night when I came home and thought I was coping. But I have been up most of the night crying and finding it hard to deal with a few things (TMI warning):

• I was clotting during the miscarriage and there were one or two large clots/ pieces of tissue. Was one of them by baby? If so, it means I flushed it down the toilet without saying goodbye. I think I would like to have buried the remains, but no one prepare you for what comes out.
• I didn't get to find out whether my baby was a boy or a girl. And I will never know.
• I am worried that other people won't understand how I feel because the baby was only 6 weeks. Maybe they are right? Maybe it's too early to grieve?

Please tell me how I am feeling is normal and that it gets better.

That makes sense. And your health is the most important thing.

My GP said that my period could take 6 weeks to appear and that seems like a long time to wait. I have nothing to lose by ttc now. The worst that can happen is that I will get my period in 4-6 weeks.

Yes definitely. Wishing you all the best!

Do you feel your hormones have settled now? I'm still feeling very up and down and just wondering how long it's taken for other people to feel 'settled'

Melvali I still feel very up and down...I felt stronger at the beginning of the week but had a wobble by Wednesday, had yesterday off of work, but went back today and feel ok.
I go from feeling very emotional and sad, to numb, to stronger, to happy, to angry...I've feel like I've felt ever emotion going over the past 10 days! I'm hoping it settles soon because I'd really like to get back in the swing of normal life and resume my normal activities like the gym etc.
Shop...I've been wondering whether to do a test or not, I got sent the one from the hospital to do after 3 weeks but was going to buy a cheap one to check if my levels had gone down. I'm just not sure how I'll feel seeing 'not pregnant' in black and white so to speak.
I also know what you mean about future plans though...my baby would have been due around the end of August and it is my good friend's wedding on September 2nd which I might not have been able to attend had I remained pregnant. I'm sure other things will crop up which will make me think similar.

Aww, I think that's normal. Have you done a pregnancy test? You may still have pregnancy hormones in your body, which would explain the way you feel. Mine seem to have settled, which is making coping a lot easier. But I know it can take time for the hormones to go back down to zero, especially if you were further along with your pregnancy.

My mum said to me today to write down the things I am grateful for each day as a way of moving forward. Even things related to not being pregnant anymore...social events, being able to go back to the gym, building my relationship with my partner, planning a break away etc.
Hope everyone is doing ok and has something nice to do over the weekend.

Thanks girls I'll take that advice on..

After thinking about pregnancy tests after writing that, I popped to boots at the end of the road and just got a BFN too.
Feels weird. It's so strange, is like it never really happened.

How long has it been since your miscarriage? Is the bleeding completely over? Sorry if I
Ask the same
Questions j just can't
Keep track of anything.

Back pain and headaches started Monday 4th, I started bleeding on morning of Tuesday 5th, by the time I had gotten to hospital and had a scan in the afternoon I had already passed the pregnancy. I had cramps and bled until Monday this week.
My headache hasn't gone since Monday 4th!

Galway, I've become really removed from what happened after my BFN. Like I'm remembering something that happened to someone else? I'm not sure if that's a good thing, but today is the first positive day I've had since the 5th.

Drinking a lot more water than I normally do has really helped with my headaches. Sorry if that's really obvious, but I'm rubbish at drinking enough water usually.

I hope you don't mind me joining you, but seems I am now in the same situation that many of you have recently experienced, and I'm hoping writing it down may help me process what is happening to me.

I turned 6 weeks today, but unfortunately started bleeding bright red blood this morning with mild cramping type pain, and it hasn't stopped all day :-( All my symptoms have disappeared too. Scan at EPU on Monday as they couldn't fit me in today, but I already know that I've lost my baby in my heart and it's just so hard having to wait to be told for certain.

Sorry to download, just feeling so tearful and my DH just doesn't know what to do with himself or how to help me.

I'm hopeful that this fog will slowly lift. I'll never forget or get over it but I'll use my energy for something positive

Sorry dear I had the same feeling yesterday, I knew I had lost the baby even before I got told. Take heart and know you are not alone in this, mine happened just yesterday. Take care of yourself

RifRafia
I'm so sorry for your loss. It must be hard having to wait a weekend to be seen at hospital, I knew in my heart that my baby was gone as soon as I saw blood for the first time...I know what you mean. I also hadn't 'felt pregnant' either.
Try and rest and take regular painkillers...I was surprised just how much my miscarriage took it out of me physically so don't be surprised to feel exhausted.

Melvali, I will never forget this either...January 5th is a day stuck in my heart forever now Xx

Myoude...how are you feeling? Is anyone with you now? Xx

My brother just came in now, so I feel much bother

Sorry rifrafia, we posted at the same time so I missed your post yesterday.

Galaway, i realised my baby died on 4/1/16 and I miscarried on 5/1/16 it'll never leave me. I bought a charity gift - a fruit tree to dedicate to the baby and put baby's nickname followed by the date it left us. My head was so all over the place that I put the date I was discharged from hospital 7/1 and also put the wrong year. I am really very forgetful at the moment. Sometimes I can't make a sentence make sense. My brain can't keep up.

Have any of you felt this?

I'm double heartbroken, my boyfriend just broke up with me last night.
I thought I couldn't feel any worse than I did but I was wrong.

Omg! How could he? So sorry dear!

I'm so sorry Galway. What awful timing. Did he tell you why? xx

We had been up and down before I even got pregnant, and the past few weeks have been so stressful for us both. He didn't want our baby which caused us both heartache, and then this happened and my emotions have been up and down. I think he finds it hard to love me...we've been bickering over the past few days, he said some hurtful stuff and said he didn't want to be with me anymore, didn't know if he loved me, and left. He's gone on holiday for a week. I'm distraught.

So sorry to hear that Galway. You could have done with him by your side. He obviously doesn't appreciate the effect a miscarriage has as he could've waited until things settled a bit and then raised any relationship problems. I recall you saying that he didn't want the baby in the first place and you wouldn't be trying again although this baby triggered your want for a baby. Not sure if this is what you want to hear but you seem so lovely and I'm sure you could do better. Having kids is a big decision, I don't think I could love my partner as much if he told me he didn't want to have kids and I did. The very little I know of him - he seems a little selfish. Apologises if I'm speaking out of turn. You'll get through this though. Relationships are two way and if he didn't love you then it's best you go your own ways now. You'll be all over the place now but you'll get through this. I promise xx

Melvali, you're not speaking out of turn...thank you for your words.
I just feel crushed all over again, and right now I feel so alone xx