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Recurrent miscarriage support, tests, treatments and trying again.

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Monten · 27/04/2015 10:11

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

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bootles · 29/04/2015 23:48

Hi,

Gosh I have got so behind again, I was having a quick read through at the end of the last thread and now this one is zooming by. Some late shifts plus a million and other things.

Just to say I am thinking of everyone and will catch up properly tomorrow, really unclear as to what is happening over the last coup!e days as haven't read it so am not posting comments in case I get wrong end of stick.

Xx

Daisybell1 · 30/04/2015 04:56

I've just also had a massive catchup Blush

Congrats on the bfps!!!!!

Massive hugs to Minnie, and Brummie too. I know how it feels when no one can give you an answer Sad

I need to do a proper re read during daylight hours I think.

Twilight - were you at St Marys on tuesday too? How was your appointment? Mine was with the prof which floored me a bit as she's very brisk and I didn't dare ask half my questions Blush

The coils came out thank god (no one should ever be able feel their fallopian tubes) and i'm waiting for the hrt to work it's way out of my system too.

Im in a bit of a headspin to be honest going from no diagnosis a month ago to adhesions, news that Mc4 was a chromosomal problem and then St Marys revealing my TEG test had been high but they hadn't bothered to tell me Angry

So I now need to balance whether i do aspirin vs progesterone/hep. Am leaning towards coventry but that may just be because of the lure of extra drugs.

barkingtreefrog · 30/04/2015 06:35

wadsy I agree they should scan on clomid, but under the NHS it's the usual postcode lottery. I was just given 6 months supply and sent away, yet I know of others who had a couple of scans each month.

just I hope you can stay on as long as you want to, but perhaps an earlier mat leave might be a good idea anyway to give you a good rest?

Any more bfps this morning?! Grin

Marchgirl · 30/04/2015 06:43

I know! Trying to wait patiently for news. Goodness knows how you've managed to hold out this long flen!

Flen · 30/04/2015 06:59

BFN. Feel like total shit.

Marchgirl · 30/04/2015 07:08

Oh no. So sorry flen. That's totally shit.Sad how many dpo? Could it be too early?

Sunandrainbow · 30/04/2015 07:10

Oh flen - big hugs hun. It's such a kick in the teeth each month isn't it, on top of all the mc crap. xxx

MrsConfusion · 30/04/2015 07:13

Oh flen so sorry, hugs and Flowers. Hope you can stay tucked up with lots of TLC today x

sebsmummy1 · 30/04/2015 07:19

I fucking hate negative pregnancy tests. That blank space and you are just willing a faint line to appear. I am so sorry Flen xx

Minnie74 · 30/04/2015 07:24

So sorry flen it's just so shit. Flowers

Floweroct · 30/04/2015 07:28

Sorry flen this ttc malarkey is crap x

Flen · 30/04/2015 07:46

Thank you. Am 13 dpo, so it is pretty definite. Will stop taking the progesterone today. I have just got this horrible feeling that it is never going to happen for me. My first mc was 2007, that's 8 years of wanting a family. And 7 months since last MC. I so hoped I would at the very least have a BFP for the month of my last MC due date (and my sister having hers). I feel really powerless. I know it's just a numbers game and we have to keep going, but would really like to just hide away from all the bloody kids I'm going to have to work with today, and from the world in general. Sorry, am Ms Gloomy today. Sad

Jady77 · 30/04/2015 07:57

I'm really sorry Flen. Would it be worth waiting for AF before stopping the prog, just in case? Flowers

mrsdiddlydoo · 30/04/2015 08:02

flen hugs

sebsmummy1 · 30/04/2015 08:09

Flen I totally understand getting BFN over and over again. I am two years in come July and I never thought I would be a long term TTCer. I caught immediately with DS and of course had this fucking ridiculous notion we were uber fertile

Big hugs xx

CheesyMash · 30/04/2015 08:21

I'm so sorry Flen Flowers xxx

SashaKerr · 30/04/2015 08:58

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Brummiegirl15 · 30/04/2015 09:09

Oh Flen I'm so sorry - that is crap

Such a kick in teeth. It's so easy to get yourself all prepared with the progesterone etc but actually the final bit is taken out of your hands

Flowers xx

longestlurkerever · 30/04/2015 09:30

Flen I am so sorry. BFNs are just shit, especially month after month. Have you had any fertility investigations or just rmc ones? Could something like clomid or agnus castus help you? Prof Regan talks a lot about the link between difficulties getting pregnant and miscarriage - the same hormonal and lining issues that cause one can cause the other too.

AllThereIs · 30/04/2015 10:04

So sorry Flen.

Brummiegirl15 · 30/04/2015 10:42

Tanny how are you this morning? I hope you feel a bit brighter. You've been through a lot so it's completely understandable to feel a bit "oh my god"

Big hugs xx Flowers

Have got my follow up phone consultation with Prof B at 12.00 - if I can stay awake long enough!!!!

Stopped feeling sore but I could literally sleep for a week I'm so tired

Flen · 30/04/2015 11:03

Thank you everyone, it is really helping to have all your kind words. Not many people IRL get it, lots of "Well there's always next month" etc etc. Had a big argument with OH before work, just felt so angry (not really at him, but he caught the worst of it). All the special diet, no alcohol, pills up the bum, weird side effects and he doesn't have to go through any of it (also got my back up that he wanted to go the the pub with a friend tonight...!)

Longest each time I've got pregnant so far it has either been an accident or on the second month. Maybe this is why I'm struggling now with this taking longer. Trying to tell myself it could be a good thing, it could be my body being more selective but my god, I am so fed up of TTC.

Sasha sorry about your one friend. Sounds like the last thing you needed to deal with.

Brummie hope the phone consultation goes well.

longestlurkerever · 30/04/2015 11:10

Tanny what Barking said resonated with me. I think it's another one of those cases where rmc just keeps on giving. Personally I don't think that having been through a tough time getting and staying pregnant means that we should also be robbed of the usual support that is offered to new mums, and should still be allowed to have the occasional moan about the sleepless nights, anxiety or whatever without guilt, though there's obviously a time and a place - I won't be coming on to this thread to moan about my happy ending if I get it, I promise!!

Marchgirl · 30/04/2015 11:48

daisy, missed you out earlier. Was aspirin prescribed by st marys? The progesterone and heparin are prescribed by Coventry to help the lining/implantation rather than for clotting (although heparin would also be prescribed If you had clotting issues anyway). My understanding is that you would take all three of you had a clotting issue that merited it.

Brummiegirl15 · 30/04/2015 12:58

Had phone consult with Prof B. Glad I knew everyone else's was quick!!

He was lovely, explained that my biopsy was well within the normal range so there was no problem with my lining.

Told me to follow the treatment plan, and explained that he suggests progesterone from 7 dpo for only 3 cycles in case the lining is too selective.

After 3 cycles then only take when you get a BFP. He also said that it was 200mg whilst TTC but would go up to 400mg once I became pregnant

But he said "crack on and just persevere"

So this is it, AF is due imminently as I'm on cd 25 so TTC will start ASAP.

Shit that is scary.

Big hugs to you Flen - we'll be in it together next cycle but I know that is very little comfort at the moment x