Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 20 - tests, treatment, trying again.

[barkingtreefrog]

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

Good luck bythesea x

Thinking of you Counting x

Barking- sore boobs are also a sign of pregnancy and normally my first sign "things" are happening x

I'd not registered yet that today was Thursday, that's what comes of being away and out of routine.
Thinking of you counting. Have your parents stuck around for support?

xpost girlie I got the same sore boobs during the failed iui though, so unfortunately I do know that one is the progesterone, and especially as I'm on double the dose compared to last time!

Good luck bythesea

counting thinking of you today.

Can I post one of these for no reason other than I want to? and it's given me an idea what to do on a wet day in the holidays..... wanders off to source biscuits

counting, thinking of you today. Hope it's over soon and you have lots of support IRL. We're all here for you when it hits x

Bythesea, good luck today. We're all crowded in there with you willing you on

Maverick. Nice to hear from you. Glad you have managed to get some testing and a treatment plan, well done for being proactive. I wish i had been that way after 2, rather than just believing the bad luck line, and that it would all be ok (which i knew in my heart it wouldn't). This board is incredible and I would like to add my thanks to everyone too.

brummie and minnie. I totally agree that we should have some acknowledgement from people after the fact. It's an incredibly hard thing to go through and i don't think anyone who hasn't been there really understands. Plus this taboo about speaking out doesn't help. Aside from that, your friend just sounds rude for not thanking you for the gifts brummie. I should however warn you about the possible baby bomb coming your way like i had from friend who gave birth on my edd for mc2. she sent me a thank you card with a picture of the baby on the front. It seems to be quite a thing to do now and normally takes a few weeks to get them printed, so brace yourself in case that drops through the letterbox!

Barking I had sore boobs last time but then i was pg. Didn't have it the month before on the progesterone. I was on 400mg twice daily. Hopefully it means something for you x

Are you at Coventry today jady? or have i got that completely wrong?

brummie sorry your friends are being twats again. It sounds to me that it is more the friend in between that is shit rather than new baby friend...But she should have said thank you for her gifts! (Giving her the benefit of the doubt) It does sound like she could be scared of upsetting you, hence no contact. But your other friend doesn't seem to have any excuse and has gone out of her way to upset you. Think I would consider dumping at least one of these friends...

counting you are in my thoughts today. I hope it goes as smoothly as it can and at the very least you will physically heal as soon as possible. Take care of your self. xx

bythesea will be madly refreshing from 11am to hear your news! I have to say, I have a good feeling like barking too.

xxx

bythesea I've got a good feeling too re. your scan so huge hand holding and hugs from us over here

Well the EWCM continues and we got a cheeky bit of lovin in last night. Have no opks to piss on but to be honest even if it was positive the likelyhood of us catching the egg is supremely low lol going on experience. My eggs are slippery suckers.

Anyone got any a Easter plans? We are going to go out and do something on Sat. MIL tomorrow, my Mum Sat and then just us Sunday and Monday - bliss!

counting big hugs for today

baking I wanted to do that yesterday! Ha!

counting thinking of you today

bythesea hand holding...

barking Glad you will be away - hope it provides you with some distraction to get you through the final few days.

brummie A lot of what you say about your friend resonates with me, except with me it's my sister (eg. sending Christmas presents and no thank you!) Obviously I can't make the decision to cut her out of my life, so I am doing my damndest to try to understand what might be going on. I am trying to think that it is simply that she doesn't know what to say. She is about to give birth and I could/should have been too. She already has one littlie and I don't have any (and I am the big sister!) I think she feels guilty. I have many of the same feelings you do - that it would be easy to text, that it would be easy just to ask how we are doing and where we are in our journey etc etc. I think I come back to the fact that sometimes life experiences do drive a wedge, not just miscarriage but all kinds of things. And it is hard. Hugs.

Thinking of you today counting. I hope you have people looking after you.

Thanks for that pop - sorry to hear that's what they found though. Did they see them on an ultrasound? Fingers crossed your appointment comes through soon and you don't have to wait too long for the procedure.

I'm going to have to postpone my again because it's the day before a big pitch at work and would not go down well with me being out the office. It's scheduled to be right smack when AF is here so two weeks later might be better anyway so they can see the state of my lining at OV desperately hoping I get a BFP before then so none of this matters

Think going away for the weekend is a great idea barking - something nice to take your mind off it and if you have no sticks you cannot piss one them! I've used that tactic before.

P.s brummie you are not vile and should not feel ashamed, I think were all with you on feeling those similar thoughts.

On the subject of acknowledging grief, I agree, I felt I needed this from people and it f**king hurt when they 'ignored' it. I've come to realise that some people are just shit and to not expect anything from them in future. I think it takes a bit of balls to talk to someone who is going through a life-changing shitty event and it's easier to hide away and tell yourself 'they won't want me bothering them, blah blah' which sadly, some people choose.

bythesea good luck today

Pleased you had a good nhs experience maverick! Always helps

Well I feel a bit funny about starting the progesterone today. There's this tiny piece of me that just wishes the last year didn't exist and I don't need to use/take anything to maximise my chances of a successful pregnancy. That said, I'd do anything now to help.

I hate that everyone ignores what has happened to us, especially with dsil dc2 now overdue. It's all poor dsis and how hard it is for her, not oh you should be 35 wks now, how are you feeling? That must be tough. You would have been so close. Grr.

Happy Easter weekend ladies! Lots of chocolate all round

flower totally agree with you. The best conversations I've had are, sadly, with other women in my workplace who are going through the same thing. It is a life changing experience and I think this fact is underestimated by many others.

counting thinking of you.

barking I have all fingers crossed.

I have a quick coventry q... I'm due to ovulate this weekend so that would mean visiting Coventry on mon 13th April. Thing is, I won't be able to confirm this til next tue and I'm now worrying (probably over nothing) it will be too short notice and they won't fit me in!
Has anyone been fitted in similarly at less than a weeks notice?
(I've already emailed Kerri but got out of office)

Sorry for being a bit quiet ladies - head is firmly in the sand and march - thank you for asking after me yesterday.

I'm not holding out too much hope for this one, as clearblue digital still showing 1-2 weeks . Went to see gp yesterday and she said it was just too early to tell and things could still be progressing fine, will just need to wait..... Why is it never simple.

counting - will be thinking of you today and hoping that it gives you some closure on the physical side.

bythesea - wishing you the very very best of luck for your scan.

x

Mega baby bomb alert!!! DP is poorly boy and had to bring him to docs. There is a clearly a pregnant women clinic that is due to start. As I'm sat oh waiting room (which is tiny) and 5 - yes 5 pregnant women have all turned up within seconds of each other and sat next to me and opposite me. Clutching their green notes

Fuck me, do we never ever get to escape???

Oh sun. Sorry you're not more hopeful. This horrible thing that has happened to us all makes it so difficult to be positive about pg. I really hope you're just a slow riser. Hand holding for you until you know more. Have you got a scan booked?

I know what you mean about taking meds diddly, it's not fair that we have to do this,but hopefully it will give you peace of mind that you're doing everything you can. Hope you don't find them too much bother.

flower. I am in the same position and just got a call back from a lovely doctor there. She left a message saying i can either provisionally book today for next Friday or the following Monday, or i can phone when they open again next Tuesday and there won't be a problem getting an appt for either of those days. Looks like we'll be going the same day after all!

march yes, I have a scan booked for 24th April as am on holiday from tomorrow for two weeks. Have been really worried about going in case something happens when am away, but had long chat with my lovely gp yesterday who said it was just too early to tell and she didn't think there was any reason not to go. And actually, this morning for the first time am actually looking forward to thinking about something else for a couple of weeks. x

sun sorry your cb test isn't helping, apparently they can be a week out though. Did you previously say you're about 5 weeks now. Hope you're break takes your mind off it and you're able to relax. X

brummie seriously! That's ridiculous!! Hope you're out of there by now!

march hopefully we should be fine for apps then, phew! I'll be calling at 9.01am tue morning, ha ha! Yes it'll probably be the same day, will let you know the time of mine and hopefully will bump into each other. X

Glad you've got your break to keep your mind occupied for the next few weeks sun. Hope you have a lovely holiday and that you don't have to think about all this shit for a while.

Sun**- hand holding

Brummie** you couldn't make this stuff up!!!!

Terrible signal so will catch up & reply properly later but all looks fine

Yey bythesea!!