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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 20 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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barkingtreefrog · 21/03/2015 15:30

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

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Justonemoretime · 25/03/2015 06:19

Brummie, hugs for today. xxxx

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barkingtreefrog · 25/03/2015 06:40

brummie thinking of you today.
just you're in the right place, hope the bleeding stops soon so you can get home again though.

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Brummiegirl15 · 25/03/2015 06:47

Thanks all. Sadly nothing nice - travelling to a conference but leaving office at lunchtime so I don't have to face pregnant colleague all day.

Feel quite empty.

Baby T number 2 - we miss you and you should've been here today xx

girliesaints · 25/03/2015 07:01

Brummie- thinking of you, lovely lady x

Frecklefire · 25/03/2015 07:08

Thinking of you brummie Flowers

Minnie74 · 25/03/2015 07:10

Thinking of you today brummie x

bakingtins · 25/03/2015 07:14

Flowers brummie

just it's v boring in hospital but I'm glad they are keeping an eye on you both. Hope it all settles so you can get home.

cat keep posting. I think it's v helpful to hear the success stories when everything seems bleak.

bakingtins · 25/03/2015 07:20

tiny not long to go! Hope your DD is in the mood to watch CBeebies today and you can rest.

cloud maybe we should all gang up and go invade some of the smug pregnancy threads, or post links to this one. We can be the reverse-baby-bombers! except we'd all get banned

Flen · 25/03/2015 07:26

Thinking of you today brummie

just sorry to hear you are in hospital, but glad baby Just is ok. It's early waking on the wards isn't it?!

Had a big griefy meltdown last night and feeling knackered this morning. Hard day yesterday doing an assessment for a fostered child who has been through the most awful, awful stuff. And my dd and sister's dd is getting closer. Think a break is very needed for me! Two days to go...

AndCounting · 25/03/2015 07:47

Thank you all again. Xx not sure about the thyroid affecting rate of growth, march. Possibly but I'm on the good drugs now and will grow a giant baby!

just pleased they are taking good care of you. Take it easy my dear.

brummie can you block or hide the pregnancy threads? Sounds like a dire place at the best of times and especially while you are in so much pain. I'm sorry your parents are unsupportive about your due date. People who dismiss what you telling them are effectively denying (or downplaying) your pain. It's normal for parents or even partners to do this as they feel so helpless. My Mum (usually pretty good) tried the whole 'well I suppose lots of women wouldn't have even known they were pregnant' when I miscarried at 6 weeks. She was trying to be helpful. Could you gently tell your parents that you are coping with this as best you can and the most helpful thing they could do for you is to acknowledge and accept your pain because telling you to ignore the due date feels like a dismissal. All the best today. I am thinking of you.

Boozle80 · 25/03/2015 07:52

Brummie sending you a hug for today. I'll be thinking of you

longestlurkerever · 25/03/2015 07:52

Hugs today brummie and hope bleeding stops soon just and you get home for the holidays soon. flen hugs too. That is a really tough combination. Love and strength.

longestlurkerever · 25/03/2015 07:54

Ps good to hear from you cat. I have been thinking of you. Well done and good luck re your fair fertility fight!

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barkingtreefrog · 25/03/2015 08:07

Let us know how the fair fertility thing goes cat Smile

I've had to call in sick. After getting in the shower this morning the pain was so bad I thought I was going to throw up and ended up curled in a ball on the bathroom floor Blush.
I called the clinic and they said it was normal for the pain to get worse as the ovaries swell up and can get twisted Confused.
I'm now on the sofa with paracetamol, a wheat bag and a dog...

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cloudjumper · 25/03/2015 09:49

baking Grin

just Hope you're OK, lovely, how scary! But you are being monitored closely, and in the right place, so hopefully, it will all be OK!

brummie Flowers

barking You did the right thing, staying home! Hope you feel better soon! One day at a time - in fact, that goes for a lot of us right now! I'm counting the days to the weekend, let alone to Easter.

Jady77 · 25/03/2015 10:14

FlowersCake Brummie

Barking that sounds bloody painful! Hope it doesn't get any worse.

Let us know how the scan goes later Just

longestlurkerever · 25/03/2015 10:26

barking how horrible. Hope you feel better now. Any news on the embies?

Sunandrainbow · 25/03/2015 10:36

brummie - thinking of you today.Flowers

barking - ouch that sounds painful. Glad you have decided to stay home.

just - hopin the bleeding settles down today and you are able to go home soon.

girliesaints · 25/03/2015 11:05

Barking, hope you're feeling better soon. You've done amazing not to have anytime off so far x

Just, hope everything settled down soon & you can go home soon

Waves at everyone else x

Loopyaboutmy2boys · 25/03/2015 12:00

Brummie I hope today goes as well as can be, you are not the only one to remember the dates, I do too.

Just I hope the bleeding ends and you can go home soon to your own bed.

Counting, good to hear the scan went ok, fingers crossed there is a strong heartbeat by the next one.

Barking hope the pain eases.

Lovely Facebook status yesterday, someone announcing they are expecting number 3, "after we have got over the shock of it .....#3under5 arrrrggghhhh". So not only is she due only a couple of weeks after my mc3 but it clearly wasn't planned and I just want to post something but am trying to resist the urge. I should have had a baby in May 2014. I should have had a baby 10/10/14. I should have a baby 9/9/15. I should have a baby 2/11/15 (all based on a CS at 39 weeks). I want a baby. I have 2 sons who I love but my family is not complete, something or someone is missing and I want another baby. I am not ready to give up and visualise a life with no more babies. I would dearly love a daughter, but I would love a son as much. I just want a baby and I wish I could accept my lot and move on but I can't, and if I don't keep trying I will forever be wondering what if.

Back from the pre op stuff at the hospital. Annoyingly had signs of cervical mucus this morning so am desperately hoping I don't ovulate before Monday. If I miss this cycle then I am unlikely to ovulate again until early-mid May. Brummie, just a word of warning, they seem to be cracking down on the parking mess at Worcester. The barriers were all working today, and they had a traffic warden issuing tickets to anyone who didn't park in a proper space, loads of cars have got penalty tickets stuck on their windscreens. I'm hoping the parking at Kiddiminster isn't as bad!!

Flower29 · 25/03/2015 12:17

just glad you and baby are ok. Take it easy. Hope your scan goes ok.

brummie Flowers

barking hope the pain eases for you but continue getting any rest you can. Glad your dog is looking after you. Smile

I have a quick coventry question... Am I right in thinking they prescribe progesterone and heparin regardless of nk cells results and then the steroids as well if you have high nk cells?
Also, do they just recommend the meds and its up to me to get my gp to prescribe them? (Hence the letter from them which has previously been mentioned...)
Thanks in advance x

Justonemoretime · 25/03/2015 12:34

Thanks everyone for all your good wishes! Update: been scanned, baby fine, placenta actually moved to a safe distance (great!), bleed was probably a varicose vein (nice), but still got to stay in for one more night to monitor me. They reckon 'plan a' is back on, so no more talk of c-sections for the moment (although I wasn't actually that sad about that part Tbh...). :)

Re Coventry, you might get the progesterone on the day from the hospital pharmacy, but you'll need to arrange the heparin via your GP or EPU. Show them the letter before your pg again if you can so you've got it arranged and you don't need to stress about that on top of everything else at the time.

Justonemoretime · 25/03/2015 12:35

I do now have a short cervix, however, but they don't seem too worried about it at the moment as its still nice and closed.

Marchgirl · 25/03/2015 12:49

That's great news just! So pleased for you that is looking like a less medical birth.

Ouch barking, that sounds painful. Hope it eases off soon

How are you doing today sun?

Brummiegirl15 · 25/03/2015 12:55

Thanks for all the lovely wishes. Am waiting for my train for my conference so survived the morning in the office. Did need to take a couple of really deep breaths in car on way in as thought i was going to fall apart. Felt like I should be enjoying my baby, not at work grieving for 3 of them!

Just I have had problems with my cervix in past and really worried about it being short - although never actually got to that point yet.

Loopy thanks for warning about parking, knew they wouldn't carry on that for long. My pre-op is at Kidderminster though - maybe because I've got Alex Blackwell and not Mr W for the op. Was pre-op ok? Im a bit concerned for getting to Kidderminster before 7am on op day!!

Glad letter from Cov was mentioned as I'm there on Friday and was wondering

Hope everyone is surviving - here's to Wine and Cake
I've got my little candle to light tonight in my crappy conference hotel. Will try not to burn down said hotel