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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 18 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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bakingtins · 20/02/2015 18:57

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

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Marchgirl · 26/02/2015 19:21

Hugs barking. How awkward. Let's hope you don't get roomed with her. 66% chance you won't (seeing as we're into stats at the moment! ) so hopefully it'll be one of the others.

ronconcoke · 26/02/2015 19:50

No my hcg levels were 1900 yesterday, having been 1500 last Saturday! The doc couldn't see anything in the uterus and he checked my ovaries quite thoroughly too. I think they just want to find out what's going on. No sac has been seen or passed. It's very weird and unsettling. I haven't needed time off work until now but then again, I only told my boss today.

Thanks for your support and kind words, means a lot.

Monten · 26/02/2015 19:51

barking that sounds really shit. Could you turn it on its head and say 'actually, I'd really like to share with A?' Then you could avoid without explicitly saying you don't want to room with B.

Monten · 26/02/2015 19:57

maverick I was referred after 2 also, due to my age apparently (36 at the time). It took months for the appt to come thru so we kept ttc in the meantime. There is still a chance it is just 'bad luck', it appears that's what it is with me. If you did get pregnant in the meantime you could always call the EPU and ask to be seen straightaway, I know others have.
Some people on here have gone to Coventry implantation clinic after getting no answers from nhs tests. You can't be pregnant to go there. But I would suggest getting the nhs tests done first.

Are you newly engaged sebs? I am too! Been looking at rings also, I thought I didn't care about diamonds - it now appears I do Grin

sebsmummy1 · 26/02/2015 20:02

Awww congrats Monten GrinGrin. It was my 40th on Valentines and we thought we were finally getting our baby too so it was all very wonderful getting engaged into the bargain. But of course the baby part has turned to shit so it's tainted everything else into the bargain. I'm not bothered about getting an engagement ring now but I really did want to wear the eternity ring and now I can so that is lovely.

Are you making wedding plans at the moment?

Lovemylittlebear · 26/02/2015 20:10

Ronconcoke - it could be ectopic still don't let them palm you off if you start to feel ill or anything like that. My first nine months ago was ectopic - London saw it in my tube and when I got transferred to cardiff they couldn't see it and said it was pregnancy of unknown location which was a complete mind fuck! Even though I knew it was ectopic their machine wouldn't pick it up and they wouldn't acknowledge the other hospitals results. Mine went up similarly too. I had absolutely no pain with the ectopic at all and it miscarried by itself. It felt like a very sad period. I have heard other women day that they have had bad pain and shoulder tip pain and they had internal bleeding but thank fully I haven't experienced that. If you feel poorly at all get yourself to A and E. Xxxxxxx

Monten · 26/02/2015 20:11

Dp proposed on Valentine's day too! What softies. I'm sorry it's tainted for you. I understand how it would be, looking back on something happy and realising you didn't know what was to come is horrible.

It's impacted our plans too. We we're going to wait until baby to get married but given that's taking a while we decided just to go for it. But I don't want to plan a big white wedding if there's a chance I will be pregnant. So we're having a really small thing, registry office and then pub. I've realised that I quite like having the pregancy thing as an excuse to just do it all our own way with minimum fuss! What about you?

Monten · 26/02/2015 20:14

Sorry that should be 'the baby arrived'. I hate it when people don't use 'the' - I sound like a midwife!

TinyTear · 26/02/2015 20:19

Wow you've been chatty... So I was at the hospital 5 hours with scan and midwives and endocrinologist and obstetrician and booking more scans and getting bloods done...

Eviction booked!! 31st March when I'll be 38+3

Eeeeeek!!!!

TinyTear · 26/02/2015 20:20

And congrats on the engagements
Yay!

Marchgirl · 26/02/2015 20:20

I hate that too monten! Mw for dd said it all the time and i just kept thinking "that's not its name"

Catlover2014 · 26/02/2015 20:32

tiny 31st March will soon be here, how exciting! Are you having an induction that day or a c-section? X

sebsmummy1 · 26/02/2015 20:32

Monten your wedding plans sound perfect. Any ring photos? Wink. I know I sound so miserable but I don't care about getting married at all now so I think we will leave it. The proposal was lovely though so I will always have that xx

sebsmummy1 · 26/02/2015 20:33

TinyTear I'm so pleased for you. I was having my first miscarriage at a time when I remember you were having yours and I'm so pleased you are going to get your baby at last. Who knew this was all so bloody difficult!!!

Flen · 26/02/2015 20:36

tiny that is so exciting! Yay! Grin

Marchgirl · 26/02/2015 20:37

Exciting tiny! Not to long till you get to meet your littly

TinyTear · 26/02/2015 20:40

It's section... With my dd I had an emergency one after failure to progress so straight to sun roof this time...

Sebs, I remember your name, was it the October 13 or February 14 one? After these I went to Coventry and fell pregnant on the second cycle...

Frecklefire · 26/02/2015 20:49

Oh fen....Ha ha ha ha ha!!! What a fecking ugly name and dumb 'stoopid' sentiment!!! I mean - "you know you've got love when ANGELS KEEP ON MULTIPLYING" !!!! Did she write that pile of sh### herself?! Sorry... just be glad you havn't got SUCH BAD TASTE and i bet are not capable of such smug (not even ironic) sentiment. Morons!!!!!

Catlover2014 · 26/02/2015 20:51

I'm in a v hormonal mood tonight ladies and know I shouldn't be as I have finally got to a safer place with this pregnancy. I am truly grateful to be where I am but tearful too and even though I always suffer with moderate acne a new pimple outbreak has me looking and feeling rather ugly. I'm feeling sad and reflective, thinking of the babies and years lost on this journey. I guess the grief can always come back and hurt us. Need to get my counselling log book out to remember coping techniques. Sorry to moan!

girliesaints · 26/02/2015 20:54

Engagements, BFPs and good scans, all in one day.excellent news

Flen & Ron- no such good days, lots of hugs coming each of your way!

Managed to get my 1 stone award at Sw tonight. Only taken 4 months and the weight I gained in the last MC. Another 9 pounds still to get to my target. Celebrating with ????(oops)

Monten · 26/02/2015 20:55

By the way - I wasn't making any judgements on people having a big white wedding whilst pregnant. Just i wouldn't want to do it bcos I wouldn't want to not be able to drink Blush

Fab news tiny that's no time at all!

I know what you mean sebs - I couldn't have contemplated getting married last year. I feel stronger snd happier now so it felt like the right thing to do. It will get easier Flowers

ronconcoke · 26/02/2015 21:02

Littlebear that's interesting about your ectopic - perhaps that's what's happening to me. So you didn't have to have any surgical intervention at all? The doc keeps saying, if I am in a lot of pain or the bleeding gets heavy to go to A&E or call an ambulance straight away. Just weird that they can't pick anything up on scan, and it was "transvaginal" which apparently is pretty foolproof. DH is a doctor too - although not specialised in gynae - and he thinks they may need to do an erpc. Unfortunately he's doing nights at the moment so it's just me and DS (4yo) at home and of course now I'm paranoid that am going to wake up in the middle of the night in huge amounts of pain!

Hopefully I will find out more tomorrow at scan....

sebsmummy1 · 26/02/2015 21:16

February 2014 Tiny. Had my first MC at 6 weeks. Then long weird chemical in May and then caught again in Dec 2015 and MMC at 11 weeks. Crappy crappy year.

TinyTear · 26/02/2015 21:23

Sounds like my 2010, Sebs... May, July and November...

Frecklefire · 26/02/2015 21:31

It it sooooo encouraging to read of healthy pregnancies and soon to arrive babies on here, thankyou so much for sharing your encouraging stories ladies!
I've had a slightly better day (despite crap work and headache THAT I'VE HAD FOR FOUR DAYS!) But i went to see my lovely gp today - a few days ago i posted a letter to my gyno contultant at hospital, and sent a copy to my gp too. She made me feel better than i have in the 12 days since mu 3rd m.c began. She told me the results of some of my bloods that have come back, including tyroid and diabetes, both of which i was concerned about. She said that i probably wouldn't have my hormones checked because i have no problem actually getting pregnant. She encouraged me to keep ttc (i am 40 and hubby is 49) and reiterated that even with 3 m.c behind me i would have more chance of having a baby (oh God, how i need that to be true!!!) She said at least three or four times that as soon as i get pregnant to call her and the gyno and they will put me on progesterone. I have been feeling cursed, marked, i was convinced i shouldnt get pg before all trsts are back and even contact coventry to, but she has got me thinking - maybe the stats are in our favour and we should try again next month??? What do you lot think??!