Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 18 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

Thank you, you've all got me blubbing! Well for some odd reason I decided not to book the day off?! So we will go somewhere nice for dinner this eve I think - thank you all xxx

Pregnant colleague has just made a thing about not being able to get under her desk with bump and having someone sort her chair out.

Kick in the teeth anyone?

And breathe

Great news ourday, hope you can relax a little now for a few days

Wonderful news Ourday

I had to walk away from my desk. Found myself getting overwhelmed.

Her being pregnant is in my face every single day and I'm just not going to get away from it am I?

ourday massive back slapping with the huge blue hand, great news.

brummie hugs x

Brummie hugs. It is hard watching a pregnancy develop that should have been in step with yours. The second of my friends who shared a due date with me gave birth yesterday. Can't deny it stings a little bit even now to be beaten to it when I started ttc a full year before either of them. You will get there and it'll be even sweeter for knowing the pain.

ourday Brilliant news!

ourday that's fantastic! hope you have a lovely meal tonight!

brummie really feel for you, it must be so so hard!

longest same to you too, be kind to yourself and stay away for a bit of you need to.

X

If not of

Just got this through the post. My god, is nowhere safe?! God, the rage....

Hmm flen. I'd cross out the "love" and put "luck, pure and simple". x

Insufferably smug and insensitive. and Esmerelda FFS
Rip it into pieces, stamp on them and then burn it.

I'm sitting in my kitchen having a cry. It's been a while since I cried so maybe that's ok. It's from a school "friend". She knows about the first mc, but don't think she knows about 2 and 3. I can hide baby bombs on FB, but not in my post. It is just so FULL of assumption and ignorance and just aghbleugh

Esmeralda snigger

One word. Burn

Flen now that's a proper kick in the teeth

Fab scan news ourday and sea! Sorry they don't provide much reassurance at the moment sea - understandable though. One day at a time. Today you are pregnant.

Monten - thanks for thinking of me. Pretty low at the mo but taking each day one at a time and remembering it won't feel this bad forever. And eating. Haven't gone back to work yet - dreading it.

Hugs all round.

Flen - can't see what you've received but it sounds horrendous. Sorry it's upset you. X

Oh my god - looked at it on the computer. I'd be fucking fuming. I'm fuming anyway and these people are nothing to do with me. What an unbelievably ignorant statement.

twilight I just feel so judged! Got to get it together so I can go back into work in 10 mins...

Urgh. flen, How horribly sickly and smug. Even sending it to friend that hadn't miscarried would be offensive, but the fact that she knows even some of your history and still sent it is utterly repulsive. Who even sends born announcements these days, apart from to elderly relatives? !?

*birth not born

Flen that is horrible... Why would anyone send something like that??? Why???

Brummie that is tough... Your colleague will have a tough time if she ever has to deal with pregnancy and a toddler if she can't even sort out her chair...

I just had a growth scan. Baby OK still with a huge tummy. Bloody diabetes... Waiting for endocrinologist and obstetrician now and will hope to book the eviction date...

Oh lovey - it's just ignorance and insensitivity. If you sat her down and told her how people in our position would interpret that statement I'm sure she'd be mortified and say she didn't mean anything by it - not suggesting you do but hypothetically. It's very easy to feel judged though isn't it - I get annoyed when everyone says 'well done' and 'good work' to a woman after she's had a baby - in my head it's like they're implying I haven't put enough effort in to keeping my baby.

Fuck me that's vile. Smug self congratulatory bollocks. I second burning. Puts all my shit in perspective.

Ourday that's great news. Nice low NT score. Phew!

Flen Urgh, that has to be up there with the most annoying, smug and tasteless birth announcement. 'Multiplying angels', ffs! What's wrong with just 'We are happy to announce...' ?!

ourday and bythesea Great scan news! Long may they continue xx

brummie I feel your pain. The colleague next to me is due in April, and although I find myself being OK with it most of the time, it still catches me out once in a while .

I now have my MRI scan booked for the 6th, thanks to Bupa. However, I can't be pg for it, so I will have to test on the 3rd and phone them with the result, so that they know whether it will go ahead or not. I feel torn between wanting to be pg (obviously) and thinking it would be good to get the scan out of the way before continuing with ttc... There is a real chance that I am, thanks to SMEP, but we'll see. 8/9 DPO today, I might break my rule and test early at the weekend. I'm having a bit of cramping today, but don't really want to read anything into it. Sigh.

Oh my god!!!! Am fuming - there are so many things wrong with sending such a smug, insensative pile of shite that I don't know where to start. Burn it at once. Grrrrrr!!!!!!