Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 18 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

Oh Monten big big hugs.

Yes, this mc stuff really is a kick in the teeth isn't it?

It's the chronic highs I struggle with (when I'm feeling positive and have a "I can do this" attitude) followed by crashing crashing lows when I remember what I don't have

Glad it's gone ok sebs and it's great you're feeling brighter.

Good luck tanny, we're all waiting and keeping fingers crossed baby doesn't make you wait to long.

monten hugs to you for your tough day. Sometimes it feels as though everything is against us. Tomorrow will be a better day. XxX

So glad you feel better sebs and are back in the saddle with dp!

Big hugs monten and brummie.

purple how awful, and after you had been the only sensitive one there too.

Crikey! This thing moves fast!
twighlight totally agree we shouldn't be lumped together but then I feel I'd be even more of an anomaly if I was left on my own!
Talking of which, longestlurker - love the stats. Maybe, one day, they'll work in our favour.
sebs am glad you are ok, albeit in ways you weren't expecting!
cloud am so sorry about your late loss and am in awe that you are ready to try again. Of course you would feel petrified but I think it takes enormous courage to decide either way, to try or to stop, after what we've all been through. Will be keeping fingers crossed. And I do hope your mum will be ok.
march - am very interested in the immune stuff and am eager to get this investigated (along with everything else!)

Have begun arranging meetings with friends etc that I haven't seen since I was pregnant/lost dd. I am hating having to go through all of these miserable 'firsts', answering the awfully inevitable and unanswerable 'how are you?' question. But it's got to be done .

Going to bed - suvh a lot of intelligent and thought provoking discussion lafies - my brain is boxed! It is a life line - thankyou. Been back to work ladt 2 days (was off last week) and its been hard. Feeling emotional and undetconfident is not easy as an 11-18 teacher. I'm so full of rage, but only because i actually can't stand to tpuch the stuff underneath it. Ive devoured each comment in breaks and lunch to get me through and finally the bleeding has stopped.

Sebs - thinking of you. Xxx

Sorry awful typos - tired! X

Well I don't know how much you want to know about what's happening. Will try and be brief rather than detailed. I've had a couple of nice strong contractions but several hours apart. I'm definitely in early labour! I'm excited but suddenly a bit scared

Ooooo, Tanny!!!!!!

monten hugs, that sounds awful. My colleague (and friend) was in the office yesterday (she works remotely) to do her maternity handover . I couldn't even say hello . I texted her later to apologise but she understood. She's on her third now, but she struggled to get pg with her first, and had a mc at 12 weeks, so she knows it's hard for me to see her.

purple I'm so at the insensitivity of your work, that's shocking .

Very exciting Tanny, hope you managed to get some sleep x

Eek Tanny!! Pom poms at the ready here! So exciting. Hope early labour doesn't go on too long

Go Tanny!!!

tanny that is so exciting! Hope it all goes smoothly and can't wait to hear!

sebs glad the weight has lifted - think that time post finding out and pre ERPC is terribly hard. Continue to take care of yourself.

purple how horribly tough for both of you. Bloody idiots.

monten hugs to you, I find seeing any littlies hard, let alone when timing synchronises too.

sun Sorry to hear AF arrived, it can feel so gruelling can't it?

Brilliant tanny! Keep us updated as long as it's practical to do so! And good luck!

freckle glad the bleeding has stopped. You sound very brave putting on a brave face in front of teenagers. just is a teacher too. You have my admiration. My job allows me to hide away at my desk. Don't know how I would have managed otherwise.

Good luck with those firsts pop.

Tanny, eagerly awaiting updates! Good luck!
Purple, that's unbelievable! So frustrating that they ignored your request. Horrible and upsetting for you both.
Sebs, glad you got your mojo back! Seriously, good to hear you sounding so much more positive. Look after yourself.
Viv, thanks for sharing your story. Hopefully one day the knowledge behind the causes on MCs will be more complete. Hope you're being looked after for your other health issues.
Twilight, rant away, I think your absolutely right. That 'bad luck' line is nonsense. What they really mean is 'bad luck, we don't know'. Hopefully new research means we can add the word 'yet' onto that sentence. I am well aware that my age (38, 39 in March) means increased risks, egg quality wise, and I accept that baseline risk increase. But I don't think it caused or contributed to my RMC (except maybe partially #3).
Waves to everyone.

Freckle, what subject do you teach? Hope the kinds go easy on you.

Hope you've cheered up a bit since yesterday monten. You really can't make the stuff up. We went for a lovely walk in the middle of bloody nowhere at the weekend and managed to bump into a mum who's dd is a couple of months younger than Ds and was sporting the biggest healthiest looking bump ever.

purple that's awful at work esp when you told them it was a bad bad idea.

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Oooh tanny so exciting! He he! Can't wait for the big announcement!

Sorry af showed sun, hope you're being kind to yourself with lots of chocolate and cake!

Glad to hear you're feeling yourself again sebs.

Thanks for sharing your story viv

Your colleagues sound like morons purple, thank god you're there in a weird way (even though you're with bump which she may find upsetting) but sounds like you're probably the one that will help her. Just rereading that, hope it makes sense!

Hello to everyone else, struggling to keep up!

I'm also going to visit Coventry! Can I ask, does the procedure hurt much?

Partner going to Coventry today on business! I said that's funny as we might have to go there ourselves in a few months for tests. He didn't really understand but at least it's only an hour and a half away so very doable.

They talked about waiting six weeks post miscarriage before seeing me again re. Recurrent MC clinic. Last time I tested until the hormone left but bloody hell that was depressing so won't be doing that again.

I dream of being that person who gives up TTC totally and has the miraculous BFP down the line that works but didn't matter really kind of thing. The not giving a shit and being at peace is such a blissful idea but feels totally unobtainable.

Loads of luck tanny xx

Flower its a bit ouchy, but nothing s paracetamol won't solve. Good luck. x

Oh Tanny im so excited for you! I will be refreshing like mad awaiting little tanny :)

Hugs to the ladies who had rotten days yesterday

Sebs glad youre feeling like you again. I am also abstaining at the moment, i know they say its safe but is it safe for everyone?

I have huge scanxiety for tomorrow, i dont know what i'll do if something has gone wrong.

my tummy feels a little sensitive to add to the panic. Also, please dont shout at me, i heard the heartbeat on Monday night but it was nowhere to be found last night. If everything is ok tomorrow i will never use that bloody thing again for this very reason. In fact i'll happpily bin it.

Go Tanny!

Hey ourday - big hugs and hand holding for tomorrow. Fingers crossed everything will be perfect. Sorry, I can't remember, is it your 12 week scan? Don't panic over the heartbeat - I have no experience of dopplers myself but someone will be along very shortly to remind you that you can't reliably use them until 14? / 16? weeks. X

Very exciting tanny! Good luck with it all. Hope it is quick, painless and a beautiful wonderfully calm birth x

Glad all is well sebs and that you're feeling more yourself. Hormones have a lot to answer for!

How awful for both your colleague and you purple, i hope the fuckwits get it sorted soon.

Are you booked in for Coventry then flower? What date are you going? Let us know how you get on

Thanks for the info viv, definitely food for thought.

Waves to everyone else