Probable missed miscarriage-how to get through waiting time?

[evelynj]

Hi all

I had my booking in app on fri-pg was not planned so I was t too sure of my dates but thought I was 9-11 weeks. Baby was measuring 7 weeks & mw couldn't find a heartbeat so have to go back on Thurs for another scan to see if there's growth or it's a missed miscarriage. It floored me as I've been feeling so rubbish & tired I assumed the pg was going well. I think the possibility that I'm only 7 weeks is really slim but can't work it out for sure.

I've read the tips for mc thread so am prepared but trying to stay positive for now although worried that blood is going to start gushing out any minute.

I have 2 dc already & have been fine when they are keeping me busy but struggling in evenings. Anyone been here & any tips for getting through the waiting period? I woke in the middle of the night last night & couldn't get back to sleep, didn't feel like reading & the time just seemed to be passing so slowly.

Thanks-I went back to work today but it's only a pt admin job & they are flexible so I can leave anytime I need to.

I started painful cramps on Wed which are making me quite sad as it's the same pain in the womb as I've had after childbirth. It helps just to write that down & get it out of my head.

I'm also finding that tiredness is making me extra emotional. Was Ds birthday today so I was wrecked by teatime & a blubbering mess. Little by little I hope I'm progressing.

Hi Evelyn,
Today is the first day I've had any energy at all in the morning but was ready for bed by 7.30 tonight. I have found this ERPC more painful and had a rough night last night with bleeding and small clots but things seem calmer today and much less painful.
I've not really processed the emotional side yet. Have talked subjectively with a friend about it as if I am quite distanced from it although I don't actually think its hit me yet. My midwife called today to see how I was but I am generally up and down. My DS is 2 and is playing up quite a bit as things are different at home at the moment and mummy has been poorly. I do feel for you, and hope the cramps have passed? X

Oh Erica, it's so hard & a 2 yo is hard work at the best of times-I've gotten quite used to just crying along with the dc when they cry. Doesn't seem to bother them. I am feeling that the 'box it away & get better now' vibes are coming although it probably is just in my head. I've tried to voice the particular things that I'm struggling with to a friend in the hope of it helping me deal with it better emotionally but I'm also at times emotionally distant from it. I don't like the fact that we weren't actually trying to get pregnant. For some reason in my head that makes it more pointless & unfair. Also that the miscarriage didn't happen naturally & I have an illogical foreboding feeling that something worse is going to happen just round the corner, (probably because my cat of 15 years died in summer, then a friend died suddenly a week later). I 'know' there's no sense in these thoughts but they're still in my head bugging me.

When I was pg I would sleep at the drop of a hat & since the op Ive not slept well at all even though I'm exhausted. Off to bed now & hoping tomorrow's a little brighter for us both x