Recurrent Miscarriage Support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 12

[bakingtins]

Welcome everyone! A thread for anyone who has suffered recurrent losses and is in need of support, information, moral support or tea and sympathy. Newbies very welcome.

Please can we start (as is traditional) with a recap of where we are on 'the journey'.

I did have ib last week last Friday but had been fine all week since then.

First scan is next Thursday morning.

I've found I get more ib with each pregnancy Just so it could be that. Or the progesterone - I've heard it can cause a bit of spotting. Keeping everything crossed for you - it's the worst feeling in the world.

Keeping everything crossed for you just

Yep, progesterone worked well for me on the back passage... Sorry! No leakage either...

Deep breaths just, we all have experience of spotting being not great news, but it is important to remember that spotting is realllllly common in pregnancies that result in a healty baby. A friend I turned to after my first mc had had an mc, got pregnant again, bled again and presumed it was all over. Not so, she bled throughout both her successful pregnancies.
Add to that the progesterone, the potential for implantation bleeding you are a ways off worst case scenario just yet. I know you must be sick with worry. Have everything crossed for you.

Thanks ladies, I have just done another digi test and numbers are up from 1-2 to 2-3. One week since the last one, so it fits. I'm going to try to relax and try the alternative delivery method for the cyclogest. Its not getting worse but back ache is annoying. Will try to relax... thanks for your support and hand holding, you're a god-send!

I also had ib at this stage just and awful back pain and had myself convinced it was bad news but seen hb at last scan.

Hello to everyone else I've been lurking a bit but having a hard time still and got scan doom for Wednesday. I haven't booked with midwife yet as I am too scared

Hey everyone. Had a horrific day yesterday of cramping and spasms and massive clots - made me wonder what the D&C actually removed... But all calmer today, and I went out for the first time in a few weeks. Freaked out a bit first, but then felt calmer and had the treat of eggs benedict.

Just, Belle, Purple and Boozle hang on in there.

Can't believe how brave you all are.

Just, crossing everything for you lovely. I'm still experiencing backache and period pains, it's a complete headfuck. Hand holding and virtual hugs here. Oh, and I used the progesterone up the wrong 'un the whole time.

Aw flen, sorry to hear you've had such a horrible time with the procedure. I had no idea you'd still get clots passed. Be good to yourself.

just, sending positive vibes. A friend of mine has bled through the first 12 weeks of both her pregnancies, With positive outcomes, so fingers crossed it's just a normal bit of spotting. Good luck for the scan
also good luck for wed purple. I found those first few weeks absolute torture last time, so big hugs.

the test sounds last good sign Just. Keeping everything crossed. Sorry you're going through such a rubbish time Glen. Hope you are over the worst. X

Flen, even sorry! X

Hey flen that sounds pretty grim. I think the surgeon tries to be as gentle as possible so not to damage the womb, but maybe erred too much on the side of caution. Hopefully that should be it now. Good job on getting out and about.
purple I will hopefully be joining you in scan doom in a few weeks. How far on are you?
How goes it just? Spotting settled any?
Quick question. Just done my weekly pregnancy test. Definitely darker and quicker every week. How reliable would this be for detecting a loss? I am guessing not at all.

So Prof Brosens just returned my email on a Sunday!!! What excellent service!! He says increase progesterone (and I will take advice from ladies who know!) to 400mg twice daily. Spotting seems to have stopped for now and only was there when I wiped, not on the pad, so hopefully it was just a bit of cervical irritation. Tiap... thanks for the advice and hand holding! xx

Glad that the spotting has settled just and very impressive that prof brosens responded so soon. Sounds like a v caring doctor.

Feeling crap today after another pregnancy announcement from my friends (second this week). How is it that i can be so genuinely happy/excited/hopeful at bfp announcements on here but so sad and dare I say it jealous when a friend announces? Feel like such a terrible friend but I've just emailed back "congratulations. Brilliant news!" in the shortest possible way then burst into tears both times. I hate this version of myself

March I have been feeling exactly the same thing! So weird how on a forum like this I am rooting for the pregnancies 100%, but when I get a message from a friend (as I did last Monday, the day the scan confirmed the loss - they sent their f*ing 12 week scan pic) I am a terrible mixture of bitter and furious.

When I have thought about it, I think it comes down to envying simple journeys. I can't imagine what it must be like to want to get pregnant, get pregnant, be pregnant and have a baby. Straight through. No hiccups. And I think I find it hard that people who have that don't always know how miraculous it is.

Does that make sense?!

Thanks for the well wishes everyone, my body has calmed down today. I have had a D&C before and don't remember cramps/clots like this, so think you're right belle - they must have been super cautious this time.

March and Flen, I feel the same way, and I'm nearly 22 weeks! Scan pictures in my news feed bring me out in floods of tears. Hate hate hate the assumption that pregnant=baby. Might explain why I'm here so much !

Just I was on 400mg. Still have loads if you want them xxx

Sorry, been out and about all day, only catching up now.

Just - I echo what baking has said - the progesterone pessaries can irritate your cervix/vaginal walls (or whatever they're called). I had this, and the bleeding stopped when I switched to the 'back passage' for the pessaries. It's not pleasant, but bearable. Hope you are feeling a bit reassured by the digi test! Backache can also be a positive pregnancy symptom!

Yep. A few people from my Jan 12 birth group did the whole sibling with scan photo announcement thibgy...
I emailed my closest friends and that was it...

Some people just don't think. Blokes at work announce at 6 weeks... It's crazy...

thanks, Tiny, hopefully that's all it is... changing my strategy from today!
Tanny, thanks. I have a few 400s and I see my GP on Wednesday, but if she won't write up more I may take you up on that offer.
Hope all else ok. Scan pics on social media are the worlds salt in our wounds. Its ok to feel bad/jealous/sad. Don't be too hard on yourselves. xx

And thanks cloud. x

Sorry you're going through such a stressful time Just. Very much rooting for you.

I poas yesterday at 7dpo (oh dear). Funnily enough it was bfn. There's £9 I'll never see again. I have to say that I'm not 'feeling it' this cycle and usually I do by now.

March - I'm with you. Really don't like this bitter version of myself at all.

Just. I also have nearly 2 packs of 400

twighlight back away from the pee sticks, or at least get some cheaper ones. By the time baby appears you won't be able to afford to feed it.
Four baby girls born in four weeks in my circle. I don't look at face book anymore.

I wonder if I do manage to reproduce will I do the same and splatter Facebook with baby related stuff, or will I remember what it feels like to be on the receiving end of a baby onslaught that is almost impossible to avoid.