Recurrent Miscarriage Support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 11

[bakingtins]

Welcome everyone - pull up a chair! A thread for anyone who has suffered multiple miscarriages and is in need of information, moral support, tea or sympathy. Newbies very welcome.

Can we start the thread with a recap of where we are all up to again, please?

Ps sorry Charlie. Should have said well done and big hugs. Glad it went ok.

i went to the dirty three one too lurker. Bumped into low and nick cave :-)

bootles I remember months but not days anymore...

And while waiting for the scan I am just sticking the cyclogest in and hoping it will make a difference.

bootles Hope that you will get some answers from the testing.
I forgot the EDD of my first mc just last week - I thought I had to feel guilty about it, but I realised that I didn't. There are too many dates... And although I will never ever forget the babies I lost, I am starting to struggle with the exact EDDs now. I can remember the months. It's part of life - dates are not important, in the grand scheme of things.

charlie Glad to hear that it went smoothly, it's the first step in the healing process. Take it easy and look after yourself, enjoy the break from ttc!

triple You are a brave person planning to go and see a new baby the day after your ERPC! Especially with such an emotionally-loaded situation... Are you sure you want to do that?! Surely there are other ways to keep yourself busy!

just Good luck

My counselling session today wasn't as 'comfortable' as the last one... We talked a lot about how I deal with bereavement (not just the mcs, but in general) and how I tend to keep things bottled up inside. It made me face the fact that I am not good at sharing with DH how I felt/feel about my mcs after they had happened, how I went back to my everyday life. And that I really need to talk more with DH how I feel about ttc and him not being more proactive. And I also came to the realisation that I honestly don't know how DH felt/feels about the mcs - we talk about them when they happen, and he is so supportive, but we never discuss them again, once we go back to 'normal'. In a selfish way, I felt that I didn't want to have to deal with his grief as well as my own.
Thing is, I knew this all along, but am too chicken to admit it to myself...

Well that's true..its a fairly arbitrary date really. I used to remember all the LMP dates too..but just don't think I can keep up with it all! Thanks Baking.

Thanks all, didn't notice the next page just now. Yes I remember the months.

triple its an awfully long wait you've had for the erpc..weeks isn't it? Poor you.

cloudjumper I posted something earlier about keeping things bottled up..sometimes it seems like the simplest way to get on with life. Its got to be different for men, I think, though I hate to generalise. And as far as I can tell they react very differently to women - my OH at least, would happily never discuss any of the losses again, I think. I hope the counselling helps. Do you think you will broach the subject with him?

Cloudjumper, nice name change, but I have to remind myself you're our JBrd! I don't think I know much about how DH feels about the MCs either. I resent the way he can just carry on being a brick, even though he's doing it to keep us all going. And I have a mental health background! If anyone should be able to talk about feelings it's me...

I've not wanted to post, because I feel like I'm becoming a right bloody drama queen, but I guess these are anxious times in Tanny Towers. I'm having some symptom drop off, and it's been a few days now. Less sick, more energy mainly. No more noticeable movement, but I am less concerned about that. Of course it could be that I am less sick as the placenta takes over, but I haven't experienced it this early in my successful pgs, and with my history I'm jumpy as hell. I called EPAC this morning, and they made me cry with being so lovely. They've invited me in for a reassurance scan in the morning, even if they have to make something up to get me in.

My DH is in Edinburgh, so my neighbour is coming with me in case it's bad news.

Hate this.

Oh Tanny. I am so sorry to hear you're anxious. I was about to post about the placenta taking over when I read you had thought of that. I really think it'll be ok but am glad you're getting the scan and I have everything crossed for you. Hugs. Xx

Oh Tanny, thinking of you, hope all is well and its just a good old dose of paranoia. ((hugs)) xx

Hugs for you, tanny. Remember that every pregnancy is different, you can't compare them. Hopefully, the scan will give you some reassurance xx

Tanny I hope you get some sleep and they get you in early in the morning. Everything crossed that it is just part of the normal cycle of symptoms xx

Good luck with the scan tanny. We'll all be with you in spirit. Remember things often do change at around 10 weeks so that's probably the only reason why! I'm glad EPU are being supportive and kind, it really helps.

Sorry I've lost the thread with everyone but I am thinking of you all. Been in an emotional black hole since treatment failed but slowly digging myself back out.

Hugs to you all xxx

Cat. Keep strong. It's not failed yet, just taking a little longer to work. Did AF arrive? I Am feeling icky with mine but still pretty stable emotionally. Starting to feel like me again. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for listening, advising and reassuring me over the last few horrible weeks. Felt I was sinking into craziness and you were there when I needed you. I won't forget it. Xx

Bless you longest you've been through such a lot and are being so brave. You're here for all of us 100% and we want to do the same for you. I wish we all lived closer and could meet up. Maybe one day we will!

AF still hasn't come and temp is still right up. I'm tempted to test again but just hate seeing BFN lol. DH helped me fish the out the remnants of the Cronine last night to see if that can help, it was utterly gross but funny haha!

XxX

tanny crossing everything for you this morning. Hope you are reassured.

cat it's not over till.......

Thanks for the kind words everyone

triplespin the NHS only test after 3 MCs, and this was my 2nd.They said results will take 2-3months to come back so I'm hoping I will have another BFP before that anyway.

justonemoretime I don't really know what's happening with the results. The surgeon didn't know, she said UCH don't get the results since it's private, that the company would get in touch directly with me. But she sais she'd follow up & give me a ring in the next few days. She was really great. I'm hoping for a regular AF this time, it was exactly 28 days after my natural MC but I wasn't sure whether it would be this time, after the ERPC. FC!

cloudjumper re your counselling, did you go to a fertility-specific therapist, or a general one? I'm thinking about finding one but it's such a hassle finding someone that you can "click" with

tanny good luck this AM x

Morning ladies,
Thinking of you today Tanny.

cat, Hang in there, sorry you're feeling low. Hopefully you can get some resolution to this cycle, move forward and feel better soon.

Longest, onwards and upwards with your new cycle!

Bootle, glad to hear that your scan showed that you are now 'clear'. I remember the frustration of being 'stuck' in recovery. Hope you get some answers soon from the testing. Enjoy the time out.

Cloudjumper, I hope that the counselling helps you in the long term, even if you have to 'unpack' some uncomfortable stuff first.

RE EDDs, two of mine are in the week leading up to Christmas, but last year it also coincided with my FIL's funeral. I was actually quite glad I didn't fall PG in March/April this year as it gives us a reasonable chance at a happy Christmas this year! The main one I have is the first, which is June, but that's mostly because DH's best friend's wife had their second the same week, so seeing their little boy always makes me think. It makes me remember, but doesn't get me down.

My temp is still low... dtd again last night. We're off on holiday (camping, festival) tomorrow and have friends staying tonight so that might need to be it, unless I can seduce him at lunchtime, too. I'm also getting a cold. Hopefully the holiday will take my mind off it and I can chill out about the 2ww (if it ever starts!). I can only think that my being more relaxed due to school holidays and extra acupuncture sessions and fertility reflexology + the hypnotherapy sessions and recordings I have been listening to at night have been the reason for the delayed ov; normally it's predictable as clockwork, but it's been about 5 days late this month. Hmmm.

Tanny hope your scan goes well. how many weeks are you now?

cloud yep, counselling does open up a few cans of worms before things get better... i also tend to bottle it all up and be the "strong" one. After my first ERPC i went to work 2 days later... and that isn't good...

with my DH we have talked about the mcs more only after the 4th... after the first 3 we never really talked much...

last night i got a bit worried as there was a slight pink tinge when i wiped, but it was just the once and there was nothing on the pad and nothing more on the paper since then...

nothing more i can do other than continue the treatment...

in my worried and addled brain it is because yesterday I forgot the morning cyclogest and as I had a pack of the 400mgs in my bag still i put one of those in at work when i remembered (10am) instead of my usual 200mg at 7am...

i don't know... and won't know either... oh hum...

Good luck to everyone on their 2ww... and un-MN hugs to the ones just finishing off their latest mc...

Good luck Tanny. Thinking of you.

And cat too. With dd I was still getting BFNs until AF was 8 days late. Who knows why but it drove me crazy!

Heh heh Just. Tents are romantic too, no?

Appointment this afternoon! Have high hopes for some sort of resolution but am prepared to be disappointed.

I think AF is starting ladies! Really pleased as know I'm not pregnant and I just want to get started with my meds again. XxX

bah, sorry cat but glad you're feeling better. am hoping to join you trying this month if i get the go ahead this afternoon.

Hi all. I have been on and off these threads for a while now, so I see some familiar names ( how do JBd, bakingtins, tanny, et al).
I have had 2 mc and one med term. No dc, in my thirties(by the skin of my teeth).

I need a bit of advice. We have been ttc again. AF due todayish. In all my previous pregnancies I knew I was up duffed before poas. The sore tits and massive thirst being the giveaways. I have never had morning sickness.
Right now boobs are a bit tender, but nothing out of the ordinary. I may be a bit thirstier, but again nothing out of the ordinary. I am feeling nauseous, have been for the last two days, but feels like heartburn. This has never been a symptom of pregnancy for me. I feel like my body is giving me mixed messages.

Don't want to poas too early, don't want to know if it is a chemical. So ladies, wwyd? To pee or not to pee, that is the question?

Good luck longest for today and thanks for the advice. Hope it goes well!

Cat - sorry AF is here but at least you can now start to look forward to next cycle on the meds!

Aoife - I have never been able to resist poas and also i would want to know even if it's a chemical as it should be counted in mcs. Hope you decide what's best for you.

Tanny - sorry you are having the wobbles! I hope everything goes well at the scan.

Tiny - all the best for next week

Hello Aoife. I am with Triple. Should have taken out shares in pg tests years ago. I admire your restraint. Good luck! Are you on any form of treatment? xx

Tiny - sorry, only just saw your post. Please try not to worry about a tiny bit of pink. I am the first to panic at bleeding but that honestly is nothing. Know the whole of early pregnancy is one long panic though in our circumstances. hugs x