Recurrent Miscarriage Support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 9

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Welcome everyone - pull up a chair! A thread for anyone who has suffered multiple miscarriages and is in need of information, moral support, tea or sympathy. Newbies very welcome.

Can we start the thread with a recap of where we are all up to again, please?

Triple sorry, I missed your earlier post. Wow! Your head must be spinning!

Tanny, still got one more month on the day 21 to 28 progesterone, ov'ing as we speak. Trying to stay level headed and sane in the hope that obsessing is the problem. As it is, its now over a year since I last got pg. Feel like I can't get arrested at the moment... please send me positive vibes

Ooh just sending vibes your way. Hope you're at it right now!

Tanny, lol no, I was snoozing . Going for the 'every other day' strategy this month as part of my 'be cool' approach. I'm sure that over obsessing hasn't been helping. We shall see...

triple head spinning indeed! I'm glad you are finally getting some answers and can start getting a plan together.

just good news in a way, think of a life without lovely toast, pain au chocolat, pasta.... I know you must be frustrated not to get any answers.

Good news just and squiz

and triple glad you have some answers and hope your plan of action works...

I have now finished AF so need to start tracking ovulation. first time I did it as before my DD i got pregnant easily, it was the keeping part that was the issue, but I think it should be straight forward enough...
then shall book with Prof Q

It will be a lean Summer with all these expenses. Just paid the nursery fees for next year (September to July) in Advance as that saved us £600 but it meant raiding the savings, making sure to leave the £400 for Proff Q's appointment...

Hello, lovely, good to hear from you and that all is going well!

The tests after my 3rd mc also confirmed me and DH being completely normal, so I'll join you with that, just And I don't hold much hope that they will find anything this time round either... Other than me being old and, therefore, my eggs aren't in good shape anymore. But no one has actually said that to me yet!

I'm still trying to get my head round of what to do next. Once we get the results from the post mortem in a few weeks. Options are so far - a) try again and hope to be lucky b) look into the NK cell testing or c) look into adoption... I don't think that fertility treatment is an option, unless they can tell us specifically that we would have a good chance with it. But I can't see how it could work - I can fall pregnant, no problem, it's the staying pregnant that's the issue. Not sure that fertility treatment would make a difference there.

In the meantime, I am throwing myself into preparations for DS's birthday on Saturday, he'll be 3 (and is a little monster and super-cute at the same time!). Trying not to over-compensate by buying him loads of stuff... In the process of making a cake for him - it will have a dragon, although I am still clueless about how to get it done!

www.instructables.com/id/Fire-Breathing-Dragon-Cake!!/

Glad to hear it's not just me that totally over-compensates with elaborate birthdays!

Baking that's brilliant!

I've just bought a rabbit, how's that for "sorry I haven't got a baby for you yet, will this do for now?"

My Prof Q appointment is next Friday afternoon. Gulp.

Tanny you'll be fine, everyone at the clinic is nice. Maybe take a paracetamol just before as I found it uncomfortable and a bit crampy afterwards. Not too bad tho.
Baking, loving that cake!!

Awful awful day. Girl in work who sits behing me had a sudden and dramatic miscarriage. Blood everywhere, really public. I went to a&e with her, and told her my story. I know how much it means to feel like someone really gets it. Odd thing is, she is not someone I gel with. I had given some tough feedback about her and we had spoken about it earlier. We had probably our first ever honest conversation. I am so glad I was nice to her. I could have been a cow, she had given me some cause, but she was open and I offered her understanding and support. Fast forward three hours and I was in an ambulance with her as she lost her baby. Feeling quite raw now, but ultimately so glad I could be there for her. I can't imagine how tough it will be for her to come back to work. Any tips on how to support her?

Aiofe, sounds like you did an excellent job supporting her. :)

Aoife just being able to understand will be good.
She mght take a while off, but when she comes back just ask how she is doing and let her choose to talk about it or not...

Tanny good luck next week.

I think I will be ovulating late next week so should have my appointment there in 2-ish weeks...

Jbird Hope the post mortem is useful. The not knowing is so draining - you just don't know whether to try again or what. Have heart the NK cell tests are good, they do the whole range of tests if you go with Prof Q (am a bit wary of some promises-promises private clinics, but am a cynic).
Enjoy the party tomorrow! :) DH brought me a flier for a children's cake company and told me it might be 'useful for next year' what is he trying to say about my baking ability LOL!?! ;) TBH my cakes taste OK but look loaf shaped and brown. I don't do party cake.

Tanny Cute bunny! Yay! Best of luck with the tests. I think even if they 're stressful they also give such a mental boost.

Aoife Poor girl. Good thing you were with her.

Aoife it sounds traumatic, but thank goodness you were able to provide such great support. I haemorrhaged with my second MC, and it's so scary. I thought I was going to die, seriously, and could see the panic in the faces of medical staff. I imagine she'll be incredibly nervous about returning to work, and you being around might really help. All my colleagues knew I'd MCed and were lovely to me.

Tiny, I'll graffiti in the toilets! We ought to request a MN message board in the waiting area..

Just I will go armed with paracetamol and chocolate.

Squiz the bunny is very sweet but the dog thinks we bought it for him. Lovely to have something new to cuddle, although the four kids, two cats one dog and one hubby should be enough for a girl

Baby Faith arrived at 00.50 this morning , 2 weeks early, weighing 5lb3oz . Both fine, have to stay in to monitor blood sugars as she is early/ small. V happy.

Congrats baking! How lovely and what a lovely name! Hope your doing well and hope faith is too :)

Tanny-how cute and good luck for appt. let us know what she says. I think there's 2 of us here going to see queen by and my to shehata so will be interesting to see what era prescribed!

Aoife-how awful for your colleague. I'm sure having someone who understands what she's going through was a huge help.

Sorry I've dissapered everyone! I as expected have still got retained products 3 weeks later and so if still there next week def need another d and c. It's really dragging on this time will have been a month since I knew about the miscarriage and it's still not over
Lots of work people have just annouced their pregnancies. I'm happy for them, but I can't help but feel sad for me. They are due the same week I was too. It's going to be hard for me at work now but I'm just going to have to deal with it. Just had a little cry at my desk when no one was looking. It's really hard sometimes isn't it girls?
Anyways I have till mid July before seeng shehata
Have lovely bank holidays everyone and massive congrats again bakings-u got there :)

Jbrd happy day for ur ds! And hope the cake turned out well!

Congratulations baking!!

Oh Baking that's wonderful news. So happy for you. Give her a big squeeze from her virtual aunties xxx

baking!! Congratulations and a warm welcome to the world for baby Faith!

Happy happy news, I am actually welling up at my desk at work at the moment What a journey you have been on! Hope all is well with you and that you will be able to go home soon. Enjoy those precious newborn cuddles xxxx

aiofe Wow, that must have been really tough, well done you! I'm sure that your colleague is very grateful that you were there for her and that you understand how she feels/will be feeling. Maybe just reassure her that you are there if she needs to talk? I found that kind of message always very comforting.

Good luck tanny Let us know how you get on at your appointment.

trying How rubbish - it's awful if this gets dragged out for so long, when all you want to do is move on. Hope that things resolve without you needing another ERPC!
Oh, yes, it is so so hard.

I've been having quite a few emotional moments...luckily, usually in the car to/from work, triggered by music on the radio . And then I'm very prone to rage at work, esp as one of our clients is being really difficult at the moment Need to be careful, as I have my appraisal next week.

I'm very much looking forward to the long weekend - just focussing on DS and spoiling him rotten. BTW, the dragon cake is under way... DS is obsessed with How To Train Your Dragon at the moment, so I will be needing my non-existent modelling skills to make a figurine of Toothless

baking so pleased for you!! You will be missed as you get more busy with looking after the new arrival.

jbrd it must be tough being back at work. But great you are focusing all negative energies towards the client . You are very ambitious to be making the cake yourself. Homemade is always the best, though I always succumb to paying for it as I cannot ice to save my life.

trying its awful that you are still with retained products. how many weeks since mc has it been? I hope you can avoid the d and c.

tiny and tanny good luck with the appointment. Do let us know how you get on.

Some more good news here. My colleague was scanned, and the baby is ok. No idea how she lost lots of bright red blood with clots.

Baking much congrats to you too. Give faith a squeeze from us all.

Aoife-wow! That's great news for her. I bet she's really relieved.

Triplespin it's been 3 weeks and been bleeding every day since. So scan at 4 weeks and then d and c if still there which I'm sure it will be.

Jbrd - I know wot you mean about the radio. When are the results back by the way?