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Recurrent Miscarriage Support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 9

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bakingtins · 19/01/2014 07:41

Welcome everyone - pull up a chair! A thread for anyone who has suffered multiple miscarriages and is in need of information, moral support, tea or sympathy. Newbies very welcome.

Can we start the thread with a recap of where we are all up to again, please?

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Handsfullandlovingit · 31/01/2014 16:34

Thank you so much all. If the GP will recognise this as a loss, it is definitely sensible to test now. DH is really resistant so I will have to give him a big beer and a hug and show him this thread to see if it changes his mind. I wouldn't be forgiven for testing on my own. We will both need a big hug, whatever the outcome! This is a proper head this ttc after mc.

squizita · 31/01/2014 16:38

Hands Yes, one of mine was very early. But the GP knew hence the NHS viewed it as a MC.
...But then again, statistically more likely will be your GP will find out early, so you'll feel a bit more looked after and then 9 months after that you will have a baby! :) Posifrickentivity! FX!

Handsfullandlovingit · 31/01/2014 19:41

BFP. Thank you for the wise words. I'm all of a wibble.

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bakingtins · 31/01/2014 19:44

Congratulations handsfull Smile

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TinyTear · 31/01/2014 20:42

Congrats. Join us in the September October RM thread as well. Link above... Can't copy now

JBrd · 31/01/2014 20:54

Handsful YES! I knew it! Fab news!

nearlyreadytopop · 31/01/2014 21:08

congrats handsSmile

TaytoCrisp · 31/01/2014 21:40

Nice one hands. Congratulations! Bring out the rose lemonade!

squizita · 01/02/2014 09:21

Hands Congratulations! :)

tannyLoo · 01/02/2014 22:31

Handsful come and join us in the limbo that is the gap between ttc and being pg proper. It's lovely news that you got your bfp, I hope you're not too anxious still trying to work out how much is too anxious myself and get through these early days ok.

Purplefrogshoe · 02/02/2014 10:27

Hi everyone, congrats hands

I'm really starting to freak out, AF now really late, I thought maybe the vit b complex had made my cycle longer but woke up this morning with really sore boobs and still no AF! Really freaking out that my mole has regrown, I'm due to do a pee test tonight but I won't get the results until Thursday at the earliest Sad

Notgivingup1 · 02/02/2014 10:54

purple sorry I really don't know about this but wanted to send you hugs. Could you be pregnant? I do know that vitamin b can lengthen your cycle. Hope you get reassuring answers ASAP

squizita · 02/02/2014 10:57

Purple after I had reached under 2 on my HCG bloods, I was taking vitamin B and my cycles got longer. I also had awful PMT symptoms. Hope it's that for you! FX. Mine stayed at 0 was all good.

Purplefrogshoe · 02/02/2014 11:20

Thanks, don't think I could be pregnant as really careful, I'm puzzled as to why consultant put me on vit b complex as I already have 31 day cycle ! Really hoping its pmt Hmm

DownstairsMixUp · 02/02/2014 14:53

Congratulations sweetpea on your pregnancy :)

bakingtins I am very jealous of your time away, I do love a Costa's! Sounds like you had a fab time. Will have to get up to Stratford myself one day, it's not too far from where I am originally from so could do it when visiting home!

tayto I have told work (didn't particuarly want to) but kept getting bad sickness and have been off twice. You don't have to tell them till like 15 weeks or something isn't it?

Agree with everyone else handsfull defintely tell so your all on the system. Congrats on the BFP!

I have had terrible sickness, saw the midwife and I'm going to go GP as I've had two days off work now, not good. She's also referred me to go on aspirin as my last sucessful pregnancy i had pre eclampsia. I feel OK. Feelign a bit anxious as it's been a while since I saw the baby. Only thing keeping me happy is feeling sick and tired but still worried about another mmc. Hope everyones ok!

duvetheaven · 03/02/2014 14:19

Hi all
Just wondered if there is anything else I should be doing
MMC (2006)
MC - 2007
DD - 2008 - completely uneventful pregnancy : )
I now have a new partner and Oct 2013 MC at 6 weeks and Jan 2014 just had a 'chemical ' pregnancy as I tested early and then had a late pregnancy so there was a conception. I have reported this to the GP so in the event of a 3rd MC I could be referred for tests. I have acupuncture once a month.
Bakingtins - I noted your post about Prof Quenby - I am thinking about this? I am 43 years .
Any ideas welcome for tests or increasing my chances of a pregnancy working out?

duvetheaven · 03/02/2014 14:20

line 7 about should be late period not late pregnancy

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bakingtins · 03/02/2014 16:08

Hi duvet welcome to the thread and sorry for all you've been through. It's worth speaking to the GP now about referral even if you strictly speaking don't meet the NHS criteria, I went private to see a consultant after my third (but not third in a row) MC and GP was then happy to perform many of the tests on the NHS. You can self refer to see Prof Q, but her tests are quite specific for implantation problems (NK cells and poor development of uterine lining) and would normally only be done in women who have had the all clear on the standard testing first.

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duvetheaven · 03/02/2014 16:37

Thanks bakingtins. I went to the GP recently about a different mater and she could see from my notes the recent two Mc's but gave me the 'well you have had one child so the MC's must be bad luck ' - paraphrasing. When I went to the local EPU back in October she said try baby aspirin but she said that to me without doing any tests. I did try it for recent pregnancy but now perhaps that was a mistake. Hmm, I am not hopeful that I will be given the NHS testing now but it is worth a try? A shame my GP did not suggest that when I saw her last week! Hope 2014 is our year for all on this thread! Thanks again .

katieash76 · 03/02/2014 17:32

Hi all, had another erpc today as my miscarriage was not getting going on its own. Second erpc in less than 3 months. Hospital gave us results today from the product testing from the last erpc which showed that all was normal. This implies to me that it is something with me that is causing my 7 losses if the product results are all normal. Last time after erpc we ttc straight away when we could but we're going to leave it this time, at least until after we see prof regan at end of march. My body has been through a lot in last 12 months, natural miscarriage, 2 erpc, and a delivery at over 18 weeks. I need an emotional and physical break.

Sorry for essay, just needed to vent!

Justonemoretime · 03/02/2014 17:40

Katie, hope you're recovering is straightforward, and you get some answers soon. Take care of yourself. (Hugs)

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bakingtins · 03/02/2014 17:56

katie Flowers hope your physical recovery is quick. I can't remember if you have had all the standard tests, but this was what prompted me to start down the immune testing route (NHS tests all normal then lost another baby that was tested as perfect)
I hope Prof Regan has some answers for you. A break to recover a bit sounds like a good idea.

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Notgivingup1 · 03/02/2014 18:45

Katie so sh@! what you have been through. Hope you are able to take some time off work and recover. I think waiting to have some further tests is a good idea although I know that can be a hard decision to make. I did feel much better physically for having the summer 'off' last year. I also felt that I needed a plan for next time. Hugs and let us know how you are

katieash76 · 03/02/2014 19:26

Thanks everyone for your support and kind words. No one in real life understands any of this and I do get a lot of "at least you can get pregnant easily" and also "at least you have one child". And while I am SO grateful to have a DS I would so love another one.

After my last erpc I had week off work (i am a secondary teacher) then got an infection and had another couple days off. Mentioned to my DH about going to work for a bit tomorrow and he was less than impressed but think I will probably go back Wednesday. My work are always very understanding but I get guilty and the longer I have off the more work I have to do when I return.

Baking, I've had blood tests on Nhs which we get results for at the end of this month. Going to prof regan because Nhs said after blood tests nothing else they can do if they come back normal so we wanted to book in prof regan in case bloods fine. Also not too impressed with my hospital, today was 3rd time I asked about previous erpc results and only got them because a lovely young doctor took pity on me and rang up to get them. Everyone else has just gone "results probably not back yet".

Justonemoretime · 03/02/2014 19:30

Katie I'm a secondary teacher too (because life's not challenging enough) and I was told that school insurance wouldn't cover me for 48 hrs after a general anaesthetic. Put your feet up and maybe plan a few lessons if it takes your mind off things (it can help if you are dwelling) but do take care of yourself and take the time you need to recover.