Recurrent Miscarriage Support - tests, treatment, trying again - thread 9

[bakingtins]

Welcome everyone - pull up a chair! A thread for anyone who has suffered multiple miscarriages and is in need of information, moral support, tea or sympathy. Newbies very welcome.

Can we start the thread with a recap of where we are all up to again, please?

TIAP and Downstairs our ADD in the same week I think! Fingers firmly crossed.

So we have 2 for the 6th/7th September and 2 for the 6th/7th October

Good luck to all of us!!

Lots of bump buddies - 4+4 here, my ADD is 3rd October

Although this should all probably be discussed in the antenatal thread, I'm feeling a bit mean going over all the pg stuff on here

Shall we create an October antenatal Micarriage group? we did that in June 14 and that is where I met tanny

Here it goes

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1982977-RM-OCTOBER-2014-thread-Today-we-are-pregnant

Jbrd it feels far too soon to step out of this safety net.

Although I do feel in a bit of a limbo, not knowing where to take all my paranoid rantings concerns...

Tiny you star!

I created the Oct one (but Septemberites, feel free to join) as it might be better to be at similar levels... x

Thanks-joined. :)

just checking in, hope everyone is doing ok?
I had my booking appointment this morning and was a nervous wreck. The lovely midwife did a quick hb scan before we started to reassure me. Everything looks good, edd 2nd sept.

Great news nearly!

My add is 1 oct, I will check out the antenatal thread too.

Hi everyone. This thread was great while ttc ds.
I'm now pg again, just 4wks, but terrified about mc again. I was under rmc clinic last pg but no reason was found for my 3 mcs (2 of them mmcs). Not sure if I'll be able to relax any more in this pg than the last one! I'm hoping to be able to get a reassurance scan around 6-8 weeks. Dr was great last time she scanned me every week.

Hi everyone, I'm back. Welcome to newbies, congratulations to tiny , welcome back and congratulations to peapod, and hello to everyone else! A lot has happened in the last few days....
Had a lovely couple of days in Stratford with DH going into lots of shops you couldn't possible take a 3 yr old into, drinking hot chocolate in Costa, bought the contents of Waterstones and stayed in a very posh hotel.

Welcome back baking, break sounds fab! And now the weekend is here - well planned!

So I'm trying to decide whether to tell my boss that I'm pregnant.. I know it seems ridiculously earlier but...

On the positive side - I can let her know why I need to bunk off next week on an as of yet unconfirmed day for scan and consultation; and why I'll have a number of "hospital apps" in the coming weeks / mths (if all well). She is very empathic, and while I don't know her well enough to call her a friend I am sure she would understand.

On the negative side - it just seems way to early to tell her as only three other people know including DH. And that's 2 more than would usually know at ths very early stage!!! it might seem like over-sharing at this stage...

Tayto, its a personal decision, of course, but I find it easier to be up front with my work as I'd rather they knew why I was running off all the time to hospital! If your boss is reasonable and nice, I'd be inclined to tell. Good luck with whatever you decide.
Baking, welcome back. Glad you had a nice time.

Tayto I told mine. She knows about my losses so is aware it's "high risk". She was very understanding and said she'd do the official paperwork etc' after week 12 (very positive bless) but I should go to appointments as required.

Tayto I told my boss when I was only 5wks with ds. He knew I had previous mcs so he needed to know incase I ended up at hosp again.
Not going to tell them so early this time as I'm still on mat leave so not sure whether to tell them before I go back or when I go back. I'll hopefully be nearly 17 weeks so definitely showing I'd imagine.

Congrats on all the BFP's and hello to all the newbies! I have a question about vitamins, can anyone help? I have always had 31 day cycles but my consultant has put me on vit b complex and high dose vit d (2500) but ever since I've been taking them my cycle one day longer each month, now currently 34 days and no AF!! Is this because of the vib b?

I usually tell my boss around 6 weeks ish as because of previous mcs I want him to know...

Hey - this is the first time I have told work early, and again it is because I need them to understand that I may have to leave early/work from home and also because I don't want the added stress of sneaking around. She also knows about previous miscarriages.

Thanks so much ladies. That has reassured me - I will tell her. It feels like the right thing for me to do this time.

Hello, I hope you don't mind if I pop in from the posifrikentivity ttc board? I have two dcs under 5 and since have had a mc at 5 weeks and a mmc at 12 weeks and erpc.

whispers I am late. 20 days post ovulation, on day 31 of what is normally at 25 day cycle.

We have been telling ourselves to hold off testing until its obvious, to protect ourselves. Better a late period than an early loss right?

But if I got a bfp and started bleeding say next week, would the NHS class that as a miscarriage? I would have my 3 in the bag you can now have investigations pass.

What would you do? Thank you so much.

if you get a good GP yes, they would count it...

My second one was a bit weird as there was hardly any time betwen 1 and 2 so when I had the 3rd my GP refered me straight away. i used to say that one was a half, but she counted it as a proper one and i got my referral

although when i count now, I don't count a chemical i had in March last year but i have 4 ones, so don't need to...

hands Test, and if you get a BFP, make an appointment with your GP and/or midwife straight away - then you are on the system as being pg, and if (heaven forbid) anything bad happens, you will be down with 3 MCs.
Would be my advice, anyway.

agree with jbrd
Hopefully you won't need the rmc tests but better to have it recorded.